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nucleargirl
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is it a good enough reason to break up a relationship because you don't find the other person good-looking 100% of the time and find them annoying sometimes?
sometimes the relationship is 100% perfect (20-30% of the time). but...
sometimes:
you find the other person annoying (10% of the time)
you don't like the way the other person looks and have doubts about having kids with them (5% of the time)
you don't find them physically attractive... so that you don't want to do anything (5% of the time)
But the other person is a really great person - you respect them and trust them (99% of the time)
but they have some habits you dislike - you percieve them as controlling and patronising (3% of the time)
but you think they can change... and would possibly wait a year or two... but you have already waited 2 years and things have not gotten better.
you want them in your life no matter what. but you know if you broke up you would eventually lose them to their eventual new partner.
But you don't want to marry them right now or in next 2 years (90% of the time). you're not sure about moving in with them partly because it would make it harder to break up (50% moving in, 20% breaking up harder)
you THINK you should break up because its not fair on them to be with you as you're not 100% in love with them. But you FEEL sad when you think about it and you don't want to be without them.
what to do?
sometimes the relationship is 100% perfect (20-30% of the time). but...
sometimes:
you find the other person annoying (10% of the time)
you don't like the way the other person looks and have doubts about having kids with them (5% of the time)
you don't find them physically attractive... so that you don't want to do anything (5% of the time)
But the other person is a really great person - you respect them and trust them (99% of the time)
but they have some habits you dislike - you percieve them as controlling and patronising (3% of the time)
but you think they can change... and would possibly wait a year or two... but you have already waited 2 years and things have not gotten better.
you want them in your life no matter what. but you know if you broke up you would eventually lose them to their eventual new partner.
But you don't want to marry them right now or in next 2 years (90% of the time). you're not sure about moving in with them partly because it would make it harder to break up (50% moving in, 20% breaking up harder)
you THINK you should break up because its not fair on them to be with you as you're not 100% in love with them. But you FEEL sad when you think about it and you don't want to be without them.
what to do?