Well, actually you can. Carroll even refers to this ( the physicists who say total energy is exactly zero). The disagreement is on whether such universal approaches are physically meaningful. A substantial majority of physicists think they are not, in contrast to ADM energy which has a clear physical meaning when it is definable - so it is universally accepted ( but does not apply in cosmological solutions).
An example of a universal approach (that most would claim isn't meaningful - but not clearly wrong) is:
https://arxiv.org/abs/gr-qc/9701028
[note: in later work Gibbs has provided answers to the questions open in this early presentation, demonstrating complete generality. What he has not done is convince any significant number of physicists of the relevance of this work]
An older universally definable energy is the non covariant stress energy pseudo-tensor, which is always conserved by construction. Again, the main criticism of this is not wrongness, but lack of well defined meaning plus lack of covariance. There is a small school of physicists who argue that pseudotensor energy can be given well motivated physical meaning in harmonic coordinates, and this coordinate dependence is ok. This is clearly a minority opinion.