Dealing with Jealousy: How to Cope

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The discussion revolves around feelings of jealousy and admiration towards individuals perceived as superior in intelligence or beauty. Participants express a mix of emotions, acknowledging jealousy as a potentially harmful sentiment but emphasizing the importance of drawing inspiration from those who excel. Many advocate for self-improvement rather than comparison, suggesting that one can learn from more talented individuals without feeling threatened. The conversation also touches on the idea that true confidence comes from self-acceptance and recognizing one's own value, while some express a desire to be around humble, skilled people who do not flaunt their superiority. Overall, the thread highlights the complexities of human emotions regarding superiority and the potential for personal growth through admiration rather than envy.

How do you feel about others' superiority?

  • Eh, nobody is better than me. That's for sure! :cool:

    Votes: 12 36.4%

  • :devil::grumpy:

    Votes: 1 3.0%

  • I lose my confidence and feel bad about my life whole day.

    Votes: 1 3.0%

  • I understimate his superiority in the way that people and myself think s/he's not special at all.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • What the hell can I do? I just try not to think of that.

    Votes: 4 12.1%

  • Who cares? I just do my best to succeed at what I am good at.

    Votes: 17 51.5%

  • That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile:

    Votes: 6 18.2%

  • Huh? Does it really matter? :rolleyes:

    Votes: 10 30.3%

  • o:)

    Votes: 7 21.2%

  • :zzz:

    Votes: 9 27.3%
  • Total voters
    33
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So how do you feel about those people who're naturally superior to you? I mean those people who are smarter or prettier than you? Those who just draw attention to themselves when they step somewhere because of their beauty or make you admire their wisdom and intelligent when they say something?
 
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I have what i have, i am jealous of people that have more, but i know i work
as hard as i can to get my money so it is a small jealousy, and i do not really want much anyway.
 
People? Better then me?
 
Pengwuino said:
People? Better then me?

The possibilities are endless :rolleyes:
 
Hello Lisa,

Do you rank persons according to their intellect or appearance? What are your criteria then?

Jealousy can be "poisonous" and it's a safe bet that nothing good arises from it.

Whenever I meet other persons and notice that they have a certain "talent" so to speak I'm definitely not trying to let jealousy arise. The only thing I want to do is to draw inspiration from them and have a nice time. And in the end everyone is able to give something in return as well. :smile:

Finally: I didn't vote.

Well if you had put this smiley: -> :smile: on the list I might have not been able to resist. :wink:


Regards,

nazzard
 
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wolram said:
The possibilities are endless :rolleyes:

anythings possible...

but that's improbable...
 
Pengwuino said:
anythings possible...

but that's improbable...

Sherlock Holmes.:-p
 
I voted the same as the Penguin. Scary... :rolleyes:
 
J77 said:
I voted the same as the Penguin. Scary... :rolleyes:

Only i can vote for the greatest position. Get off.
 
  • #10
Work hard to be better than them, or accept that you can't and move on. That's my philosophy...at least, it is when I can help it...o:)
 
  • #11
One thing I've noticed is that I am the greatest person on this planet. Why is this? I stand for everything I believe in! Everything I would ever want in me is in me! I am perfect and I strive to be myself. It's a self-perpetuating confidence booster.
 
  • #12
People that vote for opption one are ego maniacs and by definition should be excluded
.
 
  • #13
Pengwuino said:
People? Better then me?
You're right! In your case penguins since it's not ok to compare things that almost has nothing to do with each other.:-p
 
  • #14
I find more-experienced people to be very useful friends (choice #7). I refrain from using "naturally superior" or "inferior" - seems meaningless, even pathological.
 
  • #15
Lisa! said:
So how do you feel about those people who're naturally superior to you?

One shouldn't care about that, really...

I mean those people who are smarter or prettier than you?

I have met smarter people, again i don't care...BUT PRETTIER ? Nono, i have not yet met such people, sorry...

Those who just draw attention to themselves when they step somewhere because of their beauty or make you admire their wisdom and intelligent when they say something?

I only respect such people. I admire WA Mozart, Marlon Brando, Pete Sampras, Luciano Pavarotti and Jack Nicholson. These are my idols (for many years now) because i would want to be like them.

marlon
 
  • #16
I dislike arrogance I know that much, four people so far are currently trying to draw attention to their selves and away from their inferiority complexes, I think it's known as overcompensating :-p :biggrin:

I voted for don't really care that much, it's not like you can't work to improve yourself using someone else as your inspiration.
 
  • #17
So Lisa, what's this all about, some new girl in class ?

I admire WA Mozart, Marlon Brando, Pete Sampras, Luciano Pavarotti and Jack Nicholson. These are my idols (for many years now) because i would want to be like them.
You want to be a tennis superstar in a movie and compose and sing an opera for the background score ? Hmm.. not bad at all .:smile:

I voted "Who cares? I just do my best to succeed at what I am good at."
 
  • #18
arunbg said:
You want to be a tennis superstar in a movie and compose and sing an opera for the background score ? Hmm.. not bad at all .:smile:
:smile:
Yep, that's about it...you just defined the very essence of my life

marlon
 
  • #19
I am the best.
 
  • #20
Gagan A said:
I am the best.
Clearly a case of "lack of inspiration".

marlon
 
  • #21
Schrodinger's Dog said:
I dislike arrogance I know that much, four people so far are currently trying to draw attention to their selves and away from their inferiority complexes, I think it's known as overcompensating :-p :biggrin:

Make that 5 of us

I mean them...
 
  • #22
Pengwuino said:
Make that 5 of us

I mean them...
:smile:

OK, imagine if you could do a test to show that you were in fact better than everyone else, they could call it the J test, or the Jesus test :smile:
 
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  • #23
Schrodinger's Dog said:
:smile:

ok, imagine if you could do a test to show that you were in fact better than everyone else, they could call it the J test, or the Jesus test :)

I invented the jesus test
 
  • #24
I think it's awesome, but I find myself to be very unique. It would be very rare that I find someone like me but better.

I can get a tad jealous if someone gets better grades or makes a little bit more money, but I think too happy with myself to make anything of it. I can try and point out a negative about the person to bring myself up, like he's not as good looking or something stupid. I don't even do that. It's like I'm already aware that I'm good.
 
  • #25
I don't poitn out negative things because its much easier to point out all the perfect things about me. I am perfect. Arguing it is futile. All hail penguin! All hail penguin! Hail! Hail!
 
  • #26
Pengwuino said:
I don't poitn out negative things because its much easier to point out all the perfect things about me. I am perfect. Arguing it is futile. All hail penguin! All hail penguin! Hail! Hail!

Sure, it's easy to point out the positives when you don't have any. :-p

Just playing. :biggrin:
 
  • #27
I think most of hte #6 options really mean to put #3
 
  • #28
nazzard said:
Hello Lisa,

Do you rank persons according to their intellect or appearance? What are your criteria then?
It could be everything. Family, money, education,... And you as for me appearance and imtellect are what I usually notice when I meet someone!:blushing:
Jealousy can be "poisonous" and it's a safe bet that nothing good arises from it.
:approve:


Anyone a victim of jealousy here?:rolleyes:
Whenever I meet other persons and notice that they have a certain "talent" so to speak I'm definitely not trying to let jealousy arise. The only thing I want to do is to draw inspiration from them and have a nice time. And in the end everyone is able to give something in return as well. :smile:

Finally: I didn't vote.

Well if you had put this smiley: -> :smile: on the list I might have not been able to resist. :wink:


Regards,

nazzard
You could choose "That would be nice to make friend with him/her. :smile:"

arunbg said:
So Lisa, what's this all about, some new girl in class ?
I am THAT new girl. Well at work NOT class...:-p
 
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  • #29
Pengwuino said:
I think most of hte #6 options really mean to put #3
Now you're going to make me jealous of a thinker penguin...o:)
 
  • #30
nazzard said:
Whenever I meet other persons and notice that they have a certain "talent" so to speak I'm definitely not trying to let jealousy arise. The only thing I want to do is to draw inspiration from them and have a nice time. And in the end everyone is able to give something in return as well. :smile:

Finally: I didn't vote.
Same here. I try to learn from others, and emulate their best characteristics. When I meet or work with someone who is exceptionally bright and productive, I try to learn what they do that makes them so. I can't artificially increase my IQ, but I can morph my work habits to be more productive and more effective. When I meet someone on the motocross track who is faster and smoother than I am (happens a lot, I'm afraid), I watch and learn and get a little faster myself.

I didn't vote either -- you omitted the choice that nazzard and I would have made. :rolleyes:
 
  • #31
berkeman said:
Same here. I try to learn from others, and emulate their best characteristics. When I meet or work with someone who is exceptionally bright and productive, I try to learn what they do that makes them so. I can't artificially increase my IQ, but I can morph my work habits to be more productive and more effective. When I meet someone on the motocross track who is faster and smoother than I am (happens a lot, I'm afraid), I watch and learn and get a little faster myself.

I didn't vote either -- you omitted the choice that nazzard and I would have made. :rolleyes:
:bugeye:
I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile: " .
 
  • #32
Lisa! said:
:bugeye:
I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile: " .
No, not quite right. My instinct is not to befriend, necessarily, it is to improve myself in every way that I can. Imitation is a sincere form of flattery, but it is not necessarily linked to a desire for friendship.
 
  • #33
Hello Lisa,

Lisa! said:
:bugeye:
I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile: " .

Friendship develops over time. Yet admiration has never been a prerequisite for me to "start" the process. It can be anything really, but usually it starts with sharing/experiencing a nice moment together.


nazzard said:
:
Jealousy can be "poisonous" and it's a safe bet that nothing good arises from it.

Lisa! said:
Anyone a victim of jealousy here?

No I haven't been a victim of jealousy. I think one doesn't have to actually do all mistakes or feel the consequences from others doing them to tell right from wrong.

Regards,

nazzard
 
  • #34
nazzard said:
Hello Lisa,



Friendship develops over time. Yet admiration has never been a prerequisite for me to "start" the process. It can be anything really, but usually it starts with sharing/experiencing a nice moment together.
You're right! I should have added that option to the list as well.:blushing: I always think people whom I learn from or admire/respect a lot are my friends anyway.:smile:




No I haven't been a victim of jealousy. I think one doesn't have to actually do all mistakes or feel the consequences from others doing them to tell right from wrong.

Regards,

nazzard
Here I meant the victim of jealousy is the 1 whom others are jealous of him/her and you know how some stupid people react when they just see someone's superior to them.(spoiling that person onstead of improving their own lives:rolleyes: ) Well as for me I think that's great to be wit people who're better than you. You learn a lot and feel better about world.:smile:
 
  • #35
Hi Lisa :devil:

So, how do you feel about my superiority over you? :devil:
 
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  • #36
cyrusabdollahi said:
Hi Lisa :devil:

So, how do you feel about my superiority over you? :devil:

In love?:-p
 
  • #37
I chose option #1, but I must say that I am much cockier about it :smile:
 
  • #38
Lisa! said:
In love?:-p

Yeah, I love me too. :!)
 
  • #39
cyrusabdollahi said:
Yeah, I love me too. :!)
Does your narcissism have anything to do with your eyesight problem?:wink:
 
  • #40
Shouldn't you be cooking me some ghorme sabzi right now Miss smart mouth??
 
  • #41
11 napolean complexes, wow I wonder if it's statistically accurate that people with a penchant for physics have an overinflated opinion of themselves. 11 Jesus's and 40 normal people. That's a worrying statistic:-p

Oh why fight it I'm just marvelous you all aren't fit to stand in my shadow :wink::biggrin:

Thinking about it's just people in general that over egg their own pies, after all people who don't rarely get noticed.
 
  • #42
I enjoy spending time with nice and funny people, if they're smarter or funnier it's even better...

i don't feel threatened by other's superiority, i think some poeple have great gifts, and they make our world a better place to be in.

people who know their own value (with no underestimation or exaggeration), and have normal or above social skills are humble, and are fun to be with, you'd notice they are smarter/prettier/funnier/richer, but they don't make a big deal of it because they don't need to make people see it.

i like being around such people, and i hope i fall in this category too (though I've been told by two people that i sometimes petronize.. I'm not sure if it's just the way they interprete what i say though, because i never think I am better then anyone, when i ask for examples they say i have a certain expression or tone... nothing that i actually say... so i don't know what to make of it, i took a mental note to be aware of this.).
 
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  • #43
Don't compare yourself to others, it will make you jealous and vain.
 
  • #44
cyrusabdollahi said:
Shouldn't you be cooking me some ghorme sabzi right now Miss smart mouth??
Ghorme sabzi in summer? Anyway I think cooking is a waste of time. well I just cook for fun sometimes...
 
  • #45
Lisa! said:
Ghorme sabzi in summer? Anyway I think cooking is a waste of time. well I just cook for fun sometimes...

i like cooking for other people... it's the same kind of satisfaction i get from drawing for people or massaging them...
 
  • #46
fargoth said:
i like cooking for other people... it's the same kind of satisfaction i get from drawing for people or massaging them...
Do you just like it because you are doing that for others or you enjoy cooking itself?
 
  • #47
I never cook just for me... if I'm alone, i'll just make something that's easy to make, like spaghetti and suasages...
It's only when others eat with me that i cook something nice... last time was two days ago - i made some nice chicken slices in wine, a pie, andd we ate a watermelon for dessert :biggrin:

I like sharing and making things for others... it's very rewarding.
 

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