arusse02 said:
My confusion is that because the event horizon, like you said, is not even a thing, then how could it be oscillating?
Consider a point such that the distance from your left hand, to the point, to your right hand is 2m. The set of all such points forms an ellipsoid around your hands. Clap your hands together; the ellipsoid collapses into a sphere. Now clap your hands repeatedly and the surface oscillates smoothly between a sphere and an ellipsoid. All I need to do is put together an animation
showing that surface oscillating.
arusse02 said:
THe only thing I could think of with my admittedly limited understanding is that the event horizon shape is determined by the distribution of matter inside the black just like a gravitational field of a planet would be determined by the mass distribution of the material inside the planet.
The gravitational field depends on the stress-energy tensor, which includes mass, momentum, pressure, and angular momentum. And it doesn't only depend on what it is now ("now" is a slippery concept in GR), but on what it was elsewhere in the past. And the gravitational field affects the stress-energy distribution (loosely: matter moves due to gravity) which affects the gravitational field. It's the nature of that mutual interaction that makes GR maths hard.
arusse02 said:
However GR says there is no distribution of matter, it exists in a point.
There are two spinning singularities merging. The surface can't go directly from two smooth featureless spheres to one smooth featureless sphere - you never see that kind of discontinuous behaviour. It takes a while for the surface to transition from one state, that's all. It isn't due to matter slopping around, it's due to the history of how the singularities came together (see my previous paragraph).
Also, GR doesn't say that all mass is located at a point in a black hole. As
@PAllen says, the singularity is not part of the universe as modeled by GR. We assume that this is a failing of GR, since that doesn't make too much sense. But nevertheless, the interior of the black hole as modeled by GR is vacuum and its event horizon oscillates. You don't need matter slopping around.
arusse02 said:
Maybe you could explain how a merged singularity can produce an oscillating event horizon. It seems like once the black holes merge then the event horizon should be entirely spherical, not fluctuating between an ellipsoid and a sphere.
See above - it just takes a while for the two spheres to settle down into one.