Do women really look at a man's shoes?

[gravenewworld]

If so, what do they garner by them?

Today I bought my very first pair of very fine shoes. Hopefully they'll last a loooong time. I'm also just wondering if what they say is true, do mothers really tell their daughters to check out a man's shoes?

 

[Evo]

If so, what do they garner by them?

Today I bought my very first pair of very fine shoes. Hopefully they'll last a loooong time. I'm also just wondering if what they say is true, do mothers really tell their daughters to check out a man's shoes?

Normal women, no. Superficial women, I've known golddiggers that judge men by their shoes.

 

[Borg]

My wife checked out my shoes. She married me anyway.

 

[KiwiKid]

do mothers really tell their daughters to check out a man's shoes?

*looks at his own shoes* ...I certainly hope not.

 

[Monique]

Normal women, no. Superficial women, I've known golddiggers that judge men by their shoes.

I like to see a man that wears nice shoes, I don't consciously look at it though. A man that wears ugly white sportshoes all day long would put me off, it's a first impression thing.

 

[Containment]

Well if it's something you buy 20 pairs of a year you probably are an expert on the subject :)

 

[Adyssa]

You can't have fun in nice shoes!

 

[zoobyshoe]

Women pay attention to a man's whole wardrobe, not just the shoes.

 

[arildno]

Women pay attention to a man's whole wardrobe, not just the shoes.

From what I've heard, men in general couldn't care less about what women wear at all. That's why women are the superficial ones, men only cares about what lies beneath.

 

[Borek]

Do women really look at a man's shoes?

Only the shy ones.

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

From what I've heard, men in general couldn't care less about what women wear at all. That's why women are the superficial ones, men only cares about what lies beneath.

This describes me to a T. I don't care what a woman wears, I only care about what lies beneath.

 

[julcab12]

Well. Downright intimidating women (head-shoes-head) while shy type (shoes-head-shoes). Both' stare in the middle. Goes with guys also... Don't ask me why. "Head scratch"

 

[OMGCarlos]

@julcab12 lol interested, never thought about it like that.

Last summer I went outside to get grab something out of my car wearing my roommates pink flip flops with a flower on them. I figured I only have to walk ten feet down the hall, down three flights of stairs, and it's in the middle of the day so everyone is at work. Naturally a girl who lived in the first floor happened to be doing the same and sees the flowers.

She said "Nice flip flops?".

We're still dating.

 

[julcab12]

@julcab12 lol interested, never thought about it like that.

Last summer I went outside to get grab something out of my car wearing my roommates pink flip flops with a flower on them. I figured I only have to walk ten feet down the hall, down three flights of stairs, and it's in the middle of the day so everyone is at work. Naturally a girl who lived in the first floor happened to be doing the same and sees the flowers.

She said "Nice flip flops?".

We're still dating.

And chicks dig that!?... I..^^

 

[zoobyshoe]

From what I've heard, men in general couldn't care less about what women wear at all. That's why women are the superficial ones, men only cares about what lies beneath.

Yes, men are profound that way.

 

[Lisa!]

Normal women, no. Superficial women, I've known golddiggers that judge men by their shoes.

Shy women also look at a man's shoes!:shy:

 

[turbo]

In college, if I wasn't wearing nice broken-in running shoes, I was wearing broken-in work boots. One variation was when I was playing music, and I often wore cowboy boots. They were so comfortable to stand in - not so much for walking, though. If women were looking at my shoes, I probably got down-graded regularly by the shallow ones. That's OK.

 

[BhutJolokia]

I'm okay with any woman willing to judge me by my shoes keeping herself out of my life.

 

[dkotschessaa]

From what I've heard, men in general couldn't care less about what women wear at all. That's why women are the superficial ones, men only cares about what lies beneath.

Beneath what, though..

 

[Monique]

I'm okay with any woman willing to judge me by my shoes keeping herself out of my life.

Isn't that a bit judgmental in itself? Do you really think that your appearance does not influence how people perceive you? Look at society and it should be very clear that appearance plays a big role, whether you like it or not. One needs to be a robot to have a completely blank impression of a person.

Recently there was a discussion here on open-back tops, are people shallow for judging women on the tops they wear?

Women who appreciate a pair of shoes are shallow, but people who find open-back tops poor taste, the showing of bra straps tacky, the trend of bra-less look attractive are... ? Just as shallow as they claim other people to be?

 

[nazarbaz]

L'enfer, c'est les autres... The others are hell. Being capable of suspending it's own judgment is the most important skill a decent man should develop. Although they are a far more superior kind of beings, don't ask women's to do that : they have to find a partner in order to breed. But shoes ? Really ? What qualities do you look for in a man ?
I met a poet with no teeth yesterday. He was wearing a 5 euros pants and a pair of very old shoes : no one knows that he's part of the elite. An incredible mind. He doesn't care. A man without qualities.

 

[Michael Redei]

Maybe this is a bit simplistic, but I think men who don't wear nice shoes fall into one of these categories:

1. Those who can't afford good shoes.
2. Those who could afford good shoes, but don't realize that others are judging them by appearances.
3. Thoes who could afford good shoes, know that it would impress others, but don't give tuppence about their opinions.

I guess many of us want to belong to the third group, i.e. be rich and cool (or at least cool alone) without having to show off, like this guy:

I met a poet with no teeth yesterday. He was wearing a 5 euros pants and a pair of very old shoes : no one knows that he's part of the elite. An incredible mind. He doesn't care. A man without qualities.

But then we must really live with the fact that most others will avoid us, because they think we belong in one of the other groups (poor or ignorant).

 

[xxChrisxx]

Why on Earth does everyone take everything so bloody literally? The original idea behind the concept was not 'what shoes are being worn', but the care behind them. I've grown up with this saying for years, but it was always about paying attention to detail. Ie wax/polish your shoes, as it keeps the water off the leather so they'll last longer and look good. And scuffed shoes will make you look like a scruff, even if you have the very best suit on.

So really the point behind this is, old shoes that have been looked after and taken care of speak more volumes about a man than a brand spanking new, very expensive pair. One who takes good care of his possessions, is more likely to take care of a lady.

Yet another thing my gran used to say to me has been bastardized into this load of horse manure.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5101878_tell-man-his-shoes.html

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet and I asked him, can I have your shoes?

 

[Ivan Seeking]

From what I've heard, men in general couldn't care less about what women wear at all. That's why women are the superficial ones, men only cares about what lies beneath.

Haha, when I was much younger I didn't think I cared what women wore until I realized how much it influenced my impression of them. I was actually shocked to realize how much of a difference make up and clothes can make. I thought I was more perceptive than that!

When Tsu and I met I would often work after hours in shorts. She was too busy looking at my legs to notice my shoes.

 

[Ivan Seeking]

I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet and I asked him, can I have your shoes?

I cried when I met a man with no feet. And then I met a man with no head...

 

[nitsuj]

Do women really look at a man's shoes?

Only the shy ones.

Too funny!

 

[turbo]

I had an old pair of pig-skin Reebocks that were so comfortable. I about cried when I had to retire them. They weren't pretty, but they were comfortable as all get-out. Back then, I could easily run 5-6 miles/day and I should have just been happy that they held up as long as they did.

 

[seaofghosts]

I don't notice them unless they're particularly bad. But that goes for everything... clothes, hair style, hygiene, etc... If someone's shoes are bad but they're still nice, then it doesn't matter.

Hygiene on the other hand... that trumps just about everything.

 

[turbo]

Hygiene on the other hand... that trumps just about everything.

In my old age, I have reverted back to my teens. I wear comfortable running shoes/court shoes when it is warm and well-worn and comfortable work boots in the winter. If my wife should pass away before me, women who would judge me by my shoes would be weeded out pretty quickly.

 

[Chronos]

... Last summer I went outside to get grab something out of my car wearing my roommates pink flip flops with a flower on them...

Err, uh ... forget it.

 

[OMGCarlos]

Hahaha I would say they were by the door so I just put them on, but I doubt anyone would believe that (it's true, I swear :P )

 

[Monique]

Let's back it up with some peer-reviewed research

Journal of Research in Personality, Volume 46, Issue 4, August 2012, Pages 423–430.
Shoes as a source of first impressions

Abstract
Surprisingly minimal appearance cues lead perceivers to accurately judge others’ personality, status, or politics. We investigated people’s precision in judging characteristics of an unknown person, based solely on the shoes he or she wears most often. Participants provided photographs of their shoes, and during a separate session completed self-report measures. Coders rated the shoes on various dimensions, and these ratings were found to correlate with the owners’ personal characteristics. A new group of participants accurately judged the age, gender, income, and attachment anxiety of shoe owners based solely on the pictures. Shoes can indeed be used to evaluate others, at least in some domains.

 

[dkotschessaa]

My wife is always insisting I need new shoes. I have like 20 pairs now. I won't even talk about how many she has.

 

[Lisa!]

Let's back it up with some peer-reviewed research

Journal of Research in Personality, Volume 46, Issue 4, August 2012, Pages 423–430.
Shoes as a source of first impressions

So our shoes say a lot about us!

 

[Ivan Seeking]

So our shoes say a lot about us!

That's why I always wear something in a spring supported work boot. Nothing says "classy" like a good spring boot.

https://shoes.zcoil.com/Images/workforce2_0.jpg

 

[Monique]

Hey Ivan Seeking, I love those! I was thinking about buying these..

http://www.pantofisexy.ro/1152-1977-thickbox/botine-bp-579-mather-cizme-cu-talpa-ortopedica-cu-gol-marimi-35-42-din-lac-si-din-piele-ecologica.jpg

But the panther print comes out better in these...

https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/c190.0.403.403/p403x403/582650_393264214072227_1331036627_n.jpg

I think I'll go for the last one, they'd really fit me.

 

[Evo]

Hey Ivan Seeking, I love those! I was thinking about buying these..

http://www.pantofisexy.ro/1152-1977-thickbox/botine-bp-579-mather-cizme-cu-talpa-ortopedica-cu-gol-marimi-35-42-din-lac-si-din-piele-ecologica.jpg

But the panther print comes out better in these...

https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/c190.0.403.403/p403x403/582650_393264214072227_1331036627_n.jpg

I think I'll go for the last one, they'd really fit me.

OMG! Thank goodness I had just finshed swallowing before I saw this!

 

[Evo]

Personally, I've had my heart set on getting a pair of these

 

[Borek]

Yesterday it was Evo in a shredded bathrobe, today it is Evo and Monique on high heels. Is there some plot behind?

 

[Evo]

Yesterday it was Evo in a shredded bathrobe, today it is Evo and Monique on high heels. Is there some plot behind?

These would look lovely with my new bathrobe.

 

[jim mcnamara]

You'd bump your head going through the bathroom door, unless you are 5ft 4in or less tall.

Standard US door height is 6ft 8inches (80 inches / 2.032m) Those things look like they add 16 inches to a women's height. So a woman that was 5ft 5inches tall would have to duck to avoid a head bump when exiting thru most modern exterior doors here.

And the consequences or losing your balance...

And yes, older houses in the Southwest and in Europe sometimes have very tiny doors. My house in Domingo NM had one exterior door that was 62 inches high. So exiting this would be really entertaining, elevator-super-shoe-wise. For the observer, not the victim...

 

[George Jones]

I bought a black pair of these, and I loved them. As they were wearing out, I commented "Maybe I should consider a brown pair next." By the time they actually wore out, I had firmly changed my mind back to black. The two women in my life, my wife and my six-year-old daughter, both said "Brown." I got brown.

 

[Drakkith]

I feel this is like asking if Men really look at a woman's shoes. The answer is "probably". And the rest of the answer is "but each person has different tastes and even people with the same tastes will still have different opinions and differ on how much the shoes matter."

 

[Evo]

I just would never, ever think of a person in terms of the shoes they select, except maybe to think they waste a lot of money on shoes. I honestly would not be able to tell you what brand of shoes you're wearing unless it has a visible name showing or Sperry Topsiders, but that's because I used to sail.

If someone were to look at my shoes, the impression they should get is "this person views shoes as functional and practical". I am not a shoe person. I'm also not into purses, I select my purses by looking INSIDE to see how many dividers and "pouches" there are to keep my items separated and in order for easy access and by how comfortable they are. I don't care what they look like.

Btw George, those look comfortable and practical, I approve.

 

[lisab]

I just would never, ever think of a person in terms of the shoes they select, except maybe to think they waste a lot of money on shoes.

I must admit, if I met someone in a tavern wearing tap shoes or bunny slippers, I might think them odd. But not enough to deter me from talking to them - in fact, probably the opposite.

If someone were to look at my shoes, the impression they should get is "this person views shoes as functional and practical". I am not a shoe person. I'm also not into purses, I select my purses by looking INSIDE to see how many dividers and "pouches" there are to keep my items separated and in order for easy access and by how comfortable they are. I don't care what they look like.

Normally I'd get the "functional and practical" stamp, too. Right now I'm on break at work, where we have to wear steel-toed shoes. HUGE Doc Martins (no such thing as dainty steel-toe boots). I wonder what kind of impression they make.

 

[turbo]

I bought a black pair of these, and I loved them. As they were wearing out, I commented "Maybe I should consider a brown pair next." By the time they actually wore out, I had firmly changed my mind back to black. The two women in my life, my wife and my six-year-old daughter, both said "Brown." I got brown.

Can you get New Balance shoes in the great white north? I have two pairs of NB walking shoes, that were originally designed for and endorsed by the US Postal Service. They are very comfortable, and decent-looking.

 

[Evo]

Normally I'd get the "functional and practical" stamp, too. Right now I'm on break at work, where we have to wear steel-toed shoes. HUGE Doc Martins (no such thing as dainty steel-toe boots). I wonder what kind of impression they make.

Just wear them with a short skirt, seems to be the rage right now.

 

[George Jones]

Can you get New Balance shoes in the great white north? I have two pairs of NB walking shoes, that were originally designed for and endorsed by the US Postal Service. They are very comfortable, and decent-looking.

Yes, I have considered New Balance. The above are World Tour by Rockport. A bit pricey, but I love them, and they were 40% off when I got my last pair.

 

[turbo]

Yes, I have considered New Balance. The above are World Tour by Rockport. A bit pricey, but I love them, and they were 40% off when I got my last pair.

Rockport is a good line.