Does it ever depress you that you're not the best?

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The discussion centers around feelings of inadequacy and competition in the context of pursuing mathematics and computer science, particularly in relation to perceived genius figures like Terence Tao. Participants explore the emotional impact of comparing oneself to others in academia and the value of personal contributions regardless of one's standing in the field.

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Main Points Raised

  • One participant expresses feelings of depression about not being the best, questioning the value of their contributions compared to those of exceptional mathematicians.
  • Another argues that contributions can still be meaningful regardless of one's ranking in the field, emphasizing hard work over innate talent.
  • Some participants suggest that the motivation for academic work should focus on the process and enjoyment rather than comparison with others.
  • Several contributions highlight that there will always be someone better or worse, and worrying about this is seen as unproductive.
  • A participant mentions the idea that being the best might imply a lack of further learning opportunities, framing continuous learning as more valuable.
  • Another participant shares a personal anecdote about being a generalist, suggesting that being well-rounded can be a source of pride despite not excelling in one specific area.
  • Some participants reflect on the nature of genius and prodigies, noting that they may lack balance in other life aspects, which can lead to a more fulfilling experience for others.
  • One participant quotes Khalil Gibran, emphasizing a perspective that transcends competition and comparison.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants do not reach a consensus; multiple competing views remain regarding the emotional impact of comparison, the definition of success, and the value of personal contributions in academia.

Contextual Notes

Some discussions touch on the limitations of comparing oneself to others, the subjective nature of success, and the potential for personal growth outside of traditional metrics of achievement.

  • #31
blackcat said:
There are millions of better mathematicians than me but at least not all of them are geniuses (hopefully). Obviously the right attitude is to work hard to get to the level you want to, but it's still very depressing knowing you'll never be the best, or even close to it.

people are still better than me, thatz a motivation for me to work still harder, now stop complaining and get back to work.
see you ll be the best in no time if you keep on working harder
 
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  • #32
fourier jr said:
Newton & einstein are the most obvious imo.

I'm pretty sure Einstein was gifted from childhood. People like to spread the "Einstein did bad in school and didn't speak until he was five" rumor around because it makes a neat story, but it's my understanding that he was always gifted in math; the school subjects he didn't do good* on were not math related.

* or is it "well"? ... grammar police!
 
  • #33
chroot said:
If I were the best at something, then it'd mean I have nothing left to learn (or at least nothing left for anyone else to teach me). Since I love learning, it'd be a sad day to find out there's nothing left to learn.
Uh, what? If we assumed somebody was the best who ever lived, in physics, would we say that there was nothing more to learn? Einstein couldn't have learned anything more about the universe?
 
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  • #34
Does it ever depress you that you're not the "best?"
No. I'm satisfied to adequate. :biggrin: I've never worried about being better than someone else, or being the 'best' - it just doesn't matter. I do my best and that's good enough for me.
 
  • #35
Darkiekurdo said:
9! = 362 880.
5! = 120.

Sorry. :-p

:smile:

The first time I saw "!" used, I kept thinking "those parts of the equation must be really important that they need to put exclamation marks!"
 
  • #36
no! It angers me.

Grrrrrrr...
 
  • #37
moe darklight said:
I'm pretty sure Einstein was gifted from childhood. People like to spread the "Einstein did bad in school and didn't speak until he was five" rumor around because it makes a neat story, but it's my understanding that he was always gifted in math; the school subjects he didn't do good* on were not math related.

* or is it "well"? ... grammar police!

i've never heard that he was gifted in math, at best he was good in math & average in everything else. that's what I've always read. he definitely couldn't have been a professor when he was a teenager, or have mastered a language for every year he'd been alive by the time he was 12.
 
  • #38
fourier jr said:
i've never heard that he was gifted in math, at best he was good in math & average in everything else. that's what I've always read.
yea that's true, I guess he wasn't exactly a child prodigy; just intelligent and interested.
 
  • #39
blackcat said:
It's like, what can I do in maths that this guy can't? What research could I possibly do and do well that he hasn't thought of?
Some have said that the best research occurs between fields. Remember, genomics started in chemistry, but now it is it's own distinct field. Another example is bioinformatics. There are many fields of science that have yet to emerge.

Of course this is just one person. There are millions of better mathematicians than me but at least not all of them are geniuses (hopefully). Obviously the right attitude is to work hard to get to the level you want to, but it's still very depressing knowing you'll never be the best, or even close to it.
I can say from experience that some of these people are really awful at chess.
 
  • #40
Darkiekurdo said:
9! = 362 880.
5! = 120.

Sorry. :-p

Haha, had to know that was coming. :smile:
 
  • #41
I suck, you suck;
I'm stupid, and you are stupid.

Meh, at least I don't have to live up to the expectation of being smart.

Life goes on.
 
  • #42
There's a number of unsolved problems in Mathematics which Tao hasn't solved (can't solve?). There's your chance. :)
 
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  • #43
i blame my environment and my parents for the things i have yet to achieve or failed to have. Thats what makes me depressed...not that someone is smarter or better...but they were nourished more in that aspect of their life in someway.
 
  • #44
this is going downhill fast, and it didn't start very far uphill.
 
  • #45
neurocomp2003 said:
i blame my environment and my parents for the things i have yet to achieve or failed to have. Thats what makes me depressed...not that someone is smarter or better...but they were nourished more in that aspect of their life in someway.

wow talk about being narcissistic
 
  • #46
Although this is slightly off-topic:

Being really good at mathematics doesn't necessarily mean that somebody is smart (and by smart, I mostly been having a high IQ and being able to figure out complicated problems). It can mean that they spent a lot of time practicing, and memorizing how to solve certain problems and lots of formulas.
 
  • #47
I personally have no reliable way to gage intelligence. All methods fail under certain circumstances. I suppose some people do come across as a bit slow, but on the other hand I was in a barber shop and the barber was telling me things I didn't know.
 
  • #48
blackcat said:
Don't get me wrong, it's not about being the best, I'm not arrogant at all, but if you want something you want to be the best at it.

I want to be the best I can be. At the moment I'm trying to do my own thing. If I succeed in doing this, I will be the best (or at least pretty good) by virtue of the fact that I'm doing my own thing.
 

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