In the standard approach, "forces" aren't used at all in GR. Instead particles with no forces acting on them are said to follow geodesics in space-time, which is considered to be curved.
The geodesic equation is
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\frac{d^2 x^a}{d \tau^2} + \Gamma^a{}_{uv} (\frac{dx^u}{d\tau})(\frac{dx^v}{d\tau}) = 0<br />
""Gravitation", Misner, Thorne, Wheeler - pg 211. (This standard formula is also eq 1) in Harris, "Anaology between general realtivity and electromagnetism for slowly moving particles in weak gravitational fields")
It is possible to interpret the quantity
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m \Gamma^a{}_{uv}(\frac{dx^u}{d\tau})(\frac{dx^v}{d\tau}) <br />
as a sort of force, as long as the spatial part of space-time isn't too terribly curved. In this case, one interprets the departure from geodesic motion along a straight line in space as being due to a "force" rather than a curvature. This is actually a relativistic four-force, not the usual "three-force".
You can calculate \Gamma^a{}_{uv} in any coordinate basis from the metric via the formulas
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\Gamma_{auv} = \frac{1}{2} (\frac{\partial g_{au}}{\partial v} + \frac{\partial g_{av}}{\partial u} - \frac{\partial g_{uv}}{\partial_a})<br />
and
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\Gamma^a{}_{uv} = \sum_x g^{ax} \Gamma_{xuv}<br />
The last formula is just the usual formula for "raising an index".
Add to this the formula for the metric in isotropic coordiantes (given below), or the easier equation of the metric of an almost Newtonian source if you're only interested in weak gravity, and you're all set!. I should point out that if you are interested in interpreting gravity as a force, you'll HAVE to restrict yourself to the almost Newtonian case, so you can save yourself a lot of work by avoiding isotropic coordinates.
http://relativity.livingreviews.org/Articles/lrr-2000-5/node9.html
Sorry this is so involved, but nobody said GR was easy. You can perhaps appreciate why there appears to be a lack of resolution on the issue of the exact result between myself and another poster considering the complexity of the problem.
However, the good news is that you can gain a considerable insight from studying the behavior of electric fields of charged particles, and how they act relativistically. The results won't be numerically exactly the same as those for gravity, but the math is a lot easier.
As I remarked to another poster, the columb force law f = K q1 q2 / r^2 does not work at relativistic velocities either. You can, however, define the electric (and, magnetic) field of a moving charged particle. Notiting that the magnetic force on a stationary charge is zero (as F=q v x B, and v=0), we can say that the force on a stationary test charge is due entirely to the electric field, and is equal to F=qE. This equation, ignoring the magnetic field, then gives the relativistically correct force between a moving particle and a _stationary_ test particle in our frame of reference.
We can then ask "what does the electric field of a moving charge look like". This will give us a lot of insight (though not the exact numbers) of what the gravitational field of a moving mass looks like.
If we were interested in gravitomagnetism, we could also look at the magnetic field of the moving charge, and compare it to the "gravitomagnetic field", but that would be a topic for another post I think.
Here are three links that compute the electric field of a moving charge
I've posted these all before, but I'm posting them again, in the hopes that interested parties will actually take the time to _look at them_ this time around
http://www.phys.ufl.edu/~rfield/PHY2061/images/relativity_15.pdf
This is probably the clearest link
just the formulas
a java applet
In interpreting the output of the java applet, it is helpful to know that the electric field strength is not directly shown, rather the electric field lines are shown. The number of field lines crossing a unit area gives the component of force in the direction perpendicular to that area.