Hey Trojan 666...the trick is this...time dilation and length contraction is due to relative motion...in special relativity, flat spacetime [no gravity].
So anything traveling in your frame, with you, is 'stationary' relative to you: that means a clock you carry, for example, always ticks at it's same fixed rate [called proper time] and you do not contract in size along the direction of motion. But the other outside observer, in motion relative to you, sees your clock slow and your size diminish along the direction of motion.
So when you move really fast on your way to Alpha Centauri, that distance is in another reference frame...right??...your local wrist watch time ticks along as usual but the distance you travel is reduced. From an observer on Alpha Centauri, the distance remains unchanged [since it is in the static frame of that observer] but she sees your clock ticking more slowly...when you meet up and compare elapsed times, voila they don't agree...she thinks your elapsed local time is less than her local time. YOU have aged less than she.
You each 'disagree' on the elapsed time and distance traveled...and you are both right.
Different observers resolve these 'paradoxes' via Lorentz transforms which explain the differences.