I like your perspective, it is in some ways akin to my own. I suspect you could find "real scientists" (in the general sense of professionals who attend conferences, publish, give talks :^) all over the map described by your A, B, and C. And the "real scientists" can be partly or maybe even entirely wrong, we can't know the future of research, fundamentally new ideas can show up, new directions can be taken. But I still like to check out what is being talked about at the major conferences.
The two biggest international conferences about General Relativity/Gravity/Spacetime etc are TRIENNIAL. They are the GR series and the MG series.
The last GR was GR20 in 2013, attended by 844 participants
http://gr20-amaldi10.edu.pl/index.php?id=1
http://gr20-amaldi10.edu.pl/index.php?id=29
So the next GR conference will be GR21 in 2016. It will be interesting to see who the invited plenary speakers will be, what the topics will be, who will chair the various parallel sessions. There should be announcements and a website soon, if not already.
The last MG was MG14, just this year, attended by 1220 participants, so the next will not be until 2018. But we can glance at the speaker lists, parallel session topics etc. and maybe learn something.
http://www.icra.it/mg/mg14/
The MG organizers do tend to pick attractive locations: MG11, 12, and 13 were held in Berlin, Paris, and Stockholm. The MG14 website has links to the websites of past conferences if you want to check those out.
The rationale for at least not completely ignoring these bigtime international conferences is, I think, that the organizers are smart people and they want their conference to be a success, so they invite speakers who reflect the current interests of the community---they arrange for talks about research that the community of people who attend conferences
want to hear about and they pick chairpersons for the parallel sessions who want their parallel sessions to be successful and attract a lot of participants so these in turn reflect the live interests and hot research topics in the particular specialized areas, to some extent.
One can be skeptical too. I'm a bit suspicious of the MG series because it is so glamorous. The plenary speakers tend to be famous---perhaps deservedly so, but...maybe too much focus on reputation/celebrity---and the venues have glitz.
I wonder where GR21 will be held. It's next year. Do they have a website yet? New York!
So says
http://www.isgrg.org/activities.php
And there is a preliminary web page:
http://www.gr21.org
http://www.markalab.org/GR21/
It will be held on the Columbia University campus, July 10-15 2016.