Ending Relationships: What's a Reasonable Excuse?

[arildno]

Recently I noticed it's women who usually want to break up!

I don't think it happens unexpectedly anyway! Of course in some cases you're happy with someone before meeting a cooler person and you suddenly don't feel happy with your partner anymore. I mean at that moment, you just find out the true meaning of happiness or perhaps you think you would be happier with that person! (I don't want to say you're always right, perhaps it's your biggest mistake in the life...)Sounds very cruel to leave someone when he's not done anything wrong, but I think if you love someone more than him, you'd better to leave him. It's kind of dishonesty with yourself and your partner. I mean you're with someone just physically while your mind and heart is somewhere else.
<I'm in a bad mood now! >

I wasn't talking about the person who wants to break up, but the person who doesn't want that, and went about having no idea how his partner actually felt about the relationship.

 

[Joel]

Mmm, break ups... A rather long relationship of my ended a few months ago and it sure feels empty. But not as empty as it could have felt, we have been able to support each other a lot in the process. Now we are moving towards a steady friendship, which I hope will last, regardless of what people say. Many years is a way too big investment to throw completely into the trash bin, in my oppinion. So, that's my advice - if in any way possible, don't burn bridges in vain.

 

[vanesch]

I'm curious as to what you people think is a reasonable excuse for ending a relationship?

Like: "eh, hunny, I'm going out to buy cigarettes... see you." ?

(even if you don't smoke...)

 

[Joel]

Like: "eh, hunny, I'm going out to buy cigarettes... see you." ?

(even if you don't smoke...)

:!) That would be the OTHER approach.

 

[Lisa!]

I wasn't talking about the person who wants to break up, but the person who doesn't want that, and went about having no idea how his partner actually felt about the relationship.

I understood who you were talking abut, so I said it's not usually unexpected. The person who claims the break up happened to them so unexpectedly, isn't usually right, unless...( the situation I explaind )

 

[Astronuc]

Like: "eh, hunny, I'm going out to buy cigarettes... see you." ?

(even if you don't smoke...)

Might not be effective if the person being left is living in one's home.