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Good manners

  1. Jul 24, 2005 #1


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    Let's see what we all know about good manners...

    I know to...

    1 - Always open the door for a girl.
    2 - Watch girl walk to door after dropping her off.
    3 - Keep face clean while eating.

    What do you know?

    I know more, but I'll leave some open.
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  3. Jul 24, 2005 #2


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    Ouch and double Ouch, you said. Girl Twice :surprised
    2 - Get out of car, open her door escort her to door.
    3- Chew with mouth closed. :biggrin:
  4. Jul 24, 2005 #3
    A gentlemen, when walking with a lady, should position himself between the road and the lady!
  5. Jul 24, 2005 #4
    Take a lady's elbow when climbing stairs so she can manage her hemline, especially if she's in heels.

    When decending stairs position yourself below the lady so you can prevent her from stumbling.

    Take your time walking around the vehicle so she can adjust her "whatever" before she exits.

    When she exits a vehicle offer your hand so she can steady herself.

    When being escorted through a restaurant don't assume the Maitre de will seat your lady guest. Steady her chair but let the lady pull her chair towards the table so you don't knock her feet out from under her.

    When a lady approaches you and you are seated stand up and allow her to sit before you.

    Don't immediately assume you are to order for the lady at a restaurant.
  6. Jul 24, 2005 #5


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    Hey, he's young enough to be allowed to get away with it. :biggrin:
  7. Jul 24, 2005 #6
    I know that you should:

    Respect age, both young and old.

    When in doubt, assume the best intent from your next.

    Listen and learn.

    Don't be fascionable late, be precice.

    Admit when you are defeated and not gloat over your victory.

    When having dinner at home, you should offer to serve dishes close to you.

    In Finland, always accept an offer to a Sauna or excuse yourself for health reasons.

    Now, this list sounds modest, but is surprisingly difficult for me to spit out my manners. I hope that's a good excuse. :biggrin:
  8. Jul 24, 2005 #7
    I can't believe the way some people eat their food at the table. They eat like barbarians. Such simple manners go a long way.

    -Never eat with your elbow on the table
    -Assuming you are right handed after you cut a peice of meat, put the knife down and out of your right hand and switch the fork to your right hand and then eat. Too many times people just cut and eat with the fork still in their left hand.
    -Have your napkin in your lap
    -Drink in the upper right
    -When you are finished put the knife and fork together at the top of your plate.
    -Chew with your mouth closed
    -Don't slurp soup

    You wouldn't realized how impressed employers will be with simple table manners that your mom taught you.
  9. Jul 24, 2005 #8
    not the traditional number 5 position?
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    :bugeye: I can't imagine eating like that. People are skilled enough to eat with their left hand without sticking the piece of meat up their nose..

    I once had a date who talked so loud and much that people at other tables shushed him to quiet down :rolleyes: a good manner suggestion: don't embarrass your date :wink:
  11. Jul 24, 2005 #10
    Drink in the upper right? Change the fork between hands whilst eating?

    The best manners i have is to always let the lady go first, they love that.
  12. Jul 24, 2005 #11
    use fork/knife when eating food
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  13. Jul 24, 2005 #12
    Don't eat your own boogers.

    (well, stoned inspired me. And mom's rolling over in her grave now.)
  14. Jul 24, 2005 #13


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    Actually, in the city, a man should walk on the inside. I learned the reason when I lived in Chicago and dated a very "streetwise" Italian. We were walkng on Rush Street and he insisted on walking on the inside, between me and the buildings. He explained that muggers and purse snatchers hid in the doorways and would grab at women, he wanted to put himself between me and possible harm. I had never even given any thought to it before then.
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    Ooh, major points for E6S. :approve:
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    YOU ARE CORRECT!!!! I will break up with men that do not know this basic rule of dining etiquette. Also, the fork should not be upside down. I am horrified at how many people don't know how to eat. If you ask my daughters what the test is to judge if a man is worth dating, they will tell you what gravenworld said, I call it "The Fork Test". I'm absolutely serious. It is my MAIN pet peeve.

    When my older daughter met a guy she really liked, she told me "he passed the fork test!" (she had asked me what to look for in a man)
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  17. Jul 24, 2005 #16
    Breaking up with someone over how they hold a fork? That is absolutely absurd!!!
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    Not really, it has to do with deeper issues such as basic upbringing and culture. I'm not saying they are necessarily a loser, but history has proven to me that men that can't hold a fork correctly have turned out to be incompatible with me for other reasons.

    That doesn't mean that a guy can't learn correct table manners. Ok, I will admit I'm a bit of a snob when it comes to etiquette. :frown:
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    Yea Evo. I told mine this is what to look for in a man:

    Ask yourself three questions about your guy:

    1. Will you kill me if I break up with you?

    2. Will you harm my children?

    3. Where do you go to get your paycheck cashed?

    The last in reference to a local bar in the neighborhood which advertised, "pay day checks cashed here".

  20. Jul 24, 2005 #19


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    First, I would hope my girls have enough smarts not to even have to wonder those things about a man, they wouldn't be talking to low life in the first place. I never have. (I don't think your girls would have trouble either, it's an intuitive thing)

    Trust me, the "fork test" works. The men that pass it have always been absolutely wonderful. That doesn't mean that men that were raised without proper table manners can't also be nice, it's just something that has never failed. This thread "is" about "good manners".

    To me, someone shoveling food into their mouth with their fork in the wrong hand is the same as if they started chewing on their toenails at the dinner table. :bugeye: Maybe they're nice, but we're not compatible. :surprised
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  21. Jul 24, 2005 #20
    Unless your a doctor, dont answer your cell phone at the table.

    Nerve make a public display of yourself.

    Always let the elderly people go first{door, lines}.

    If your unsure how to behave at a social event, look around and see what others are doing.

    Don't stand right in front of the bathroom door when waiting for you partner.

    And I walk sort of slow..and it bugs me when someone I'm dateing, won't match my pace. More so if he has me by the hand...I feel like I'm being dragged.
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