How Did PrudensOptimus's Dating Adventure Turn Out?

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The discussion centers around the dating experiences and challenges faced by several individuals, particularly focusing on PrudensOptimus, who is encouraged to provide updates on his dating life. Participants share their struggles with reading signals from potential partners and express feelings of nervousness in romantic situations. Tips for improving interactions include being genuine, relaxed, and attentive to the other person's interests. The conversation also highlights the complexities of dating, especially when one party is on the rebound from a previous relationship. Concerns about emotional readiness and the importance of mutual interest are discussed, with a consensus that clear communication and understanding are essential. Participants note that both men and women often experience insecurity and nervousness, suggesting that vulnerability can be endearing. The thread emphasizes the need for patience and the importance of recognizing genuine interest from potential partners, while also acknowledging the difficulties in navigating romantic signals.
  • #151
Evo said:
Nirvana? :smile:
Absolutely! :biggrin:

{private message to Dimitri} ok, from now on we only mention chocolate in code - *dirty toenail clippings*
GAK! :eek:

Tsunami will never catch on. :cool:
Yeah, right. Sheesh. Ya think I just fell off the chocolate truck like a spring chicken yesterday?
 
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  • #152
Tsunami, have you ever had Lindt chocolate? It's the best!
 
  • #153
Godiva is the BEST
 
  • #154
Oh, yes. I've had Lindt, Godiva, Dove Dark (one of my favorite readily available chocolates) and a multitude of other chocolates. In fact, Ivan and I spent 3 weeks taste testing chocolates all over europe. The conculsion--> I'm HOOKED on Belgian chocolates. Even the ones with stuff in them that I don't like! They are total oral orgasms! :biggrin: :wink: Ivan found the Nirvana site on-line and we've certainly been enjoying them for special occasions for many years now. :smile: When I don't have a box of Nirvana, though, a lovely bag of frozen Hersheys or Ghirrardelli semi-sweet chocolate bits (for cookies) will take care of a serious chocolate jones (I try to keep some on hand, but I have to hide them from Ivan or they'd be gone IMMEDIATELY!). Frozen M&M's (plain or dark) are an acceptable substitute. :wink:
 
  • #155
Evo said:
One guy I was dating very casually, a successful business man, handsome, very sought after. He staged his own disappearance for 4 days to see how I would react! His close freinds and family knew he was ok, he just made it appear to me that he had vanished. I failed because I wasn't concerned enough. We weren't in a steady relationship, so it's not like he'd have to tell me if he was going out of town for a few days, although it was odd.

Another great guy, seriously, he was. But after only 3 dates, he called me at 1:30am and wanted to come over. I said no, so he started accusing me of having someone else there. A few minutes later, he's banging on my front door demanding to come in, saying if I was really alone I wouldn't object. So, I let him in and he went through the house and was amazed that I was really alone. Last date with that guy.

I could go on and on. Guys that call me 40 times an hour (I don't answer), showing up at my front door unannounced, spying on me. AAAGH!

Men are insane!

Evo, I am very sorry to know that you seem to have a problem that not even Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus (my bible) can solve. The book says one of the primal emotional needs of men is to be trusted. Those guys you mention don't seem to have that need at all, in fact they seem to have a desperate (feminine) need for attention. I am really baffled. Maybe subconsciously they know that you are the intidote for their neurosis and therefore find you absolutely irresistible. Hmmmmm. But DON'T give up hope, keep sampling, there are guys and there are guys. If all else fail, MAKE them read the book for self-improvement before going out with you again.
 
  • #156
You are reading far to much into this. Those guys were jerks, period.
 
  • #157
I agree. But anyway, who needs a lover anyway when there's really good chocolate to be had. Chocolate never stands you up on a date or goes psycho on you! :)

Nirvana web site, huh? Thanks for the tip - I'm there!

<dissapears in a flash>
 
  • #158
Polly said:
Evo, I am very sorry to know that you seem to have a problem that not even Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus (my bible) can solve. The book says one of the primal emotional needs of men is to be trusted. Those guys you mention don't seem to have that need at all, in fact they seem to have a desperate (feminine) need for attention. I am really baffled. Maybe subconsciously they know that you are the intidote for their neurosis and therefore find you absolutely irresistible. Hmmmmm. But DON'T give up hope, keep sampling, there are guys and there are guys. If all else fail, MAKE them read the book for self-improvement before going out with you again.
Thanks Polly, but Dimitri is correct, it's no big deal. I had no emotional relationship with them. I tend to figure out a guy is emotionally needy very quickly and drop them like hot potatoes. Unfortunatley, it seems to be the only type I meet in real life.

There are so many damaged men out there that have only dealt with high maintenance, demanding, clinging vine types that when they meet someone like me that doesn't want to be attached at the hip, they misunderstand and think either I don't want them or there is someone else.

My philosophy on dating is that it's either right or wrong, and if it's wrong, don't waste time trying to make it work, cut your loses and move on.
 
  • #159
Men will be boys

I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!
 
  • #160
Evo said:
There are so many damaged men out there that have only dealt with high maintenance, demanding, clinging vine types that when they meet someone like me that doesn't want to be attached at the hip, they misunderstand and think either I don't want them or there is someone else.

My philosophy on dating is that it's either right or wrong, and if it's wrong, don't waste time trying to make it work, cut your loses and move on.

My boyfriend is a globally acknowledged Mr. Nice. Very polite and gentle. He also has a heart of gold which is why I fell for him. Of course I only realized the damage done to him as a result of being dumped in a boarding school since 8 when it was too late. He had been desperate for his mother's love and could never say no to her, who oppresses and twists him around. Since we have been having this long distance relationship, she would say nasty things about me and even put words into my mouth. It was very difficult. I guess the relation has managed to work chiefly because I acted like a "saint", honestly I did. I would ignore the mother and instead of telling him what to do or how much pain I am in, I concentrated on encouraging him and praising him for every little thing he does. He grew to be much bolder and not needy of his mother anymore (HOORAY!). Encouragement and praise, works for puppies works for men. You have been lucky so far sister but watch out, because "it is a lightning city" :biggrin: .
 
  • #161
Evo said:
I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

Well let the men have fun. I am sure the models will have a wonderful time as well.
 
  • #162
Evo said:
I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

I'm not sure... I really, really like Sicily.
 
  • #163
Evo said:
Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

Aw, come on now. They may be planning on selling the calendars for charity or for a fundraiser.
 
  • #164
Dimitri Terryn said:
I'm not sure... I really, really like Sicily.
I'm sure it's even more fun with 12 bikini models. :biggrin:
Chrono said:
Aw, come on now. They may be planning on selling the calendars for charity or for a fundraiser.
You're right a fundraiser to get more models. :wink:
 
  • #165
Dimitri Terryn said:
I'm not sure... I really, really like Sicily.
Evo said:
I'm sure it's even more fun with 12 bikini models. :biggrin:
I'M thinking that might be WHY he really really likes Sicily. :biggrin:

Chrono said:
Aw, come on now. They may be planning on selling the calendars for charity or for a fundraiser.
Yeah! THAT'S it! That's the ticket! It's a charitable OBLIGATION!

Right! :wink: :biggrin:
 
  • #166
Evo said:
I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!
Sounds a little like a 'I'm trying to make you just a little bit jealous' ploy.
So. Did you tell him that YOU are the judge in a Hunky Guy contest? :biggrin:
(Maybe you and your SISTER should take a little trip to Sicily this summer? Rent a nice little (ski) boat, maybe do a little trolling... :wink: :biggrin:)
 
  • #167
Tsunami said:
Yeah! THAT'S it! That's the ticket! It's a charitable OBLIGATION!
Right!

Hey, you never know. Just think what they can do with all the money they get from selling them.
 
  • #168
Chrono said:
Hey, you never know. Just think what they can do with all the money they get from selling them.
I doubt they will be selling them. More like giveaways to their customers - like pens, coffeecups, baseball caps...
 
  • #169
Tsunami said:
Sounds a little like a 'I'm trying to make you just a little bit jealous' ploy.
So. Did you tell him that YOU are the judge in a Hunky Guy contest? :biggrin:
(Maybe you and your SISTER should take a little trip to Sicily this summer? Rent a nice little (ski) boat, maybe do a little trolling... :wink: :biggrin:)
Yeah, he's rubbing it in. Hmmmm, a little trip to Sicily just might be in order. Ivan won't mind, right? :biggrin:
 
  • #170
It's exactly one week until the date. I've told my parents and they seem cool with it, except that they don't really want us to be serious. Oh, well, if it does, it does. At least, that's what I'm hoping for.
 
  • #171
Evo said:
Yeah, he's rubbing it in. Hmmmm, a little trip to Sicily just might be in order. Ivan won't mind, right? :biggrin:
Heck, no! When do we leave? :wink:

Hope the week goes fast for you, Chrono! It's going to be a busy day for some of us PFer's. I know someone who's having a birthday next Friday :wink: and I'm getting together with two old college friends for dinner. Hot diggity! Fun times are on OTW! :biggrin:
 
  • #172
Chrono said:
OK, PrudensOptimus, it has been a couple of months now. I'm curious as to how things are going. Did you ever make a date? Find another girl? Or, are you still where you were?

I think some other guys out there shared their problems. I think it's time for a little update.


:wink:

I am back :D :biggrin:

And umm, haven't found anyone lately, however, I was working on some proofs for E=MC^2.
 
  • #173
WOOT! long time no see Prudens!
 
  • #174
jimmy p said:
WOOT! long time no see Prudens!
Heh heh.


A little update of my life.

On March 20th I led my Botball team to victory at SouthEastern Regional Conference, 3rd place, could've done better, but I was the only one that wrote the programs for the bots. Around July I'll be going to San Jose for National competition.

Around April I was invited to an interview for semi-finalists for ASMS(Arkansas Math and Science school), got accepted, happy. It's a boarding school(go home on the weekends, you know what that means:D).

And, recently, worked on a proof on E=MC^2, as a result of deriviing from the Work Energy theorem, I got E = m(rest) * c^2 * Gamma + mc^2 + m(rest)/m * c^2, where c is speed of light and Gamma is the Lorentz factor. If I assume rest mass is 0, then E is basically mc^2. I probably made a few false assumptions that I need to remodify.
 
  • #175
sounds like a lot of work. I have been sitting at my computer thinking about doing work, and in my spare time, trying to bait a girl into liking me :)
 
  • #176
jimmy p said:
sounds like a lot of work. I have been sitting at my computer thinking about doing work, and in my spare time, trying to bait a girl into liking me :)

Wow, i feel much comforted to hear the same from you. I try to bait one too, but no time to spend with her.

So, I chose to do something worth while, working out, swimming, and prooving EMC2: https://www.physicsforums.com/showthread.php?p=195517
 
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  • #177
Congrats, PrudensOptimus!

PrudensOptimus said:
Around April I was invited to an interview for semi-finalists for ASMS(Arkansas Math and Science school), got accepted, happy.

Snaps for PrudensOptimus getting into ASMS!
Way to go!
:biggrin:
 
  • #178
Ok, little update here (to keep this thread alive mostly). I went to talk to her at work to let her know what time I would pick her up and stuff, and, seriously, she did not seem interested what so ever. The only thing I can think that happened was, and it seemed quite evident, that she was just in a bad mood to start with. I'm not even sure if she really heard the time I told her I'd be by. I'm thinking that I should call her tomorrow to verify.
 
  • #179
You know, I had always thought that you had to actually be in a romantic relationship before you had to get your heart broken. It seems I was wrong. I'm sorry, guys. I know you had high hopes for the best for me, but, I'm afraid that's not going to happen. Sorry to break it to y'all, but I thought you should know.
 
  • #180
Chrono, I am so sad to hear that. It sounds like she could have some emotional problems, she is acting a bit odd.

I wish there was something I could do or say to ease your pain, but it will just take time.

You sound like a very loving, caring person. The right girl will come along. I know that you don't want to hear that right now, but it will happen.

In the mean time, you have all of us here that enjoy your company. Ok, maybe that's not that comforting. :frown:
 

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