How Did PrudensOptimus's Dating Adventure Turn Out?

[Tsu]

Nirvana?

Absolutely!

{private message to Dimitri} ok, from now on we only mention chocolate in code - *dirty toenail clippings*

GAK!

Tsunami will never catch on.

Yeah, right. Sheesh. Ya think I just fell off the chocolate truck like a spring chicken yesterday?

 

[Math Is Hard]

Tsunami, have you ever had Lindt chocolate? It's the best!

 

[The_Professional]

Godiva is the BEST

 

[Tsu]

Oh, yes. I've had Lindt, Godiva, Dove Dark (one of my favorite readily available chocolates) and a multitude of other chocolates. In fact, Ivan and I spent 3 weeks taste testing chocolates all over europe. The conculsion--> I'm HOOKED on Belgian chocolates. Even the ones with stuff in them that I don't like! They are total oral orgasms! Ivan found the Nirvana site on-line and we've certainly been enjoying them for special occasions for many years now. When I don't have a box of Nirvana, though, a lovely bag of frozen Hersheys or Ghirrardelli semi-sweet chocolate bits (for cookies) will take care of a serious chocolate jones (I try to keep some on hand, but I have to hide them from Ivan or they'd be gone IMMEDIATELY!). Frozen M&M's (plain or dark) are an acceptable substitute.

 

[Polly]

One guy I was dating very casually, a successful business man, handsome, very sought after. He staged his own disappearance for 4 days to see how I would react! His close freinds and family knew he was ok, he just made it appear to me that he had vanished. I failed because I wasn't concerned enough. We weren't in a steady relationship, so it's not like he'd have to tell me if he was going out of town for a few days, although it was odd.

Another great guy, seriously, he was. But after only 3 dates, he called me at 1:30am and wanted to come over. I said no, so he started accusing me of having someone else there. A few minutes later, he's banging on my front door demanding to come in, saying if I was really alone I wouldn't object. So, I let him in and he went through the house and was amazed that I was really alone. Last date with that guy.

I could go on and on. Guys that call me 40 times an hour (I don't answer), showing up at my front door unannounced, spying on me. AAAGH!

Men are insane!

Evo, I am very sorry to know that you seem to have a problem that not even Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus (my bible) can solve. The book says one of the primal emotional needs of men is to be trusted. Those guys you mention don't seem to have that need at all, in fact they seem to have a desperate (feminine) need for attention. I am really baffled. Maybe subconsciously they know that you are the intidote for their neurosis and therefore find you absolutely irresistible. Hmmmmm. But DON'T give up hope, keep sampling, there are guys and there are guys. If all else fail, MAKE them read the book for self-improvement before going out with you again.

 

[Kalimaa23]

You are reading far to much into this. Those guys were jerks, period.

 

[Math Is Hard]

I agree. But anyway, who needs a lover anyway when there's really good chocolate to be had. Chocolate never stands you up on a date or goes psycho on you! :)

Nirvana web site, huh? Thanks for the tip - I'm there!

<dissapears in a flash>

 

[Evo]

Evo, I am very sorry to know that you seem to have a problem that not even Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus (my bible) can solve. The book says one of the primal emotional needs of men is to be trusted. Those guys you mention don't seem to have that need at all, in fact they seem to have a desperate (feminine) need for attention. I am really baffled. Maybe subconsciously they know that you are the intidote for their neurosis and therefore find you absolutely irresistible. Hmmmmm. But DON'T give up hope, keep sampling, there are guys and there are guys. If all else fail, MAKE them read the book for self-improvement before going out with you again.

Thanks Polly, but Dimitri is correct, it's no big deal. I had no emotional relationship with them. I tend to figure out a guy is emotionally needy very quickly and drop them like hot potatoes. Unfortunatley, it seems to be the only type I meet in real life.

There are so many damaged men out there that have only dealt with high maintenance, demanding, clinging vine types that when they meet someone like me that doesn't want to be attached at the hip, they misunderstand and think either I don't want them or there is someone else.

My philosophy on dating is that it's either right or wrong, and if it's wrong, don't waste time trying to make it work, cut your loses and move on.

 

[Evo]

Men will be boys

I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

 

[Polly]

There are so many damaged men out there that have only dealt with high maintenance, demanding, clinging vine types that when they meet someone like me that doesn't want to be attached at the hip, they misunderstand and think either I don't want them or there is someone else.

My philosophy on dating is that it's either right or wrong, and if it's wrong, don't waste time trying to make it work, cut your loses and move on.

My boyfriend is a globally acknowledged Mr. Nice. Very polite and gentle. He also has a heart of gold which is why I fell for him. Of course I only realized the damage done to him as a result of being dumped in a boarding school since 8 when it was too late. He had been desperate for his mother's love and could never say no to her, who oppresses and twists him around. Since we have been having this long distance relationship, she would say nasty things about me and even put words into my mouth. It was very difficult. I guess the relation has managed to work chiefly because I acted like a "saint", honestly I did. I would ignore the mother and instead of telling him what to do or how much pain I am in, I concentrated on encouraging him and praising him for every little thing he does. He grew to be much bolder and not needy of his mother anymore (HOORAY!). Encouragement and praise, works for puppies works for men. You have been lucky so far sister but watch out, because "it is a lightning city" .

 

[Polly]

I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

Well let the men have fun. I am sure the models will have a wonderful time as well.

 

[Kalimaa23]

I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

I'm not sure... I really, really like Sicily.

 

[Chrono]

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

Aw, come on now. They may be planning on selling the calendars for charity or for a fundraiser.

 

[Evo]

I'm not sure... I really, really like Sicily.

I'm sure it's even more fun with 12 bikini models.

Aw, come on now. They may be planning on selling the calendars for charity or for a fundraiser.

You're right a fundraiser to get more models.

 

[Tsu]

I'm not sure... I really, really like Sicily.

I'm sure it's even more fun with 12 bikini models.

I'M thinking that might be WHY he really really likes Sicily.

Aw, come on now. They may be planning on selling the calendars for charity or for a fundraiser.

Yeah! THAT'S it! That's the ticket! It's a charitable OBLIGATION!

Right!

 

[Tsu]

I was talking to my best friend in Sicily tonight and he told me he is going tomorrow to scope out a Mediterranean island off the coast of Sicily for a photographic shoot.

Oh, for the ancient ruins, I naively ask?

Uhm, no. His friend's dad owns a large company and his friend decided it would be a good idea to hire a large group of gorgeous bikini models from Romania for a company calendar.

Uh huh. So, they're going to fly all these bikini models to a secluded island in the Mediterranean for a few days this summer. For a calendar, for the company, of course they have to be there. Uh huh.

You guys are shocked and appalled, right? You would have nothing to do with this and would turn down an invitation, right? Of course you would!

Sounds a little like a 'I'm trying to make you just a little bit jealous' ploy.
So. Did you tell him that YOU are the judge in a Hunky Guy contest?
(Maybe you and your SISTER should take a little trip to Sicily this summer? Rent a nice little (ski) boat, maybe do a little trolling... )

 

[Chrono]

Yeah! THAT'S it! That's the ticket! It's a charitable OBLIGATION!
Right!

Hey, you never know. Just think what they can do with all the money they get from selling them.

 

[Tsu]

Hey, you never know. Just think what they can do with all the money they get from selling them.

I doubt they will be selling them. More like giveaways to their customers - like pens, coffeecups, baseball caps...

 

[Evo]

Sounds a little like a 'I'm trying to make you just a little bit jealous' ploy.
So. Did you tell him that YOU are the judge in a Hunky Guy contest?
(Maybe you and your SISTER should take a little trip to Sicily this summer? Rent a nice little (ski) boat, maybe do a little trolling... )

Yeah, he's rubbing it in. Hmmmm, a little trip to Sicily just might be in order. Ivan won't mind, right?

 

[Chrono]

It's exactly one week until the date. I've told my parents and they seem cool with it, except that they don't really want us to be serious. Oh, well, if it does, it does. At least, that's what I'm hoping for.

 

[Tsu]

Yeah, he's rubbing it in. Hmmmm, a little trip to Sicily just might be in order. Ivan won't mind, right?

Heck, no! When do we leave?

Hope the week goes fast for you, Chrono! It's going to be a busy day for some of us PFer's. I know someone who's having a birthday next Friday and I'm getting together with two old college friends for dinner. Hot diggity! Fun times are on OTW!

 

[PrudensOptimus]

OK, PrudensOptimus, it has been a couple of months now. I'm curious as to how things are going. Did you ever make a date? Find another girl? Or, are you still where you were?

I think some other guys out there shared their problems. I think it's time for a little update.

I am back :D

And umm, haven't found anyone lately, however, I was working on some proofs for E=MC^2.

 

[jimmy p]

WOOT! long time no see Prudens!

 

[PrudensOptimus]

WOOT! long time no see Prudens!

Heh heh.


A little update of my life.

On March 20th I led my Botball team to victory at SouthEastern Regional Conference, 3rd place, could've done better, but I was the only one that wrote the programs for the bots. Around July I'll be going to San Jose for National competition.

Around April I was invited to an interview for semi-finalists for ASMS(Arkansas Math and Science school), got accepted, happy. It's a boarding school(go home on the weekends, you know what that means:D).

And, recently, worked on a proof on E=MC^2, as a result of deriviing from the Work Energy theorem, I got E = m(rest) * c^2 * Gamma + mc^2 + m(rest)/m * c^2, where c is speed of light and Gamma is the Lorentz factor. If I assume rest mass is 0, then E is basically mc^2. I probably made a few false assumptions that I need to remodify.

 

[jimmy p]

sounds like a lot of work. I have been sitting at my computer thinking about doing work, and in my spare time, trying to bait a girl into liking me :)

 

[PrudensOptimus]

sounds like a lot of work. I have been sitting at my computer thinking about doing work, and in my spare time, trying to bait a girl into liking me :)

Wow, i feel much comforted to hear the same from you. I try to bait one too, but no time to spend with her.

So, I chose to do something worth while, working out, swimming, and prooving EMC2: https://www.physicsforums.com/showthread.php?p=195517

 

[Math Is Hard]

Congrats, PrudensOptimus!

Around April I was invited to an interview for semi-finalists for ASMS(Arkansas Math and Science school), got accepted, happy.

Snaps for PrudensOptimus getting into ASMS!
Way to go!

 

[Chrono]

Ok, little update here (to keep this thread alive mostly). I went to talk to her at work to let her know what time I would pick her up and stuff, and, seriously, she did not seem interested what so ever. The only thing I can think that happened was, and it seemed quite evident, that she was just in a bad mood to start with. I'm not even sure if she really heard the time I told her I'd be by. I'm thinking that I should call her tomorrow to verify.

 

[Chrono]

You know, I had always thought that you had to actually be in a romantic relationship before you had to get your heart broken. It seems I was wrong. I'm sorry, guys. I know you had high hopes for the best for me, but, I'm afraid that's not going to happen. Sorry to break it to y'all, but I thought you should know.

 

[Evo]

Chrono, I am so sad to hear that. It sounds like she could have some emotional problems, she is acting a bit odd.

I wish there was something I could do or say to ease your pain, but it will just take time.

You sound like a very loving, caring person. The right girl will come along. I know that you don't want to hear that right now, but it will happen.

In the mean time, you have all of us here that enjoy your company. Ok, maybe that's not that comforting.

 

[Chrono]

Chrono, I am so sad to hear that. It sounds like she could have some emotional problems, she is acting a bit odd.

I wish there was something I could do or say to ease your pain, but it will just take time.

You sound like a very loving, caring person. The right girl will come along. I know that you don't want to hear that right now, but it will happen.

In the mean time, you have all of us here that enjoy your company. Ok, maybe that's not that comforting.

Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad to that you enjoy my company.

Time? Perhaps you're right. I really thought we could have been together, and I tried as hard as I could to make that happen. But, it seems I must have missed something along the way.

Emotional problems? I don't know. She knew we were going out Friday. I made sure she was off, then she tells me that she's working. I understand none of it.

Once again, I appreciate you putting up with me on this.

 

[Evo]

Put up with you? I'm honored that you listen to me.

It could be the timing isn't right. Just play it cool and who knows?

Listen to me, the freak magnet, giving advice.

 

[Polly]

*pats on the shoulder*

Don't be sad, it is not your fault. She must be in the doldrums now and has a huge baggage of resentment, confusion, sadness, anger and frustration from the previous relationship to sort out. She needs time in a cave to lick her own wound and wait for it to heal. You are a good person, you just appeared in the wrong time. You have pulled out all the stops to make her feel loved and cherished. It is not your fault that she feels the way she does. Do not be sad, and do not bear a grudge either, growing up is an ordeal for all of us. The feelings are young and powerful while the experience to know what to do with them is woefully missing. My younger brother has his heart broken twice, so I know what you are going through. In the end time will heal all wounds, both yours and hers. It may be hard to believe now but you are still very young and you will fall in love again, perhaps even more passionately than this time. Cheer up

 

[Chrono]

Don't be sad, it is not your fault. She must be in the doldrums now and has a huge baggage of resentment, confusion, sadness, anger and frustration from the previous relationship to sort out. She needs time in a cave to lick her own wound and wait for it to heal. You are a good person, you just appeared in the wrong time. You have pulled out all the stops to make her feel loved and cherished. It is not your fault that she feels the way she does. Do not be sad, and do not bear a grudge either, growing up is an ordeal for all of us. The feelings are young and powerful while the experience to know what to do with them is woefully missing. My younger brother has his heart broken twice, so I know what you are going through. In the end time will heal all wounds, both yours and hers. It may be hard to believe now but you are still very young and you will fall in love again, perhaps even more passionately than this time. Cheer up

In the doldrums? That's possible, but with what happened last night I'm just thinking she was just playing me for a fool.

Twenty-four hours have passed since it happend, and I must say, I'm not as...depressed as I thought I would be. I mean, when it happened I was mad as hell, and then, I kid you not, I cried for a few minutes. No one at work tonight had noticed that anything was wrong.

 

[Polly]

Hi Chrono. If it is true that she played you for a fool then she must have been someone else's fool and she was taking it out on you. Now that you know what it feels like to be taken as a fool, try to forgive her for that must have been what she has gone through too. From my experience if you are able to sympathize someone you hate, your own wound will heal faster.
The worst time is probably over now and you are recovering. Some months from now I am sure you will be able to say, everything happens for the best

 

[Chrono]

Hi Chrono. If it is true that she played you for a fool then she must have been someone else's fool and she was taking it out on you. Now that you know what it feels like to be taken as a fool, try to forgive her for that must have been what she has gone through too. From my experience if you are able to sympathize someone you hate, your own wound will heal faster.
The worst time is probably over now and you are recovering. Some months from now I am sure you will be able to say, everything happens for the best

You know, you may be on to something.

 

[Chrono]

Dang, guys, I never expected to feel this well after what happend. And it's been less than a week, three days have passed since the "date" night. By the way, I went to the show by myself. I think I've moved on. How I know, you may ask? Well, there's this new girl at work (that seems to be the only place I meet chicks, I've noticed). And I tell you what, I think I'm going to try to get with her.

 

[Evo]

Dang, guys, I never expected to feel this well after what happend. And it's been less than a week, three days have passed since the "date" night. By the way, I went to the show by myself. I think I've moved on. How I know, you may ask? Well, there's this new girl at work (that seems to be the only place I meet chicks, I've noticed). And I tell you what, I think I'm going to try to get with her.

Good for you Chrono!

 

[Chrono]

You don't think that's too soon, though? Oh, well. It couldn't hurt, I don't think.

 

[Evo]

It may be a little soon, but you weren't in a heavy, long term relationship with the other girl, so I think finding someone else (as long as you don't use her just to ease your pain), may be just what you need.

 

[Chrono]

It may be a little soon, but you weren't in a heavy, long term relationship with the other girl, so I think finding someone else (as long as you don't use her just to ease your pain), may be just what you need.

You're right. We didn't even have a relationship. I think it's about time I started looking for someone. I mean, it's summer soon and I'm going to have plenty of time on my hands to go out. I actually think one of the older coworkers of mine would agree that we do go out. She did predict that the other one would hurt me.

 

[expscv]

Hi Chrono. If it is true that she played you for a fool then she must have been someone else's fool and she was taking it out on you. Now that you know what it feels like to be taken as a fool, try to forgive her for that must have been what she has gone through too. From my experience if you are able to sympathize someone you hate, your own wound will heal faster.
The worst time is probably over now and you are recovering. Some months from now I am sure you will be able to say, everything happens for the best

hoho seriously love this quote haha " if you are able to sympathize someone you hate, your own wound will heal faster."

;)
hey chrono who ever you love , make a choice and love her.

 

[Chrono]

I just keep finding ways to keep this thread from dying, don't I?

Anyway, about the new girl I told y'all about. I asked her for her number a couple of days ago and, well, I wasn't shot down, but I didn't get the number, either. She just said something like she didn't give it out, not even to her present boyfriend. She said it shows initiative that I find it myself. I thought about that and said that it showed initiative that I asked for it in the first place. She just smiled and nodded.

I swear, my mom was right, women are trouble. Oh, well.

 

[Polly]

I just keep finding ways to keep this thread from dying, don't I?

That's what I was going to say!
When you said "present boyfriend", do you mean she is having a boyfriend now?

 

[Chrono]

That's what I was going to say!
When you said "present boyfriend", do you mean she is having a boyfriend now?

Yeah, that's exactly what I mean. Actually, that's the first thing she said when I had asked for her number. But, I'm not going to worry about it. Truthfully, I just asked to see if she would give it to me.

 

[Evo]

I just keep finding ways to keep this thread from dying, don't I?

Anyway, about the new girl I told y'all about. I asked her for her number a couple of days ago and, well, I wasn't shot down, but I didn't get the number, either. She just said something like she didn't give it out, not even to her present boyfriend. She said it shows initiative that I find it myself. I thought about that and said that it showed initiative that I asked for it in the first place. She just smiled and nodded.

I swear, my mom was right, women are trouble. Oh, well.

Where do you keep finding these wacko women?

Someday you will find a normal girl. Trust me, some exist.

 

[Polly]

Chrono, a young man's heart catches fire easily, sometimes it is even spontaneously combusted, I understand.

But personally I don't mess with any guy with a girlfriend, doesn't matter the status of their relationship, doesn't matter the mutual attraction or the strong feelings between us, doesn't matter all the "signs" shows that we would be great together. Until he is unattached, he is out of the question, period.

It is not so much about the work/trouble/rate of success involved than about ethics. A very bad analogy but the closest I can think of at the moment is this: would I snatch a toy from a 5 year old who is playing with it? No, I will wait my turn. Until the little boy is done with it, I will just have to occupy myself with something worthwhile, like reading books on the 10/11th dimension ?

 

[Ebolamonk3y]

Where do you keep finding these wacko women?

Someday you will find a normal girl. Trust me, some exist.

Normal girl? What are you talking about? (looks around) can't find any here! sorry!

 

[Jenn_ucsb]

I just keep finding ways to keep this thread from dying, don't I?

Anyway, about the new girl I told y'all about. I asked her for her number a couple of days ago and, well, I wasn't shot down, but I didn't get the number, either. She just said something like she didn't give it out, not even to her present boyfriend. She said it shows initiative that I find it myself. I thought about that and said that it showed initiative that I asked for it in the first place. She just smiled and nodded.

I swear, my mom was right, women are trouble. Oh, well.

Of course girls are trouble when you are expecting one with a boyfriend to like you...
Find a normal single girl, preferably one you don't work with. That can get messy.

 

[Chrono]

Normal girl? What are you talking about? (looks around) can't find any here! sorry!

Obviously, I'm having the same problem.