How Did PrudensOptimus's Dating Adventure Turn Out?

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The discussion centers around the dating experiences and challenges faced by several individuals, particularly focusing on PrudensOptimus, who is encouraged to provide updates on his dating life. Participants share their struggles with reading signals from potential partners and express feelings of nervousness in romantic situations. Tips for improving interactions include being genuine, relaxed, and attentive to the other person's interests. The conversation also highlights the complexities of dating, especially when one party is on the rebound from a previous relationship. Concerns about emotional readiness and the importance of mutual interest are discussed, with a consensus that clear communication and understanding are essential. Participants note that both men and women often experience insecurity and nervousness, suggesting that vulnerability can be endearing. The thread emphasizes the need for patience and the importance of recognizing genuine interest from potential partners, while also acknowledging the difficulties in navigating romantic signals.
  • #121
jimmy p said:
Sounds like a plan... maybe do i trial run of her house or something just so you don't end up in another state or something... hmmm food-wise, don't take her out somewhere majorly expensive, after all, its only first date (is it?? if not, ignore me) and for her birthday, i would see how this date goes before you buy her anything.

I plan on doing a trial run to her house. Probably offer to take her home after work and she can just direct me how to get there. My dad suggested that I take her to Pizza Hut. Sounds good to me, but I'm not sure if she'll want to go there. I'll probably ask her. I could do that for the flowers, as a birthday gift and to say thanks for the date.
 
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  • #122
All females like flowers, regardless of the occasion. It's a law of nature.

cookiemonster
 
  • #123
Chrono said:
I could do that for the flowers, as a birthday gift and to say thanks for the date.
Flowers are perfect.
 
  • #124
jimmy p said:
I have been invited out with her and her mates on Monday which can't be too bad, means she wants me to meet her friends (approval?) who knows...
That's a good sign!
 
  • #125
Evo said:
Flowers are perfect.

Before or after the date? Or does it matter?
 
  • #126
Before, after, and every day inbetween!

cookiemonster
 
  • #127
Chrono said:
Before or after the date? Or does it matter?
I would give them to her when it is convenient for her to put them in water. If she can put them in water at her house when you pick her up, it may be the best time. You can't carry flowers around with you all night.
 
  • #128
cookiemonster said:
All females like flowers, regardless of the occasion. It's a law of nature.

cookiemonster

So true ! A few months ago I found a wrapped up rose in the physics lab one day, beautifully dried. Probably a leftover from Valentine's day. Anyway, I thought it was pretty funny and took it with. I presented it to this girl I know when I got out of the lab, half-jokingly making a big deal about it...

Imagine my surprise when I went to her place last week and noticed she had kept it in her room alll this time!

Flowers (and cute cards with something personal on them) are an irrational need of women. Use them wisely my friend.
 
  • #129
Women what a pain in the arse.

In all fairness though I am sure not all women are a pain in the arse, just the one i fell for.
 
  • #130
Andy said:
Women what a pain in the arse.

In all fairness though I am sure not all women are a pain in the arse, just the one i fell for.

Ah yes, women. They will be the death of us. Only fitting, since it is to them that we own our life in the first place. And I cannot think of a more pleasing way to meet one's end.
 
  • #131
Dimitri Terryn said:
Ah yes, women. They will be the death of us.
For me it's men. I do not understand them. Why do men act so weird? Why can't they just come out and say what they mean?

My girlfriend is beautiful, sweet and intelligent. Men ask her out, but then never call or show up for the first date! I have developed an alien abduction theory to explain it.

Ok guys, what are you thinking??
 
  • #132
Because if we say what we mean then you'll all go and twist it into something we don't and we'll get blamed for it...?

Better to not say anything at all.

cookiemonster
 
  • #133
yes! your are right cookiemonster! Heads we lose, Tails we lose. Or if we subjected you to what you really think you would freak out/want to commit murder. Just think about it next time you ask a guy what he thinks about your new shoes/hairdo. :)
 
  • #134
But I am not one of those "high maintenance" women, neither is she. I don't get upset about trivial garbage. I don't come unglued at every little thing. I hate women that are like that. Both of us are exceptionally laid back. I've actually had men that assumed I didn't like them because I was so "normal" and didn't go beserk over ridiculous stuff.

Men seem to be insane when it comes to relationships. Is it because you have all been destroyed at an early age by a self centered psycho barbie? :-p
 
  • #135
well she wasnt self centred... or that much of a barbie... but i think psycho was an understatement.
 
  • #136
Ok, let me give you an example why I don't date anymore.

One guy I was dating very casually, a successful business man, handsome, very sought after. He staged his own disappearance for 4 days to see how I would react! His close freinds and family knew he was ok, he just made it appear to me that he had vanished. I failed because I wasn't concerned enough. We weren't in a steady relationship, so it's not like he'd have to tell me if he was going out of town for a few days, although it was odd.

Another great guy, seriously, he was. But after only 3 dates, he called me at 1:30am and wanted to come over. I said no, so he started accusing me of having someone else there. A few minutes later, he's banging on my front door demanding to come in, saying if I was really alone I wouldn't object. So, I let him in and he went through the house and was amazed that I was really alone. Last date with that guy.

I could go on and on. Guys that call me 40 times an hour (I don't answer), showing up at my front door unannounced, spying on me. AAAGH!

Men are insane!

Maybe this would be a good thread? "PSYCHO DATES FROM HELL"
 
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  • #137
maybe you should adopt my old signature...
 
  • #138
jimmy p said:
maybe you should adopt my old signature...
Yes, I am a freak magnet. :frown:
 
  • #139
well she wasnt self centred

really?

When i move to the US i would date you Evo. :wink:
 
  • #140
Evo said:
The ideal dating situation for me is to date someone that lives 8000 miles away and only see them once every 2-3 years. You definitely don't get on each other's nerves. :biggrin:

Well, the distance between Belgium and Brussels is of that order of magnitude. When can I come and pay you a visit? :wink:

I'll bring flowers and Belgian chocolates...
 
  • #141
hey me first
 
  • #142
Dimitri Terryn said:
Well, the distance between Belgium and Brussels is of that order of magnitude. When can I come and pay you a visit? :wink:

I'll bring flowers and Belgian chocolates...
If you're bringing flowers and Belgian chocolates, you can come over anytime. :biggrin: Dimitri, you are such a doll! :smile:

Andy, you are a sweetheart also. hint: Belgian chocolates & flowers won't hurt either. :wink:

P.S. Don't let Tsunami know about the chocolate, she'll make me share.
 
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  • #143
When did adam get involved in this thread?
 
  • #144
Andy said:
When did adam get involved in this thread?
AAAGH, ANDY not Adam. I have corrected it. Sorry Andy.
 
  • #145
Evo said:
P.S. Don't let Tsunami know about the chocolate, she'll make me share.

It will be our little secret :wink:
 
  • #146
Just wait until she sees this... better be far far away...
 
  • #147
Andy said:
really?

ok then, I lied... :biggrin:
 
  • #148
Origionally posted by Her?
AAAGH, ANDY not Adam. I have corrected it. Sorry Andy.

No worries I am useless with names aswell.
 
  • #149
Dimitri Terryn said:
It will be our little secret :wink:

What?!?

Did I hear

CHOCOLATE?

funny how my chocolate radar goes off like that... I haven't been on PF much lately, but I just had this feeling... :wink:

Now LOOKY HERE! I've been feeling especially (read 'incredibly') grumpy lately (too much COLD and RAIN going on here in Oregon - I need some WARMTH and SUNSHINE! :crying:).

So, I don't want to have to deal with any lousy CHOCOLATE hiding CONSPIRACIES! :mad: :biggrin: GOT IT?

Here, though, is some loving advice to all the men here from their Sweet (sometimes) Aunt Tsu:

Learning What to Say to Women:

DANGEROUS: What's for dinner?
SAFER: Can I help you with dinner?
SAFEST: Where would you like to go for dinner?
ULTRASAFE: Here, have some chocolate.

DANGEROUS: Are you wearing that?
SAFER: Gee, you look good in brown.
SAFEST: WOW! Look at you!
ULTRASAFE: Here, have some chocolate.

DANGEROUS: What are you so worked up about?
SAFER: Could we be overreacting?
SAFEST: Here's fifty dollars.
ULTRASAFE: Here, have some chocolate.

DANGEROUS: Should you be eating that?
SAFER: You know, there are a lot of apples left.
SAFEST: Can I get you a glass of wine with that?
ULTRASAFE: Here, have some chocolate.

DANGEROUS: What did you do all day?
SAFER: I hope you didn't overdo it today.
SAFEST: I've always loved you in that robe!
ULTRASAFE: Here, have some more chocolate.

Copy this and keep it in your wallet. Refer to it frequently. :wink: :biggrin:
 
  • #150
Tsunami, you are a riot! :biggrin:

Sounds like I need to send large amounts of dark Belgian chocolate your way. Nirvana? :smile:

{private message to Dimitri} ok, from now on we only mention chocolate in code - *dirty toenail clippings*, Tsunami will never catch on. :cool:
 

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