We are 'amassing' [sorry to use that term, Dalespam!] enough discussion points in this thread for recalling a closely related idea.
I mean, it makes a difference how this energy-mass gain is accumulated in a traveling body, or if it is accumulated. That is, if the energy is manifested as the non-linear but real hyper-agitation of molecular bonds as someone in a spaceship approaches c, then those intrepid intergalactic explorers are going to die long before they hit warp speed.
“Is Bob actually getting heavier and shorter, or isn’t he?”
Bob, being in his own reference frame, will see none of this change.
The easy answer would be to say it depends on your reference frame and that’s all we can say about it.
The last quote says it all...that's 'reality'...
Let's start with Dalespam's energy equation. In the frame of the mass, as you know,
velocity is zero...so there is NO additional momentum, no additional kinetic energy, for example. That is the essential reason relativistic mass is no longer popular: The 'mass' is unaffected by it's speed in its own frame. Electrons continue in the normal orbitals. A closely related aspect is the source of gravity: the stress energy tensor, which is also unaffected by high velocity.
It MASS [and associated gravity] did change, the object could turn into a black hole via high speed...yet we never observe that,so MASS cannot increase at high velocities! So the way I think about this now, after a lot of tutoring from Dalespam, bcrowell, DocAl and others is in the reverse order from that I just used...
Just as different observers pass different relative TIME in SR, there is no 'real' time except for the clock you carry with you; Others 'see' things differently. And in GR not only does relative velocity affect the apparent passage of time, so does gravitational potential: Time for an observer on Earth passes more slowly from that of an orbiting astronaut!
Here is an interesting example from TomStoer:
TomStoer: You can have a non-stationary mass distribution with stationary spacetime. Consider a spherical, stationary mass-distribution, e.g. a massive star, a study its spacetime metric, curvature and geodesics of test bodies.
Now consider a spherically symmetric collapse of this star. e.g. to a neutron star or a black hole. During this (spherically symmetric) collapse the spacetime metric and curvature do not change; the test bodies feel nothing else but the stationary spacetime as before. Therefore at least in this situation the change in the energy momentum tensor due to the collapse and the huge additional kinetic energy of the collapsing matter does not act gravitationally.
How do we interpret this?? A test particle outside the collapse would be unaffected!
So here we have what might be an apparent gain in energy, but again, not in the frame of the collapsing star.
A contra example: Heat a mass and it's rest energy DOES increase...electrons speed up in their orbitals, molecular bonds become more active, lattice structure may change, and there is no frame in which all this movement is at rest. So a hot mass will follow a slightly different trajectory than when cold.