MisterMuoN said:
the event horizon. Which according to my knowledge is at a certain (defined) distance to the singularity.
Not really; it's more correct to think of it as a defined
time to the singularity. The reason for that is that the singularity is not a place in space; it's a moment of time; and this moment of time is to the future of all events inside the hole's horizon.
MisterMuoN said:
I believe its general relativity that describes this right?
Yes. More specifically, it's a particular solution of the Einstein Field Equation of GR, which is called the Schwarzschild solution.
MisterMuoN said:
My question comes from the assumption light gets attracted like a mass, of which I now see is wrong.
No, it isn't. The paths of light rays moving tangentially past a massive object get bent by gravity just like the paths of ordinary objects. Light bending by the Sun is one of the classic predictions of GR.
However, the light we are talking about light that is moving
radially. What defines the horizon is that radially outgoing light stays at the same radial coordinate. Sometimes this is phrased as the light "staying in the same place", but that's not really a good description because the horizon is not a "place". One way of seeing why is to observe that, as
@jbriggs444 pointed out, in any local inertial frame that contains the horizon, the horizon is moving outward at the speed of light; and nothing that moves at the speed of light can ever be at rest in any local inertial frame, which is what a "place" would have to do.
MisterMuoN said:
i found it weird how (the bending of)light would behave so binary.
It isn't binary. Consider three rays of light, all directed radially outward, and all emitted at the same time in some local inertial frame that contains the horizon. One is emitted just inside the horizon, one at the horizon, and one just outside. As far as the local inertial frame is concerned, these three rays of light are all moving at the same speed--the speed of light--and the same direction. So within the local inertial frame, there is no discontinuity between them.
If we consider how the light rays behave beyond the local inertial frame where they were emitted, there is still no discontinuity between them. The ray at the horizon stays at the horizon: that is, its radial coordinate never changes. The ray just inside the horizon is falling towards the singularity, but at first its radial coordinate decreases very slowly, and the closer to the horizon it was emitted, the more slowly its radial coordinate decreases. Similarly, the ray just outside the horizon is escaping towards infinity, but at first its radial coordinate increases very slowly; and the closer to the horizon it was emitted, the more slowly its radial coordinate increases. So there is a continuous series of light rays, in terms of how their radial coordinates change; there's no discontinuity or binary division between them.