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What happened? I called her the entire day yesterday (~4 times per hour, for 5 hours) and nobody picked up >.<
I am a loser loser loser loser loser
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The discussion revolves around navigating the challenges of asking a girl out after struggling with conversation topics, particularly focusing on relativity. Participants emphasize the importance of moving beyond technical discussions and suggest casual settings for dates, such as coffee or bowling, to ease the pressure of conversation. There is a consensus that asking her out is crucial, regardless of initial awkwardness, and that engaging her in discussions about her interests can foster a more natural dialogue. The conversation also touches on the anxiety surrounding dating, with advice to approach it with a mindset of curiosity rather than fear. Ultimately, the key takeaway is to be proactive in expressing interest while allowing for a relaxed atmosphere to facilitate connection.
What happened? I called her the entire day yesterday (~4 times per hour, for 5 hours) and nobody picked up >.<
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binzing
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She's probably trying to give you a hint. "MOVE ON"
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Renge Ishyo
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Oh god, this is terrible...
O.k., the likely scenario is she saw you call each and every time and let her phone go to the answering machine. This is a *standard* girl trick where they try to test how eager you are by seeing if you will call back and you fell for it big time (should have posted here after the second call!).
Sorry guy, live and learn I guess.
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Renge Ishyo said:
She seemed a little nicer than that...
I thought being eager was a good thing. It shows you actually care, doesn't it?
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Crazy Tosser said:
HAHAhAhhHAahAHa... now you made my day.
Keep calling her. Shes just playing the ole hard to get. Usually, you have to call at least every 15 mins and text message and leave voice mails. Email her too if you know her email address, and send her constant PMs if you use AIM.
When she finally picks up just be slient for a second and make heavy breathing noises. GIRLS LOVE THIS. Then hang up the phone after about 20 seconds of this silence. She'll call you back and be all over you afterwards. I PROMISE.
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binzing
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Yeah, but if you look TOO eager then you appear desperate and creepy.
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moose
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Crazy Tosser said:
I still can't figure out if this is a joke or not.
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*sigh* Nerds are people too, as the ol'.. ol'... what's his face... said.
Anyway, I will not call her anymore probably. Enough entertainment for you guys, I will just get back to work. Got so many things in physics to learn and... well, quite a lot of time. >.<
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Pythagorean
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moose said:
Probably not; it's a common misconception of the inexperienced.
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Cyrus
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Crazy Tosser said:
Don't give up hope. If you keep calling her eventually she'll cave in. Besides, everyone knows you have to text her and email her constanly too if you want a response. Have you tried going to her house and knocking on her dorm door?
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cristo
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Cyrus said:
Oh Cyrus, you are evil >.<
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Cyrus
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>.<
I'm a ladies man. he should trust my advice...rightttttttt cristo? :D
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Evo
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Oh dear.
Well, if she really wasn't by the phone when you called, she's probably frightened now, after seeing all of the calls.
Do men really think that women don't answer on purpose to play games? Do people really do that? Am I the only one that doesn't. I *will* turn my phone off when I don't feel like talking, but it's because I don't feel like talking.
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Cyrus
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You should make a likelike head scuplture of her out of bologna and give it to her as a gift. Girls LOVEEEE this.
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Evo
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Oh, now this I would love, and add lips of cheese and olives for eyes.Cyrus said:
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epenguin
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Crazy Tosser said:
It is important to realize it was 5 hours only in your own reference frame. You see if you take two synchronized clocks...
(contd. on p.92)
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Crazy Tosser
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...so evil... *sob* ...
epenguin said:
So who is aboard a spaceship approaching c, me or her?
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cristo
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Cyrus said:
Yup, trust every word Cyrus says...
Evo said:
Yea, I'd say so, especially as the poor girl doesn't even know him!
Still, I'm sure that Cyrus's "attrition dating" advice will go down a treat
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Evo
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I think the bologna sculpture, left in front of her door, is definitely the way to smooth the phone call thing over.
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binzing
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eww...bologna.
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Crazy Tosser
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Evo said:
...sex just isn't that important to me...
Well, to be truthful, it depends on how much time on average it takes to make one
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cristo
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Crazy Tosser said:
Where did that come from?How old are you, out of interest?
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Best to be passive in the conversation. Prompt her to talk about herself. Let her generate the topics. Draw her out.
Ultimately no failure can fail as badly as doing nothing out of fear. Use "what's the worst that can happen?" as a mantra.
Try going into a conversation or date with no expectations good or bad.
But if you are nervous tell her so. Say you like her so much that you're afraid of making a bad impression. She'll understand that as a complement. But always say this with a tone of slight apology but no plea for sympathy per se.
Finally find out her passions in a first conversation and study up on these. Especially if she has a hobby you might like ask her to teach you about it.
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Crazy Tosser
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cristo said:
How old are you, out of interest?
It's a quote *sigh*
How old am I... arrgh... forgot...
- #85
binzing
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How long does it take to make ONE? WTF
Please, stop now while your slightly ahead.
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Renge Ishyo
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That's the right attitude. I feel for ya; I've been there too. The cool thing is that in 10 years you'll probably be making six figures while she is waiting tables at Denny's. It's sort of the way that nature balances these things out in the end.
Yes, *common girls* do do this thing to men on purpose (and a bunch of other things). I have two sisters and i watched them for years before they got a clue and stopped treating people like crap (so I know the truth!). In the olden days you couldn't really tell, but in the age of cell phones it is reasonable to expect people to check their cell phones on a regular basis and respond to calls if they want to as most people carry it with them and can check caller ID even if they don't pick up. *Especially* if they are a young girl. Do you really think this same girl wouldn't pick up if it is Jenny calling to go to the mall to buy shoes? People of value wouldn't do this sort of thing to another person knowing that it's hurting them, but such people are rare.
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Renge Ishyo said:
Nice try. Theoretical physicists don't make six figures a year. And grad students make less than waiters at Denny's :P
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Renge Ishyo
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Who said you had to become a theoretical physicist? One word: engineer.
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Renge Ishyo said:
He could become a cocktail waitress with his physics degree.
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Renge Ishyo
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Those tips would probably be better than at Denny's.