I cant even find words on how to ask this question. My father brought it up to me and I don't know how to answer it............... I am at a fixed location you take off at near light speed away from me, 5 years later I look up in the sky and you would almost be 5 light year away from me. Now because it takes time for the light from the ship to reach my eyes is the ship further away than it appears to be. By the time the ships light reaches my eyes from that location has it already moved on? Lets do this the other way around. The ship is coming towards me at near light speed. I see the light from it after it already happened. Lets make up a number and say its a 5 minute lag time. Does that mean the space ship lands next to me 5 minutes before I see it??? I am not grasping something here... Also.... Why does it appear too take so long for a space ship traveling away from me at near light speed to reach it destination. I watch you travel too a star 5 light year away. You don't stop and you make a U-turn at the star and come right back. You felt 10 years go by I felt 70 year go by. Why when you where traveling at near light speed did I see you take 35 year to get too the star. I usually grasp stuff like this pretty easily... That's probably a good sign that I don't understand it at all lol Hope I get some answers! Thanks!!!!!!!