They're talkin, but we ain't hearin?
Re: Fermi's question - "Where are they"
Just two of many possibilities:
1) FTL communication of ANY kind simply isn't possible. It's like trying to come up with a perpetual motion machine. No matter HOW long ANY culture has to advance its technological expertise, a thousand years, a MILLION, it doesn't matter. Turns out FTL communication of ANY kind just isn't possible in this universe, and it never will be.
In which case...
It's so G.D. expensive to build pretty much any kind of transmitter with the power to send messages over long enough distances to get to anyone who could possibly be listening, while still delivering a strong enough signal on the receiving end to be detected let alone understood above b.g. radiation, that no one ever dedicates the effort to doing it.
It takes SO many THOUSANDS of years for messages traveling near light speed to make the trip that it's just plain flat out useless as any form of "communication", and as a result, again, nobody bothers trying it on the scale required for anyone to actually be able to pick it up against background radiation over the distances involved.
Somebody out there DID try it, for over nine thousand years before giving up, but the signals they sent either haven't gotten here yet, or the last signals sent passed our planet by two thousand years ago, so we missed it.
2) FTL communication isn't just possible, but our entire universe is awash in a thick sea of FTL communications between countless interstellar communities, but NOBODY is idiot enough to try using electromagnetic radiation as a carrier due to it's inherent limitations, so, since we aren't even aware of whatever the hell physical phenomena are used to do the trick, we aren't hearing all the gabbing going on all around us.
I.e., while we're still sending up smoke signals modulated by an ox hide blanket over a burning log, (and naturally watching the horizon for someone else's smoke signals), everyone else is using the equivalent of digital satellite communications to send and receive their equivalent of everything from I Love Lucy re-runs, to billing information and BBS rants, that our current level of technology is simply unable to detect in any way at all.
Monsters