cdux said:
being able to crush a star to a single nucleus (Neutron Stars)
This is not a very good description of a neutron star. A neutron star is not "a single nucleus"; it's much larger than a nucleus, both in terms of mass (a typical neutron star has a mass somewhat larger than the Sun) and in terms of size (a typical neutron star has a diameter of tens to hundreds of kilometers). Also, a neutron star is all neutrons; an atomic nucleus is a mixture of neutrons and protons. The only real similarity between a neutron star and an atomic nucleus is that both have approximately the same density.
cdux said:
His argument is that Gravity is a force that scales and that it is not simply a matter of adding individual components and hence to claim it's weak, but that since space is bent in those areas, then gravity as a fundamental force of nature becomes stronger.
This depends on how you define "stronger". A very compact object like a neutron star has a much larger "acceleration due to gravity" at its surface than an ordinary star like the Sun (more than a billion times larger). But that's just because the same mass (approximately) is packed into a much smaller volume; it isn't due to any change in, for example, Newton's gravitational constant, G, which is the closest thing we have, classically speaking, to a measure of the strength of gravity "as a fundamental force of nature".
Even inside a black hole, G is the same, so gravity as a fundamental force is the same. Spacetime curvature becomes very strong as you get close to the singularity at the center of the hole, but that's just because the object that collapsed to form the hole left behind strong curvature; it's not due to any change in the "fundamental force" itself. At least, that's how I see it.
There is one possible thing he could mean that is true: when he says that gravity scales and that it is not simply a matter of adding individual components, he could mean that gravity is nonlinear; that is, if you have multiple gravitating objects, you can't determine the total field due to all of them by just adding together the individual fields of each object taken in isolation. However, if that's what he means, he's not making it very clear, IMO.
cdux said:
I wonder not only about the claim's accuracy, but also if it's only a matter of interpretation and nobody is really wrong or right, as long as the discussion is framed properly.
It looks to me like the claim is based on using vague terminology and not looking very closely at the actual details of the physics.