Is dating a younger guy a bad idea?

[RocketSurgery]

hahah. yeah ok... but u don't understand these are my friends from school. i went to this prissy catholic all girls school, they are uptight bout stuff like that. I know , its sound stupid.. I'm an adult now and I should be able be myself, but I've known these girls since i was like 8, and wot they think matters to me. My best friend went out wit this guy who had.. well... a pretty crappy sense of style ... and they literally sat her down and told her to break up wit him. She did it in the end coz the social pressure within the group was too much... !

If you are so slavish to the criticisms of your "friends" then he might be better off without you. However if you do go out with him then it shows that you are an independent individual who does care what their friends think but that you have a strong enough personality to be assertive and disregard the comments of them when what they have to say is none of their business. As long as you are not infringing upon their territory then I see not why they should care. Or perhaps you are simply taking their harmless advice as though it were an order. I'm not trying to be disparaging but trying to encourage you to be more independent and assertive. Think about your reasons for liking the boy and try to come to a conclusion as to why you care about the social impacts that you would be in for challenging the norm (and a silly norm at that). Good luck :D

 

[Evo]

Why are people talking to a non-existant member?

 

[rocomath]

Oh come on! He's only 2 years younger than you, who cares! At least get to know him a little more, maybe you'll like him enough to say screw what my friends think :)

 

[cristo]

Why are people talking to a non-existant member?

...says the one with imaginary friends [/size]

 

[Evo]

...says the one with imaginary friends [/size]

Hey, my imaginary best friend just returned from Istanbul. He sent me a postcard.

I'm still looking for an imaginary boyfriend since my imaginary best friend is already taken. Or maybe I will just outlive his girlfriend.

Quality imaginary people are hard to come by.

 

[phyzmatix]

Quality imaginary people are hard to come by.

Geez...it takes YEEAAARRSSS to get a good one these days...They just don't make them like they used to, you know?

EDIT: Why did I even open this thread...I'm married for crying out loud! To a WOMAN!

 

[vincentm]

yes my friends are a bit odd. they are very prim and proper...there are lots of thing they don't approve of.

But i bet behind closed doors they...

 

[rewebster]

Geez...it takes YEEAAARRSSS to get a good one these days...They just don't make them like they used to, you know?

EDIT: Why did I even open this thread...I'm married for crying out loud! To a WOMAN!

you're not getting a Klondike bar tonight

 

[phyzmatix]

you're not getting a Klondike bar tonight

 

[rewebster]

Hey, my imaginary best friend just returned from Istanbul. He sent me a postcard.

I'm still looking for an imaginary boyfriend since my imaginary best friend is already taken. Or maybe I will just outlive his girlfriend.

Quality imaginary people are hard to come by .

oooohhhh, Evo------

I thought you considered ALL of us at least good 'imaginary people'---

 

[Evo]

oooohhhh, Evo------

I thought you considered ALL of us at least good 'imaginary people'---

Of course I do!

 

[DaveC426913]

heya! this really cute guy asked me out today, but 5 minutes later i found out that he's 2 years younger than me. he's ok with it but I feel kinda funny bout going out wit him. most of my girl friends think its a bad idea... Wot do u guyz tink?

Consider:

If you are still concerned about what your girlfriends think about the guys you date, perhaps you are too young for this relationship (regardless of your age), hmm?

One of the hallmarks of achieving adulthood is the realization that, when it comes to dating, it is not their opinions that matter.



But if you still want a number:

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

 

[mattmns]

18/2 + 7 = 16 Luckily I'm 22

 

[Daniel Y.]

hahah. yeah ok... but u don't understand these are my friends from school. i went to this prissy catholic all girls school, they are uptight bout stuff like that. I know , its sound stupid.. I'm an adult now and I should be able be myself, but I've known these girls since i was like 8, and wot they think matters to me. My best friend went out wit this guy who had.. well... a pretty crappy sense of style ... and they literally sat her down and told her to break up wit him. She did it in the end coz the social pressure within the group was too much... !

Wow, you have really, really shallow friends. That or you and your friends are still too young to not have those kinds of prejudices (that's my bet). My advice...Keep watching Hello Kitty and whatever other stuff they show on the Disney channel now, and don't let your girlfriends get in the way of this, like, totally super cute guy! ^^ <(^^<) (>^^)> Yaay!

 

[Evo]

Guys, you're talking to a ghost. This person hasn't been here in years.

 

[rewebster]

Are you going to say that THREE times, Evo?
what's wrong with you, Evo?


we're MEN!

 

[binzing]

WTF, two years is nothing. (OK when your in like, say, middle school then it does)

 

[Daniel Y.]

Double-Post. :(

 

[Daniel Y.]

Judging from Evo's last comment, she might be happily married to the guy, now.

 

[Art]

Guys, you're talking to a ghost. This person hasn't been here in years.

Probably back in school learning to write in English. I hate that abbreviated text style young people use today. It's fine for phone texting where characters are limited but outside that it simply looks illiterate.

 

[mcknia07]

Two years, is no big deal at all, I say go for it, if you like him

**Wow, I just realized that this is a few years old, lol. I hope it all worked out for her and this "really cute guy" **

 

[lisab]

...I post to dead threads...

 

[rewebster]

...I thread the dead to posts..

 

[DaveC426913]

Haha. I didn't even notice it was so old. And the culprit - jinnylima - is a newbie. I wonder if s/he spent an afternoon digging down 40000 posts or so...

 

[RocketSurgery]

Neither did I. Haha this nice chain reaction caused all of us to reply to this fossil of a thread without knowing it. Bravo PFers

 

[Tsu]

SMILE! You're on Candid PF Camera!

 

[Lisa!]

Why are people talking to a non-existant member?

Because her cutepic does exist in member photo thread!

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

I'm 58, so that means I can have a girlfriend 36 years old. I told my wife about this. She said I should be careful she doesn't divide me in two. And add 7 lumps on my head.

 

[_Muddy_]

But if you still want a number:

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

Well I'm nearly 15 but still 14 so the youngest girl i can date is 14?

 

[DaveC426913]

Well I'm nearly 15 but still 14 so the youngest girl i can date is 14?

Correct.

 

[_Muddy_]

Correct.

Do you have a similair kind of thing for older girls?

 

[DaveC426913]

Do you have a similair kind of thing for older girls?

The formula is universal. It works if you are the older/younger partner and of you are the male/female partner.

And it still means that, at 14, you should only be dating other 14 year olds.


P.S. Don't take this formula seriously.

 

[Lisa!]

I'm still looking for an imaginary boyfriend since my imaginary best friend is already taken.

.

By an imaginary gf or a real 1? I've noticed that most of men have some of these imaginary gfs that they're going to date(or are already dating)when things don't work the way they want while they're dating someone...

 

[matthyaouw]

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

While this is fine for a large range of ages, I think it needs fine tuning for the upper bounds. A hundred year old can date a 57 year old according to that. Perhaps we should replace 7 with a number proportional to your age or the square of your age.

 

[NeoDevin]

While this is fine for a large range of ages, I think it needs fine tuning for the upper bounds. A hundred year old can date a 57 year old according to that. Perhaps we should replace 7 with a number proportional to your age or the square of your age.

If we replace 7 with a number proportional to your age, then the entire thing just become some fraction of your age, which is no good at the lower end (which is where we're concerned with). If we replace it instead with a number proportional to the square of your age, then at higher ages we will still run into trouble, the lower limit would eventually be larger than your age.

 

[_Muddy_]

The formula is universal. It works if you are the older/younger partner and of you are the male/female partner.

And it still means that, at 14, you should only be dating other 14 year olds.


P.S. Don't take this formula seriously.

hahaha no i wasn't planning on taking it seriously

 

[DaveC426913]

A hundred year old can date a 57 year old according to that.

What's wrong with that? Do you think the 100yo and the 57yo will not be able to relate to each other? Or do you think one will steal the best years of the other's life?

 

[DaveC426913]

hahaha no i wasn't planning on taking it seriously

Good.

But still. Don't be datin' 13yo's or 17yo's.

 

[jim mcnamara]

...I thread the dead to posts..

I think the thread resumed "life" more because the title is interesting. And there are a lot of, um, unattached males prowling about PF.

Titles like 'Flying Saucers over New York' don't get many posts, the ones on love-lives stricken do really well. Prolly for the same reason the 'Dear Abby' column did so well for years. As did 'Sleepless in Seattle'.

 

[syxx]

Haha.. finally found a suitable place for a first post!

In any event, I read the beginning of this thread and it strikes me as ironic that the OP friends seem like the type that would frown on dating and younger guy at that age, but getting older would probably be begging for a younger man.

 

[Evo]

By an imaginary gf or a real 1? I've noticed that most of men have some of these imaginary gfs that they're going to date(or are already dating)when things don't work the way they want while they're dating someone...

Unfortunately, she's quite real.

 

[Borek]

My wife is older then me. Not a big deal.




Well, she is older by one day only. Which makes the deal even smaller

 

[Borek]

But if you still want a number:

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

My neighbor son is 2 yo, looks like he should look for 8 yo GF

 

[DaveC426913]

My wife is older then me. Not a big deal.
Well, she is older by one day only. Which makes the deal even smaller

Hm. Does she still count as a cougar?

 

[Borek]

Hm. Does she still count as a cougar?

I don't think so. I chased her thinking she was two years younger

 

[_Muddy_]

My neighbor son is 2 yo, looks like he should look for 8 yo GF

That means they youngest girl he can date is 8, but are 2 year old boys really that interested in getting a girlfriend?

 

[Lisa!]

Unfortunately, she's quite real.

Good men are either taken, dead or gay!:groan:
What killes me is that most of the time the woman who's taken the good guy, doesn't realize what a gem she's got and therefor she treats him so badly.

*sorry for my grammatical errors*:shy:

 

[Astronuc]

With respect to the OP's question, I'd say sure. I generally dated older women, but also occassionally women somewhat younger by a couple of years. My wife is 6.5 years older than me. Most of my friends are older.

 

[mattmns]

Good men are either taken, dead or gay!:groan:
What killes me is that most of the time the woman who's taken the good guy, doesn't realize what a gem she's got and therefor she treats him so badly.

*sorry for my grammatical errors*:shy:

Hey! I'm not dead, taken, nor gay, are you saying I'm not a good man?

 

[rewebster]

I think the thread resumed "life" more because the title is interesting. And there are a lot of, um, unattached males prowling about PF.

Titles like 'Flying Saucers over New York' don't get many posts, the ones on love-lives stricken do really well. Prolly for the same reason the 'Dear Abby' column did so well for years. As did 'Sleepless in Seattle'.

yep, yeah, (and I can't remember that other one used besides 'yes' from that other thread)--

I would venture a guess that some/most of the women on the PF that have stated/admitted that they are single that their PM box is full or gets full especially right after they DO admit that they are single. (or even if they don't)