Is dating a younger guy a bad idea?

[DaveC426913]

I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.

To what is this "higher existence" devoted? Why is it better? How does one define better?
Why do you establish a false premise by your use of the word "succumbing"?
Why do you assume these desires are "hindering"?
Why do you think that denying our natural needs and desires is going to make us happier and more pleasant company?
What is the purpose of this "ambition" and why is it better than loving thy neighbour or thy children? How is ambition a more noble cause? How does it make you a better person?

What you have described above could be interpreted by many as the exact opposite of noble. It can be interpreted as self-serving power-seeking megalomania.

To many, the highest purpose we can devote ourselves to is friends and family, the lowest cause being personal ambition.


Not that there's anything wrong with ascribing to the philosphy you detail, I'm just saying that it's different strokes for different folks.

 

[BryanP]

That and the last time I checked, people have reproductive organs that actually (wow can you believe it~!) remains meaningful even up to this day in whatever function they have.

 

[Lisa!]

I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.

hmmm...I was thinking about not eating/drinking anymore since we can save many of our planet resourses, but unfortunately that's a different thing since we can stay alive this way. Not to mention about the joys we get from what we eat and drink! On the other hand, what you say is still a nobel prize since this way we can get rid of human race, these annoying race who're ruining the Earth that others species are living on it!
Anyway as a human being you're free to choose your way of life and we can force you to live and think the way we think that's better, but I don't think that's be a good idea not to care about our body's needs! I might be wrong though, so all people aren't the same way.

 

[DT_tokamak]

Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.

So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.

 

[loseyourname]

Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.

So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.

There's arguably a good reason for people to feel this way, in that one practice perpetuates the existence of our species and one does not.

 

[NoTime]

"I'm not here for your entertainment..."

You are entertaining though.
Do you mind if we're not so lumpy?

I've gotten that "You're too young for me comment" a lot lately.
It does seem to be a big consideration for a lot of women.
They also get annoyed when you tell them just how much younger they actually are.

I ended up on a date with this one woman thru a musician friend of mine.
Not a bad date, until I mentioned my kids.
Turned out she was younger than my sons girlfriend

Oh, well. Maybe I should take up cougar hunting.

 

[DT_tokamak]

There's arguably a good reason for people to feel this way, in that one practice perpetuates the existence of our species and one does not.

Do you argue that reason? I would be interested to hear that argument, especially considering that we have more than enough people on this planet at present.

 

[Moonbear]

Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.

So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.

Still pretty useless for someone interested in finding a mate who ISN'T celibate. They sure wouldn't do me any good.

 

[DT_tokamak]

Still pretty useless for someone interested in finding a mate who ISN'T celibate. They sure wouldn't do me any good.

That is true. I cannot deny your point there.

I like to point out to people the many benefits that come with a single & celibate lifestyle. People usually never consider it as an option. But you have a level of freedom to learn and explore, completely unhindered, by not having relational attachments of that nature.

As I've lived, I've endured many a friend's discourse on the stresses, constrictions, and overall unhappiness they've had to endure while being in a relationship. I say to them, "why do you put yourself through this?" And they say, "because I love her." And I do not comprehend the logic of this response, and moreover, contend that it is not really love, but familiarity and attachment that they suffer from. They, by observation, are happy less often than they are unhappy. I'm quite certain this can be experimentally verified. So why succumb to a state in which you are happy less than you are unhappy, bearing no logical reason, and to which the only defense for said state is of an irrational and emotional persuasion?

 

[Moonbear]

I like to point out to people the many benefits that come with a single & celibate lifestyle. People usually never consider it as an option. But you have a level of freedom to learn and explore, completely unhindered, by not having relational attachments of that nature.

You don't have to be single or celibate to have that freedom. Different people have different types of relationships, and you seem to be making assumptions about those relationships to claim one needs to be single or celibate (or both) to be free. For example, I'm single, not celibate, am in a relationship I enjoy, yet am completely unhindered in doing whatever I want. I wouldn't go for any relationship that put restrictions on my freedoms. Do whatever floats your boat, but don't push it on others as better than any choice they might make for themselves.

 

[DT_tokamak]

You don't have to be single or celibate to have that freedom. Different people have different types of relationships, and you seem to be making assumptions about those relationships to claim one needs to be single or celibate (or both) to be free. For example, I'm single, not celibate, am in a relationship I enjoy, yet am completely unhindered in doing whatever I want. I wouldn't go for any relationship that put restrictions on my freedoms. Do whatever floats your boat, but don't push it on others as better than any choice they might make for themselves.

I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts. This has nothing to do with me as I'm just a guy on an internet forum and I have no power over your life.

 

[binzing]

Ha, one of the banner ads on PF for this post is "Cougar Woman Younger Man".

 

[binzing]

I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.

Your cause is noble but I'm sorry, life is too short to not screw...

 

[Moonbear]

I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts. This has nothing to do with me as I'm just a guy on an internet forum and I have no power over your life.

Please don't play armchair psychologist here. There are no internal conflicts, I just think your point of view is rather oddly misplaced in a thread asking about women dating younger men, which leads me to think you're trying to push a particular idea rather than take a natural path in the discussion. Nobody asked about celibacy. If they wanted to be celibate, they wouldn't have asked the original question in the first place. I'll leave celibacy for the priests...as far as I know, they're not available for dating either.

 

[DaveC426913]

I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts.

You're doing some serious backpedaling here.

You stated your opinions as if they were stronger than the status quo.

"... a single and celibate life marked a higher existence..."
"... the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership..."
"...why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires?
"...Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition.
"...Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains
"... I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating..."

In fact, 'twas us (or more accurately, me ) who said:

"...different strokes for different folks..."

You now seem to be trying to claim credit for the "different strokes" philosophy, and then suggesting that other interpretation of your words is ... how did you put it? "...the result of our own internal conflicts..."