Can we agree on the following?
- If you define ordering of events as the ordering of their time labels, then yes ordering is coordinate system dependent (even inside light cones).I assume we can agree on that, as I gave an explicit example above. I want to make it clear people tend to use this coordinate system dependent information to define ordering. Which, if you want ordering to be coordinate system independent you obviously then cannot do.
Once we agree on this, then the thrust of your question has much less meaning. For it just reduces to discussion over whether that specific coordinate system is an inertial coordinate system. This is a separate issue. I don't like to get into terminology disputes, so let's just define an inertial coordinate system so we each know what we mean by the term. That should clarify discussion.
When global inertial coordinate systems are possible, I would call any coordinate system that has a (-1,1,1,1) diagonal metric everywhere, (or opposite signature depending on your sign choice), an inertial coordinate system. This is essentially how Landau defines it with his homogeneous and isotropic requirement. This is also the definition wiki seems to have settled on
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inertial_frame_of_reference
As an aside, you seem to be approaching this from the other side: that SR
defines what counts as an inertial frame. If you approach SR like this, then it is trivially true as a tautology. The modern definition of SR as requiring the laws of physics to have Poincare symmetry, avoids the definition of inertial frame entirely and therefore, while in addition to being more mathematically rigorous, doesn't depend on a notoriously difficult concept to be defined precisely.
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EDIT: Just read what you appended to the post. Yes the Standard model has Lorentz symmetry. And yes it doesn't have T symmetry. If it did, would you count that as an inertial frame? See why that is not how you should define an inertial frame? If you use "what spatial/time symmetries physics has" to define an inertial frame, then trivially and tautologically all inertial frames will have the physics look the same. The modern definition of SR is the laws of physics have Poincare symmetry (Lorentz symmetry + translations + rotations). So the standard model can fit with SR, and yet still look different in inertial coordinate systems with different handedness (as even hinted at by the wiki article on inertial frames).