Ken Natton said:
Okay, but like Cartesian co-ordinate systems and Euclidian geometry, these metrics are just intellectual constructs, tools of analysis, rather aspects of physical reality.
Since the rest of this paragraph looks right to me, there's probably nothing wrong with your understanding, but I would be careful about this way of putting it. The metrics of spacetime themselves aren't normally thought of as mere intellectual constructs. The metric is quite unlike a choice of coordinate system, and in fact conveys coordinate independent information about space-time itself, such as whether space is curved, and the coordinate-independent Minkowski `length' of a space-time curve.
There have been those (I think Poincare was one) who thought that the choice of geometry itself was as much a convention as choice of coordinate system. But I wouldn't say that this was a mainstream idea today.
The truth, is it not, is that all real bodies, from subatomic particles to galaxies, exist in permanent non-inertial reference frames?
Again, this is probable pit-nicking, but accelerated bodies can be analysed from the point of view of an inertial frame. What's (I think) true is that, the existence of gravity, inertial frames as understood in SR no longer exist globally. Rather, one can apply SR at a local level - working on a small scale, not extending your t and x coordinates too far, objects still behave approximately as SR says they do.
But the concept of equivalence is extendable to the equivalence of all accelerating reference frames, is it not?
I tentatively believe it's only to all *freely* falling frames.
It seems unlikely to me that special relativity describes a physical reality that only exists in idealised conditions. Surely, the physical reality is always the same. Special relativity just covers a special case of it, general relativity generalises that principle.
Since gravity is pervasive, all space time is warped a little - so I think in that sense SR does only describe a physical reality that exists in idealised conditions. At least, it's not clear to me that there's anywhere where the idealised conditions obtain. Do you see this as a problem? The way in which SR approximates GR is mathematically well defined and well understood.
Physical reality does not actually impose those constraints, and thus relativity of sequence is always possible. Once again, we have the undermining of the notion of cause and effect that worried me.
I don't think this was quite the lesson - though as you can see, there was controversy and...maybe something more...
I would summarise the main points as: (a) the temporal order of two space-like events is dependent on inertial frame, but, in standard interpretations of SR*, this has no causal implications as such events lie outside the light cone and thus are causally independent; (b) very crazy/artificial non-inertial frames may be constructed on which a later event (my death) has a smaller coordinate time than an earlier event (my birth); but such frames are so artificial - really little more than a choice of labelling or giving coordinates to distant events - that nobody should try and read off the causal story or physical story off the numbers of the resulting chart; (c) some very strange solutions of GR are possible, which allow a kind of circular causation, but these solutions seem removed from reality and, at least locally, there's an event by event causal story - it's just that it loops around on itself; Even in this model, though, this circular causal chain is not a frame dependent matter.
tl;dr
I don't think you should worry.
*e.g. no tachyons.