One 'other position' is the field approach. We have a quantum field which is in a two particle state ( it has 2 child particles ). Immediately after the field is prepared it has angular momentum ##J_0##. When the first measurement is made an amount ##\pm j## of angular momentum is assigned to one particle, leaving the field (immediately) with angular momentum ##J_0\mp j##. By the time the second measurement is made this has been corrected by assigning ##\mp j## to the second particle. Nothing strange has happened. It is accepted that the energy and momenta of a field (quantum or classical ) can do this. Unless a fundamental conservation law is to be broken ( even for an infinitesimal time ) this is the only thing that can happen.Not necessarily. I don't know about that, I said "it seems to me" with the limited judgement I have available. My purpose is to have the other outlook explained to me, since the FTL one has its own problems. So once I understand the other position I can agree to disagree or embrace it.
Maybe it's naive but it works for me.