PAllen said:
might detect a muon neutrino at a time consistent with its always having that mass
That object doesn't exist.
The way to think of it that minimizes conceptual misunderstandings is that there are three neutrinos, nu1, nu2 and nu3. They have definite masses. Nu3 has about half the coupling strength to muons and taus that it would if it only coupled to one, and a tiny coupling to electrons. Nu2 has equal couplings, again, one-third the maximum, and nu1 has about three-quarters of the maximum coupling to electrons, and 10% of the maximum to the other two. Those are the particles in the theory, not nu_e, nu_mu and nu_tau.
If I set up an experiment where I produce neutrinos of a given flavor and detect neutrinos of a given flavor, I do not know if the neutrino in flight is a nu1, nu2 or nu3, so I need to add amplitudes, not intensities, so I get interference - which we call oscillations. (This is not the greatest terminology.) Asking what mass eigenstate was in flight is exactly equivalent to asking "which slit did the electron go through"?
If I have some other measurement, like timing, it tells me which mass eigenstate it was, and that breaks the interference, just as identifying which slit breaks the interference. You will know you had a nu2 and that you
always had a nu2. A nu2 was emitted and a nu2 was detected.