Since no one else seems to be biting on this (to me) very interesting subject, and because I love to hearmyself talk (

) I'd like to add some more random observations:
This question really goes to the heart of quantum interpretation. What is the wavefunction? People originally thought it was continuous charge distribution, but quickly realized that couldn't be right, because the charge of an electron or EM field of a photon would then be felt (in small amounts) everywhere. Born figured out that it was probability amplitude, and that the absolute square of the amplitude was the probability density function which, when integrated over a space, gives you the actual odds of finding the particle in that space.
Easy enough right? The big problem then becomes why and how does the wavefunction change when there's a measurement? If it's all just raw statistics with no physical meaning, why *doesn't* whether the detector is connected to the monitor matter? If it were all just probability and Bayes' theorem, then the human observer would be necessary. But he's not. So there's something more at work.
We've got to look for something that physically occurs when the wavefuncion "collapses" to figure out why that happens. And a good starting point is the contrast between a photon striking a mirror and a photon striking a detector. In many experimental setups, one collapses the wavefunction, the other does not. (i.e. you can use mirrors or lenses or beamsplitters or what have you - let's just say "glass" - to bounce photons around as much as you want and still get an interference pattern if you do it right). Yet in both cases (glass vs. detector) electrons are being perturbed by the photon, and new photons are emerging as a result. The same kind of *stuff* is happening. What's the difference?
In the case of glass, the electrons are perturbed, they wobble, and then emit a new photon - conserving energy and momentum. The photon out is (for our purposes) identical to the one that came in. Critically, the photon leaves the glass behind with no trace of it ever having been there. And so maybe it wasn't - because in QM, if there was no evidence that it happened, it might as well not have happened. In any event, we *cannot* know, in principle, whether a photon ever struck that piece of glass. And so bouncing around in a lens or mirror doesn't destory the photon's superpositioned state - because it may not have hit that mirror at all. Put another way, the state of the glass after the photon is gone is identical to the state of the glass before the photon got there - so the state of the glass makes no contribution (and therefore is not entangled with) the state of the photon. (It doesn't matter how many molecules are involved in the photon's "journey" through the lens or bouncing off the mirror - they all wind up in the exact state they were in before.)
Contrast this with a photon hitting a detector. Assuming the detector uses the photoelectric effect, a small current is generated by the strike of the photon. The current takes the form of electric charge - electrons - moving around in a wire, jumping around, getting excited, atoms getting ionized, etc. Billions and billions of molecules are affected even by that tiny little bit of current that was generated as it propagates through the wire.
Electricity is still technically a QM phenominon though, so isn't it possible the wire returns to the state it was in after the current has passed through it? No way - all wires have resistence, which means heat, and even the tiny current from a single photon will generate *some* heat. But even if you ignored that, the current winds up activating electronic circuitry, and once that starts happening there's no going back. The transistors involved contain gazillions of molecules that are interacting and exchanging electrons and generating heat and doing all the things transistors do - all because that photon struck the detector.
So the screen is shut off. All those molecules have still been affected by the photon's strike. They *remember* it. There's evidence of it, and if you really wanted to find it, you could. And therefore the wave function has collapsed. Put another way, the state of the detector - a macroscopic object - has substantially been altered by the hit of the photon. Knowing the state of the detector tells us the state of the photon. The photon has now become entangled with a macroscopic object.
The fancy word for all of that is decoherence. If you let the wave function keep evolving, accounting for every molecule of the wire and each molecule in each transistor, not to mention if you could (somehow) account for the heat as well, you'd find that the wave function would be an absolute mess -
but - it would apporximate, very closely, the state of 100% certainty that the photon struck that detector. The state of the detector has become so intertwined with the state of the photon that there's
no way the detector could be in that state if the photon hadn't hit there (compared to glass, where the state of the glass means nothing about whether the photon hit). And whether the human looked at the result wouldn't really matter all that much. To be sure, if the human looked, he'd become entangled with the photon too, but the detector's in the state that it's in, and it ain't going back no matter what, so no one really cares whether the human looks.
Decoherence is the subject of a lot of research right now, but IMHO is the leading candidate, if not the outright winner, for explaining the "quantum/classical" transition. (Unfortunately, it's also the leading problem in developing quantum computers). Decoherence doesn't explain everything either - technically speaking, the system is still in a state of superposition, but the other state is so miniscule as to be undetectible. But where is it? That's the subject of debate as well.