russ_watters said:
I don't think I've ever seen that be an actual accepted practice (discouragement). Can you provide some sources/context? Indeed, you might be reading the issue backwards. Constant praise for no reason seems to be the standard/accepted practice and it sets kids up for failure by making true failure hurt more instead of teaching them that failure is part of learning and that learning is hard, but that's ok. It's counter-intuitive, but the constant praise might just be what is turning kids off to STEM. And maybe that's what you're perceiving. Here's an article about it:
https://www.theatlantic.com/educati...-because-they-dont-think-theyre-smart/382165/
To repeat the counter-intuitive point of the article:
too much or the wrong kind of praise is discouraging.
In any case, the issue of "nobody warned me" is under constant discussion in the academic and career guidance forums. Threads about "nobody says I can do it" are much more rare.
I agree with you that the wrong kind of praise (essentially praising kids for "showing up" without putting in the real effort needed to learn new tasks) is indeed harmful and is more likely to discourage students from pursuing science (or any other field). But if you read the article carefully, the issue isn't really about praise about the child's abilities, but more towards engaging in their process of learning, and how engaging the process can keep students motivated. I contend that a common perception that is held within North American society (and which is reiterated by the children in discussion) is that intelligence is some fixed quantity, unchangeable. And therefore, that only certain types of people are able to "get" science or math, or any other intellectual field. So when parents praise their children for their intelligence, I can see why this may play into the kid's notions that their intelligence is fixed, especially if they start to struggle on a subject and thus discourage students from engaging in challenging themselves.
As someone who is half-Asian (I am half-Japanese) and familiar with many Asian cultures, that is NOT the default assumption both within my own family and more broadly in Asian cultures -- the expectation is that students can and should learn any subject, including math and science.
I should also note that within the area I grew up in (in a suburban location about a half-hour outside of Toronto, Canada during the late 80s and early 90s, where the majority of the population were, and are, of European -- mostly British -- descent), I've witnessed plenty of families who were (compared to the Asian families I knew) disengaged from and lacked interest in the academic success of their children.
Oh, come on! "not capable of doing every job" and "only capable of doing very specific types of jobs" are practically exact opposites of each other, leaving the other 98% of jobs ignored. You're a mathematician, aren't you? You have to be able to do better reading what I'm actually saying rather than reacting to some preconception.
I think you should read what I've written carefully. If a person is not capable of doing every job, then what does that mean? That means that person is capable of doing certain jobs and not others, right? By implication, that means that this person is only capable of doing very specific types of jobs. Now "very specific types of jobs" could be a wide and varied list, but it is still true.
What part of that does not make sense?
(As an aside, I should clarify that I am
not a mathematician -- I am a statistician. As physicist-turned-statistician Cosma Shalizi from CMU has stated, statistics can be thought of as "mathematical engineering" or "mathematical science" -- applying the tools and methods of mathematics to make inferences about the "real" word, as opposed to developing the methodologies of mathematics itself).
What is "beforehand"? Look at the context of this thread. "Beforehand" can be any time before they get evicted from their apartment at age 30 with a phd because they are broke because they can't find a job in academia and never considered that possibility before. The path to that is littered with viable off-ramps and the "punishment" for failure is a higher paying job in industry!
You are making a straw man argument. My point is that we shouldn't pre-judge what someone might be good at, or what type of job a person can do, until that person has the opportunity to challenge themselves and try different opportunities.