truewt - I'm joining this discussion a little late, but maybe I can still help to clear up some of your confusion.
I think you're leading yourself astray in the way you're thinking about the definition of electrical potential. Yes, it is defined to be the work required to move a charge from point A to point B, but that definition applies to the work that was needed to establish the potential difference in the first place. You presumably have some voltage source connected to your circuit, let's say a battery, so the voltage represents the work the battery does when it "lifts" charges from the lower potential at its negative terminal to the higher potential ( or altitude, I like that analogy as well) at the positive terminal. I tend to think about these kinds of circuits like roller coaster rides, where the battery is the mechanism that lifts the cars to the highest point, and then they just roll "downhill" wherever there is a potential drop.
So ... the battery has a voltage between its terminals, defined as above, and that is unchanged no matter what resistance circuit is placed between them. Even if the terminals are disconnected (infinite resistance), the voltage is still there, unchanged. Now, when you put your parallel circuit between the terminals, you're still measuring the potential difference between the same two points, so it must be the same. If you had different voltage drops across the two resistors, then you'd have to have a potential difference between two connected ends of the resistors, but since they're connected only by ideal wire, you'd get an infinite current there - can't be.
You're correct that there's a different amount of work being done as charges traverse each of the two resistors, but that just means that different amounts of energy are being dissipated from the resistors (one gets hotter). It's like you have kids sliding down two sliding boards of equal height, but one has greater friction. The kids going down that board will slide more slowly, hence fewer of them will go down per minute, and their butts will get hotter. The change in their potential energy from top to bottom is the same, however.
Did that help any?
- Bruce