Since 1832, officially. Unofficially, far before that.
That is because in lay and legal terminology, weight is synonymous with mass. Since the NIST sets the legal standards of weights and measures in the US, it is governed by legal terminology.
No, it is not. The legal unit of mass in the US is the pound. The slug is a seldom used derived unit.
Newton did not say that force is mass times acceleration (F=ma). What he said instead is that force is proportional to the product of mass and acceleration, or F=kma. (Actually he didn't say that either; he said "Mutationem motus proportionalem esse vi motrici impressae, et fieri secundum lineam rectam qua vis illa imprimitur," or "The alteration of motion is ever proportional to the motive force impressed; and is made in the direction of the right line in which that force is impressed.") In Physics 101, we ignore variations in mass, so change in momentum is simply mass times acceleration. Thus Newton's second law is, ignoring changes in mass, F=kma.
The metric system was designed so that the proportionality constant has a numerical value of 1, exactly. If you measure mass in pounds and force in pounds-force, the proportionality constant is 1/32.17405 lbf-sec2/lb/ft.
Or you could use pounds force and slugs, which are defined as 32.17405 pounds, and then you have F=ma.
Or you could use pounds mass and poundals, which are defined as 1/32.17405 pounds-force, and then you again have F=ma.
Or you could just view us Americans as incredibly stupid and use metric units, and then you again have F=ma.