ok so, i think i probably could have explained myself better earlier but nonetheless...
ok so this entry we have (E_2-E_1) \sin{\varphi} \cos{\varphi}
so you're trying to get this matrix H where the entries in H are given by <i|\hat{H}|j> and i,j \in \{ v_e , v_\mu \}
H will look something like this
\left[ \begin {array}{cc} \left[ \begin {array}{ccc} < v_{{e}}& | \hat{H} |&v_{{e<br />
}} > \end {array} \right] & \left[ \begin {array}{ccc} < v_{{e}}& | \hat{H} | &v_{{\mu}} ><br />
\end {array} \right] \\ \noalign{\medskip} \left[ \begin {array}{ccc} <br />
< v_{{\mu}}& | \hat{H} | &v_{{e}} > \end {array} \right] & \left[ \begin {array}{ccc} < v_{<br />
{\mu}}& | \hat{H} | & v_{{\mu}} > \end {array} \right] \end {array} \right]
so we have computed the entry that goes in the first row,2nd column
3 similar calculations will give you the other entries though.