REAL girl trouble i feel horrible

[Mk]

when we got off the boat

wtf!?!? You were on a boat after some kind of "pre-prom" party?? You must be a freakin rich Canadian. Well, you got to be I guess to have the cooks cuit and glue the bacon together into circles!

I must be seeing the wrong thing! She didn't dance with you or get a picture taken with you, and she just sat alone?? How is that a "fight?" Before I read the comments I thought she was going to break up with you!

Oh well, fare thee well. Live long and prosper, what's that adage? Eat, drink, and make love to women?

 

[zoobyshoe]

maybe my prom made her realize that I won't be here in september? maybe she doesn't realize that I would give anything not to end when I leave.

Hmmm. If you mentioned that you were leaving her before I didn't notice it. This is, indeed, another red flag item for what could be bothering her. At least it resonates with what I'm like: I get sour, distant, and uncooperative when I realize I'm getting emotionally invested in someone who's going to be gone soon. I might even do something to push them away. She may well have viewed prom as a celebration for nothing: the relationship was being sundered in September.

Have you tried getting one of your friends to fish for information about how she feels from one of her friends?

 

[rocketboy]

Hmmm. If you mentioned that you were leaving her before I didn't notice it. This is, indeed, another red flag item for what could be bothering her. At least it resonates with what I'm like: I get sour, distant, and uncooperative when I realize I'm getting emotionally invested in someone who's going to be gone soon. I might even do something to push them away. She may well have viewed prom as a celebration for nothing: the relationship was being sundered in September.

Have you tried getting one of your friends to fish for information about how she feels from one of her friends?

I'm not necessarily leaving her in september, I'm leaving Ottawa in Sept. to go to university in Toronto.

Ya, I have 2 friends that are also friends with her and go to her school. I haven't been able to talk to them yet.

wtf!?!? You were on a boat after some kind of "pre-prom" party?? You must be a freakin rich Canadian. Well, you got to be I guess to have the cooks cuit and glue the bacon together into circles!

I must be seeing the wrong thing! She didn't dance with you or get a picture taken with you, and she just sat alone?? How is that a "fight?" Before I read the comments I thought she was going to break up with you!

Oh well, fare thee well. Live long and prosper, what's that adage? Eat, drink, and make love to women?

The pre-prom party was hosted by one of the girls in my grade parents...and they are rich, I didn't have to pay for that.

The boat was the "after-grad" party which was after our prom dinner. Prom dinner is with all the grads, the parents, and the staff, a formal dinner/celebration. The after-grad boat party is for the grads to go crazy and let loose.

Her sitting there wasn't a fight, me getting mad at her was the fight. Read the first post all the way through it says it in there I'm pretty sure.

 

[rocketboy]

I went out with friends again tonight. I feel a lot better today, less stressed, less depressed, I've been able to think about things other than the situation which is good.

I also called her tonight, I was going to ask her when she would be available to go get coffee or something. I think she was at work though because her mom said she "wasn't available". What made me feel better was when I got home (at 12:35, about 15 mins ago) I checked the phone history and she had called me back at 9:16.

I think that worked out kinda well for the following reasons:

1) I called her, her mom passed on the message that I called, so my gf knows that I care about her and want to talk to her, and am not ignoring her, or playing games.

2) I wasn't home when she called back, which shows to her that although I love her, I'm not going to sit at home waiting for her call.

We'll see, she has exams for the next 3 days. I got invited to a party this coming friday by a girl I met a year ago and who went to university this past year, (she's a year older than I) so I haven't seen her in awhile. I am hoping my gf will come with me, she will have just finished her exams and I have a feeling if she came she would be in a pretty good mood. Unfortunately I also have a feeling that she will be working friday night.

 

[Astronuc]

I am pleased to see that one has calmed down. I think one should wait and talk to one's gf rather than making assumptions.

It occurred to me that during the pre-prom and at the prom, one consumed alcohol while one's girl friend did not. Does she not drink? If one drinks alcohol and one's gf does not, that may lead to conflict. And if one's looses one's temper when inebriated, I would imagine that would have a negative influence on one's partner. I think in the future, one should probably not drink, or at least not when with one's gf.

Perhaps one can send some flowers and a note, some tangible indication that you do care and that you are thinking about her. Wish her well on her exams. Keep such a message short and simple.

Perhaps, one could email one's gf a meaningful song in MP3.

Unforgettable would be good, or think about this song.

Pick something that is meaningful to both of you.
======================================
Thank You
(Page/Plant - Led Zeppelin II)

If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you.
When mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me.

Kind woman, I give you my all, Kind woman, nothing more.

Little drops of rain whisper of the pain, tears of loves lost in the days gone by.
My love is strong, with you there is no wrong,
together we shall go until we die. My, my, my.
An inspiration is what you are to me, inspiration, look... see.

And so today, my world it smiles, your hand in mine, we walk the miles,
Thanks to you it will be done, for you to me are the only one.
Happiness, no more be sad, happiness...I'm glad.
If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you.
When mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me.

 

[rocketboy]

I am pleased to see that one has calmed down. I think one should wait and talk to one's gf rather than making assumptions.

It occurred to me that during the pre-prom and at the prom, one consumed alcohol while one's girl friend did not. Does she not drink? If one drinks alcohol and one's gf does not, that may lead to conflict. And if one's looses one's temper when inebriated, I would imagine that would have a negative influence on one's partner. I think in the future, one should probably not drink, or at least not when with one's gf.

Perhaps one can send some flowers and a note, some tangible indication that you do care and that you are thinking about her. Wish her well on her exams. Keep such a message short and simple.

Perhaps, one could email one's gf a meaningful song in MP3.

Unforgettable would be good, or think about this song.

Pick something that is meaningful to both of you.

She drinks (on occasion), but her dad was picking her up after the boat party so she thought better of it that night. She insisted that I not let that prevent me from having a few drinks though. I agree though, in the future if she doesn't drink I don't drink.

I sent her a nice email sunday morning. I am going to call her tonight and wish her luck on her exams.

Now that I've calmed down (you wouldn't believe how relaxed I am compared to sunday) I have started to realize that it is not the end of the world, probably not even the end of our relationship. I think once we get together and talk to each other we will be able to work it out. We've had an incredible relationship for the past 5 months (ok not as good the past month but still) and I don't think this incident will get in the way of it. I strongly believe that we will work it out, and who knows, maybe this is what we needed to get our spark back, something out of the ordinary. It will make us realize that **** does happen, it would be ignorant to think that problems/fights do not occur.

I haven't heard that LZ song before, (gasp) I am looking forward to listening to it.

Thank-you Astronuc, you've been very supportive and helpful, which impresses me because you don't even know me. Your family is extremely lucky to have you as a part of them.

 

[Astronuc]

Thank-you Astronuc, you've been very supportive and helpful, which impresses me because you don't even know me. Your family is extremely lucky to have you as a part of them.

Sometimes.

My brother, one or two cousins and I were vying for black sheep of the family.

You can consider yourself part of my family if you like. I'm sure we are related back there somewhere in the relatively recent past. I have lots of relatives scattered throughout the UK, Canada, NZ and Australia.

Then there is Lionel Ritchie's "Three Times a Lady", which reminds me of Helene.
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Three Times A Lady

Thanks for the time that you've given me
The memories are all in my mind
And now that we've come to the end of our rainbow
That's something I must say out loud

You're once, twice, three times a lady
And I love you
Yes you're once, twice, three times a lady
And I love you
I love you

When we are together, the moments I cherished
With every beat of my heart
To touch you, to hold you, to feel you, to need you
There's nothing to keep us apart

You're once, twice, three times a lady
And I love you
Yes you're once, twice, three times a lady
And I love you
I love you
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That's a pretty mellow tune.

 

[Astronuc]

Then there is the classic -

Unchained Melody by the Righteous Brother's - great for slow dancing and looking in each others' eyes.

Oh, my love, my darling
I've hungered for your touch,
A long, lonely time,
And time goes by,
So slowly and time can do so much
Are you, still mine?
I need your love,
I need your love
God speed your love to me

Lonely rivers flow to the sea, to the sea,
To the waiting arms of the sea
Lonely rivers cry, wait for me, wait for me
To the open arms, wait for me

My love, my darling,
I've hungered for your kiss
Are you still mine?
I need your love,
I need your love
God, speed your love, to me

 

[rocketboy]

i finally arranged to see her tonight. we were going to go bowling with some friends of ours. so i get in my dad's car, and go to pick up my friend who was coming as well from 1 block away. I turn on to his street and smack, i run head-on into the SUV coming toward me. CAN YOU F'ING BELIEVE IT? the worst part was calling my gf to tell her i had to cancel the plans... and why. I keep expecting to wake up from this nightmare.

edit: the saddest part is I'm letting it all out on a public physics forum because I'm too embarassed to talk to ppl i know.

 

[Astronuc]

Sorry to hear about your misfortune rocketboy. Don't give up!

 

[FrogPad]

i finally arranged to see her tonight. we were going to go bowling with some friends of ours. so i get in my dad's car, and go to pick up my friend who was coming as well from 1 block away. I turn on to his street and smack, i run head-on into the SUV coming toward me. CAN YOU F'ING BELIEVE IT? the worst part was calling my gf to tell her i had to cancel the plans... and why. I keep expecting to wake up from this nightmare.

edit: the saddest part is I'm letting it all out on a public physics forum because I'm too embarassed to talk to ppl i know.

Are you ok dude? Any injuries?

 

[rocketboy]

Are you ok dude? Any injuries?

only my pride... I'm usually such an attentive driver.

 

[Evo]

i finally arranged to see her tonight. we were going to go bowling with some friends of ours. so i get in my dad's car, and go to pick up my friend who was coming as well from 1 block away. I turn on to his street and smack, i run head-on into the SUV coming toward me. CAN YOU F'ING BELIEVE IT? the worst part was calling my gf to tell her i had to cancel the plans... and why. I keep expecting to wake up from this nightmare.

edit: the saddest part is I'm letting it all out on a public physics forum because I'm too embarassed to talk to ppl i know.

That really is bad. Maybe this is a sign, if she rushed to you out of consideration, or if she backed off, could be a sign of her true feelings.

 

[Moonbear]

i finally arranged to see her tonight. we were going to go bowling with some friends of ours. so i get in my dad's car, and go to pick up my friend who was coming as well from 1 block away. I turn on to his street and smack, i run head-on into the SUV coming toward me. CAN YOU F'ING BELIEVE IT? the worst part was calling my gf to tell her i had to cancel the plans... and why. I keep expecting to wake up from this nightmare.

edit: the saddest part is I'm letting it all out on a public physics forum because I'm too embarassed to talk to ppl i know.

First...are you okay? Injury-wise, not ego-/feeling-wise. And how bad is the damage to the car? Was it still drive-able?

Second...how did she respond when you called to tell her what happened? As long as she showed some sympathy/concern and didn't breathe a sigh of relief, I think you're still okay.

Yeah, it seems you're running into a streak of rotten luck (or maybe you were so pre-occupied thinking of getting to see her, you failed to notice an SUV heading your way?...Were you the one at-fault in the accident?)

Well, someday when you have kids of your own, you'll have some good stories to tell when they start dating and run into some rocky spots of their own.

 

[Omega_6]

Before I broke up with the girlfriend that I referred to earlier, I also got in an accident. I got rear-ended by a truck in my compact car. The back half of my car was destroyed, but luckily there was no one in the back seat...so we were ok (my friend and I). How bad was the accident...and how did your girlfriend respond?

 

[rocketboy]

The damage wasn't too bad. It wasn't bad enough for the airbags to come out, and the cop said it was under 1000. In Canada it's law that if the damage is over 1000 dollars then the law has to get involved, which would be bad because then I would get a fine and it could go to court and stuff. But the cop said it was likely borderline and he was going to call it under, thank god. The SUV didn't have much, he'll need a new bumper. For me, the right headlight is smashed, and the hood is dented a little bit (I think it can be hammered out) and then the right side panel needs replaced because it's deformed pretty good. It's not overly bad... I wasn't going fast. It was in a residential area, a block from home.

As for my gf when I called her... well the first thing she said was "omg are you ok?" which kinda made me feel good. But to tell you the truth she didn't sound overly worried. I said I was fine adn she asked again "are you sure?". Then I told her I was fine and I"d talk to her later.

My other friend who I was going to go pick up was more worried, I called her to tell her I had to cancel, and then she asked if I was ok etc.. and I assured her I was fine. Then 5 minutes later she called me again because she was worried and wanted to make sure I was ok, if I needed anything. It would have been nice if my gf had cared as much as she did.

my third friend was dissapointed that I wasn't goin bowling... lol, he asked if i was alright, and when I said I wasn't hurt at all he said "well you can still come bowling right?" lol...

 

[Cyrus]

I feel like I am watching days of our lives.

 

[Evo]

The damage wasn't too bad. It wasn't bad enough for the airbags to come out, and the cop said it was under 1000. In Canada it's law that if the damage is over 1000 dollars then the law has to get involved, which would be bad because then I would get a fine and it could go to court and stuff. But the cop said it was likely borderline and he was going to call it under, thank god. The SUV didn't have much, he'll need a new bumper. For me, the right headlight is smashed, and the hood is dented a little bit (I think it can be hammered out) and then the right side panel needs replaced because it's deformed pretty good. It's not overly bad... I wasn't going fast. It was in a residential area, a block from home.

As for my gf when I called her... well the first thing she said was "omg are you ok?" which kinda made me feel good. But to tell you the truth she didn't sound overly worried. I said I was fine adn she asked again "are you sure?". Then I told her I was fine and I"d talk to her later.

My other friend who I was going to go pick up was more worried, I called her to tell her I had to cancel, and then she asked if I was ok etc.. and I assured her I was fine. Then 5 minutes later she called me again because she was worried and wanted to make sure I was ok, if I needed anything. It would have been nice if my gf had cared as much as she did.

That's a tough call, I'd have to know more about her personality to say anything. She could be just as concerned as your friend, but deals with things differently.

It's too hard for an outsider to say. She's not refusing to see you or talk to you, so I'd say it's not over in her mind. It may not even be on the same level as what you're dealing with. I find that's often true. One person in the relationship sees the end of the world and the other doesn't see a problem. It's a terrible space to be in, when you're the one thinking it's the end. You're a lot like me. You care a lot, you feel deeply. Not everyone cares as deeply and it's hard to understand.

 

[rocketboy]

That's a tough call, I'd have to know more about her personality to say anything. She could be just as concerned as your friend, but deals with things differently.

It's too hard for an outsider to say. She's not refusing to see you or talk to you, so I'd say it's not over in her mind. It may not even be on the same level as what you're dealing with. I find that's often true. One person in the relationship sees the end of the world and the other doesn't see a problem. It's a terrible space to be in, when you're the one thinking it's the end. You're a lot like me. You care a lot, you feel deeply. Not everyone cares as deeply and it's hard to understand.

I heard a rumor yesterday. My friend's sister told me that she had been told by a friend of hers who is on my gf's soccer team (not very reputable?) that my gf told her that she was "planning on dumping me, but now not sure" and this would have been last wednesday when they had soccer. It kind of makes sense...because it was soon after I started this thread (early last week) when I thought things were worst, and that I was going to lose her. As the week went on, I kept wondering why she was holding onto me. Which would go along with the "now not sure" thing.

Saturday I called her to see if I could see her htat night, adn she told me she was feeling really sick. Unfortunately I have no way of knowing if this was true or not. I don't see why she would lie as an excuse to not see me and then tonight be all for seeing me... when I called and asked her if she wanted to go bowling she said yes pretty quickly. Not only that, but she didn't say "one sec I'll ask my parents" which is what she has had to do every other time I've asked her if she wanted to do somehting (unless it was planned in advance). So this could possibly mean that she had already asked her parents if she could go out tonight, and was planning on calling me to see if I wanted to do something if I hadn't called her. Then again, who knows, maybe she just knew her parents would let her see me.

edit: I'm starting to think that maybe she's just as confused about her feelings as I am. maybe I'm not the only one on a crazy emotional roller coster ride.

edit 2: evo, that's a great quote in your sig.

 

[Moonbear]

Yeah, it's kind of hard to tell. Her reaction doesn't sound too cool...I would be the same way. As long as you assured me you were okay and the damage pretty minimal, mostly a fender-bender at low speed, then I'm not going to keep pestering you about it. Other friends of mine are more like your other friend, which I consider a bit of over-reaction. When a boyfriend of mine was in a roll-over accident, yeah, I called back a bit later and sent a few emails to double check that he wasn't just saying he was okay when he wasn't (I had a hard time believing someone could roll over in an SUV and come out with just a shoulder bruised from the seatbelt). But, it doesn't sound like your accident was too bad. Unless, of course, she's the sort of person who usually goes overboard worrying about things, and is acting out of character by taking it calmly.

But, yeah, no surprise she was thinking about dumping you last week...afterall, you had just picked a fight with her in the middle of the dance floor and had been telling her she was acting "weird." She was probably pissed and ready to cut you loose. But, then a little time has her re-thinking that. That's good that she agreed quickly to go out with you tonight. It means she's probably cooled off and decided she'll forgive you for yelling at her on the dance floor.

 

[Evo]

edit: I'm starting to think that maybe she's just as confused about her feelings as I am. maybe I'm not the only one on a crazy emotional roller coster ride.

That's the feeling I get. I think you two may be able to work things out in the long run. It's just emotionally draining.

edit 2: evo, that's a great quote in your sig.

Yep, all too true.

 

[Soilwork]

I don't see what's weird about her not phoning you again and again to ask if you're alright even though you told her you were fine. If someone told me they were fine and they were talking to me normally on the phone then there is no point in worrying. If you had something serious or even something like a broken finger someone would be able to pick up that you weren't a 100%.

I'm not being insulting here or anything, but I think you're a bit too sensitive and emotional. What I mean is that you overanalyse things and read too much into some action taken by your girlfriend.

 

[J77]

I feel like I am watching days of our lives.

Is that like Hollyoaks?

I still want to know if she gets sea-sick or not...

 

[rocketboy]

Last night I was out with friends, got home and noticed (to my happiness) that she had called while I was out. I slept well last night.

Tonight, I was battling the decision to call her or not. I knew that she worked today and wasn't sure when she got home... so I figured I'd let her call me, in the past little while I don't think she's called me two nights in a row without hearing from me, it has been consistent that she would call if I had called and left a message for her but otherwise no. So I started reading the 6th Harry Potter book and completely forgot about calling anyone. For the second night in a row I was pleasantly surprised when the phone rang and it was her. She seemed more normal than she has in the past while, she asked me how I was, (referring to the car) and seemed to enjoy talking to me for once.

So basically, I think things may be starting to turn around. Now all I need to do is find a time to see her.. and figure out how to see her since my parents have (implied) that I have lost driving privaledges. (two speeding tickets and a car accident in my first year of driving haven't gone over too well... even though they both know that I am a responsible driver... I admit I have a heavy foot though)

 

[Evo]

Last night I was out with friends, got home and noticed (to my happiness) that she had called while I was out. I slept well last night.

Tonight, I was battling the decision to call her or not. I knew that she worked today and wasn't sure when she got home... so I figured I'd let her call me, in the past little while I don't think she's called me two nights in a row without hearing from me, it has been consistent that she would call if I had called and left a message for her but otherwise no. So I started reading the 6th Harry Potter book and completely forgot about calling anyone. For the second night in a row I was pleasantly surprised when the phone rang and it was her. She seemed more normal than she has in the past while, she asked me how I was, (referring to the car) and seemed to enjoy talking to me for once.

So basically, I think things may be starting to turn around. Now all I need to do is find a time to see her.. and figure out how to see her since my parents have (implied) that I have lost driving privaledges. (two speeding tickets and a car accident in my first year of driving haven't gone over too well... even though they both know that I am a responsible driver... I admit I have a heavy foot though)

Yes, it seems she's moving closer again, that's great!

The Evo Child wrecked her new car three times in her first 6 weeks, but hasn't had an incident since.

 

[FrogPad]

Last night I was out with friends, got home and noticed (to my happiness) that she had called while I was out. I slept well last night.

Tonight, I was battling the decision to call her or not. I knew that she worked today and wasn't sure when she got home... so I figured I'd let her call me, in the past little while I don't think she's called me two nights in a row without hearing from me, it has been consistent that she would call if I had called and left a message for her but otherwise no. So I started reading the 6th Harry Potter book and completely forgot about calling anyone. For the second night in a row I was pleasantly surprised when the phone rang and it was her. She seemed more normal than she has in the past while, she asked me how I was, (referring to the car) and seemed to enjoy talking to me for once.

So basically, I think things may be starting to turn around. Now all I need to do is find a time to see her.. and figure out how to see her since my parents have (implied) that I have lost driving privaledges. (two speeding tickets and a car accident in my first year of driving haven't gone over too well... even though they both know that I am a responsible driver... I admit I have a heavy foot though)

I drive somewhat fast. Like 15-20 (that's MPH) over depending on traffic. I grew up in a small town and the police had nothing better to do then pull people over. We used to drive around and intentionally get them to pull US over, just to turn the scales on them... we figured they had nothing better to do, so we would give them something to do. This one officer was all tucked away behind this sign, lights off, very very well hidden. It must have taken him 20 minutes to get back there, just to setup shop to find speeders. After about 1:00 am NOBODY would be on the road. I can't believe he spent the time to get parked there... anyways. The speed limit was a whopping 35 on that road. (By the way this is a tangent to what I was originally talking about). So it was my friend driving, another friend sitting passenger, and myself. We drove by him doing 34 the first time, turned around drove by doing 33, turned around and drove by again doing maybe 34, and just kept doing it, over and over. It was so funny to see him pull out of there and pull us over... he looked so furious when he came up to the car. ANYWAYS... we did a ton of stupid **** like that.

My original point was my fast driving I guess. This one time when I was younger I got pulled over 3 times in two days. Twice one day, and once the day after. I got a speeding ticket, a warning, and a speeding ticket resepectively. That was horrible. My parents were FUMING. I got pulled over MANY times after that, but that was the most tickets I've ever had in a short amount of time. Since I've left that town, I drive exactly the same, but haven't been pulled over since (knock on wood). I drive in a "big" city now and the police have to deal with murders, car jackings, you know "real" crimes. So now it's nice just to drive with traffic (or a little faster). I don't know where you live, or what the officers are like, or even why I'm typing this story :) Anyway, I'm glad to hear things worked out with your girl. Sounds like you have someone cool... it's got to be nice not having to play the dating game. For one thing it's expensive, and for another there are TONS of annoying people that inhabit this Earth (such as Evo for example).

P.S. Evo, I'm just playing :)

 

[Moonbear]

The Evo Child wrecked her new car three times in her first 6 weeks, but hasn't had an incident since.

Of course you don't mention that you never gave her the keys again after that, which is why she's been accident-free ever since.

Glad to hear things are getting better, rocketboy. A few relationship bumps are to be expected, and the important thing to find out is if you can deal with them and move past those problems as a couple.

 

[Evo]

and for another there are TONS of annoying people that inhabit this Earth (such as Evo for example).

I see a short life on PF for FrogPad

P.S. Evo, I'm just playing :)

Yeah right, put that in chocolate, for me and the sisters.

 

[J77]

Don't want to derail the thread but if you get caught speeding or have multiple accidents in your first year of driving, you shouldn't be on the road.

With the new laws, in the UK you now lose you license (incl. provisional and theory) if you get caught twice within two years of passing. ****ing hate **** drivers.

Anyway, Rocketboy - you should start shopping around, go out on some dates with other ladies. That'll get your girl's attention

 

[FrogPad]

I see a short life on PF for FrogPad

Yeah right, put that in chocolate, for me and the sisters.

Evo I was just messing around I had to give you a little love since we were arguing so much about the playing games, and not playing games earlier in this thread... Well since rocketboy seems to be good now, I guess I can go back to my anti-feminist crusade

PS
the chocolate is on its way.

 

[rocketboy]

I drive somewhat fast. Like 15-20 (that's MPH) over depending on traffic. I grew up in a small town and the police had nothing better to do then pull people over. We used to drive around and intentionally get them to pull US over, just to turn the scales on them... we figured they had nothing better to do, so we would give them something to do. This one officer was all tucked away behind this sign, lights off, very very well hidden. It must have taken him 20 minutes to get back there, just to setup shop to find speeders. After about 1:00 am NOBODY would be on the road. I can't believe he spent the time to get parked there... anyways. The speed limit was a whopping 35 on that road. (By the way this is a tangent to what I was originally talking about). So it was my friend driving, another friend sitting passenger, and myself. We drove by him doing 34 the first time, turned around drove by doing 33, turned around and drove by again doing maybe 34, and just kept doing it, over and over. It was so funny to see him pull out of there and pull us over... he looked so furious when he came up to the car. ANYWAYS... we did a ton of stupid **** like that.

My original point was my fast driving I guess. This one time when I was younger I got pulled over 3 times in two days. Twice one day, and once the day after. I got a speeding ticket, a warning, and a speeding ticket resepectively. That was horrible. My parents were FUMING. I got pulled over MANY times after that, but that was the most tickets I've ever had in a short amount of time. Since I've left that town, I drive exactly the same, but haven't been pulled over since (knock on wood). I drive in a "big" city now and the police have to deal with murders, car jackings, you know "real" crimes. So now it's nice just to drive with traffic (or a little faster). I don't know where you live, or what the officers are like, or even why I'm typing this story :) Anyway, I'm glad to hear things worked out with your girl. Sounds like you have someone cool... it's got to be nice not having to play the dating game. For one thing it's expensive, and for another there are TONS of annoying people that inhabit this Earth (such as Evo for example).

P.S. Evo, I'm just playing :)

No worries for going off topic... I enjoyed the story. Why did the cop who was hiding pull you over if you were doing under the limit though?

And in reply to all, I'm not saying things ARE better I'm saying they SEEM to be better... I'll keep the positive attitude goin though!

ANd in reply to J77, I definitely wouldn't say I've been "shopping around" but Friday night I went to a party and met a really cool girl there, but don't get me wrong: I didn't do it to play games, I did it because I enjoy meeting new people and she was an interesting person. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I'm not letting my current gf prevent me from meeting new people, and it has never been like that, which is awesome.

 

[rocketboy]

Yes, it seems she's moving closer again, that's great!

The Evo Child wrecked her new car three times in her first 6 weeks, but hasn't had an incident since.

I guess it's expected... the worst part though is I have to pay for the damage, and right now I am trying to make money for university. Looks like I'm going to be even more in debt!

 

[Astronuc]

The Evo Child wrecked her new car three times in her first 6 weeks, but hasn't had an incident since.

Hold on there! Does this mean, she wrecked it, got it repaired, wrecked it again, got it repaired, and wrecked it yet a third time? And was it repaired a third time? Was the damage minor each time?

Did she get a suspended license?

I hope neither she nor other drivers were terribly hurt.

This couldn't have been too long ago - within the last two years.

 

[FrogPad]

No worries for going off topic... I enjoyed the story. Why did the cop who was hiding pull you over if you were doing under the limit though?

He didn't pull us over right away. He actually pulled out and followed us for like 3 miles. We made three rights in a row and he pulled us over. He told us we couldn't do that! My friend said he didn't know what to do since he was driving so close to his car. He asked the cop if it was legal to tailgate someone that close. The cop then went to say that someone tossed a cigarette out of the car, and he could get us for littering (that was stupid of my friend to do by the way). He just let us go and went back to his spot. So basically the moral of the story is, if you are being followed by a cop, don't toss a smoke out of the window

God I have a million stories about those small town cops. Well maybe not a million... that's a big number

 

[rocketboy]

i guess love really is blind...


she walked.

 

[Moonbear]

i guess love really is blind...


she walked.

Sorry to hear that.

 

[Astronuc]

i guess love really is blind...

she walked.

Ouch - sorry to hear that too, rocketboy!

It's not the end of the world, even though it feels like it!

 

[Evo]

i guess love really is blind...


she walked.

We love you Rocketboy.

 

[FrogPad]

I haven't checked this thread in awhile. Just read...

i guess love really is blind...


she walked.

sorry bro

not fun. not fun at all.


If you need anything, don't be afraid to ask. I've been there... it sucks, there is no other way to put it.

 

[Zantra]

Don't sweat it man. you just need to go out with your friends and meet some more girls. There's plenty of smokin hot fish in the sea, and that's not just a saying. You already met that one chick at the party. So you see what I mean. It just wasn't meant to be, and you'll find someone even better. Besides, she was pretty attached to her parent's apron strings. You need a girl who can think for herself.

 

[rocketboy]

sure there are tons of hot girls... but she was different, i felt a connection to her like I've never felt before, i felt emotions towards her that i have never felt towards anyone.

btw, happy Canada day.

 

[FrogPad]

sure there are tons of hot girls... but she was different, i felt a connection to her like I've never felt before, i felt emotions towards her that i have never felt towards anyone.

btw, happy Canada day.

Bill Hicks, my favorite comedian/role model/someone we need in this world said:

"But you know, it's hard to have a relationship in this business, man. It's going to take a very special woman ... or a bunch of average ones.

Now yes, he was probably joking around saying something along the lines of, screw relationships, you can be perfectly content with a bunch of women instead. But like everything he says... there is a meaning on the surface, and also a deeper meaning. When you said:

"... i felt a connection to her like I've nver felt before..."

The first thing that popped into my head was that Bill Quote. Now, you are faced with two options.

1) Try to win her back.
2) Forget her, move on, and fill your life with a bunch of average women.

The reason I put number 2 in that way is this... I'm guessing you loved this girl. You still love this girl. And you will not stop loving this girl. Well you could meet the most amazing girl tomorrow, but you are so blind with the girl you just had that you will not even see it. You said it yourself... love is blind. Well you are going to be blind for awhile man. You aren't going to be able to see what you have in front of you.

As long as you realize this, and make an effort to not dismiss people from the get go, you will be ok.

By the way... option number one RARELY works, you will torment yourself, and put yourself through hell doing it, only to get glimpses of happiness, oodles of discomfort, and eventually you will move on to option number two... and not by choice.

Of course this probably a third option... because we can't really just package life into those two options, but, you throw out a third options, and more than likely I'll show you how it fits into one or two. For example, not dating... usually just a ploy to somehow "win" the former back. Anyways, keep your head up, and stop wrecking cars

 

[Math Is Hard]

i guess love really is blind...


she walked.

Sorry, rocket. That's really hard. The only positive thing I can say is that you are about to enter a new phase of life, and it's going to be very demanding. You are going to be very busy with school and meeting tons of new people. It's probably better that you are unattached for a little while as you are getting acclimated to all of this. My brother tried to maintain a relationship with his high school girlfriend after he moved across the country to go to college. They were able to keep it going for a few months, but eventually pressures on both sides just made it too difficult. I like his ex-girlfriend a lot, and I think that one day they might get back together, but for right now, it is easier for them to remain just friends.

 

[Zantra]

sure there are tons of hot girls... but she was different, i felt a connection to her like I've never felt before, i felt emotions towards her that i have never felt towards anyone.

btw, happy Canada day.

I can say with a great deal of confidence, that you will feel it again someday with the right girl

 

[nsimmons]

I told you...

It stings bad, but learn from this. You called her way too much, you should have vanished. Next time you meet a girl you like give her half the attention she gives you.

They'll be more and better ones, just have to take my word for it.

And stick to rule #1

 

[Evo]

Next time you meet a girl you like give her half the attention she gives you.

When a guy treats me like that, I back off, since it appears he's not very interested. I will find someone that "does" enjoy my company. Your "technique" would definitely backfire with me.

 

[nsimmons]

We aint talking about you sweetheart.

 

[slugcountry]

Hey, before I go on topic I just want to say what's up to everyone I've been reading these boards for literally a few years now and this thread finally got me to register and post =P I graduated from high school in '04 and just finished up at my JC after getting an AA and will be transfering to uc santa cruz in september hence the name... anyway with that said here's my take:

* * *

dude I'm really sorry for what you went through first of all - it really sounds like you got your heart broken and that sucks man.

Here is what I think about the situation (both yours and everyone else's) people put too much damn time and energy into "trying to make it work"... I don't do that anymore.

when I meet a woman and a relationship develops, they always say wow you're such a great guy I've never met anyone as caring as you are and so on and its true, I'm a passionate person and I put everything I've got into life.. but after the FIRST FIGHT, the FIRST TIME it gets ugly, I'm out.

and the same women, they say how can you be so cold? you don't even try! and they are right, I am cold to them now, I can never feel the way I once felt for them ever again, because feelings are something you FEEL! INSIDE! you do not WORK to MAKE your feelings happen, they just happen.

and I say why should I have to try? a relationship is not something that you should have to WORK at, it should flow, like good wine. it should be an enjoyable experience!

It should NEVER be a drain on you. Negativity is far more dangerous to your health than sunlight will ever be.

women are not life man, life is life, and women are just part of it. you have to find your passion, something that really gets you going, something to truly live for and fight for. women come and go, but your passion will always be there, and you will be a better person for pursuing it.

 

[Evo]

We aint talking about you sweetheart.

Yes, you are, you made a generalization and I'm proof it's wrong, and there are millions of women that think the same way I do.

 

[slugcountry]

oh and frogboy.. very much enjoyed your small town cops story.. i have tons of them myself.

One night I got pulled over by a cop here (in danville, california) and I asked him what the problem was... he said my tires looked flat.

Yep. he saw that my tires looked a little flat at 2 in the morning on a starkly lit backroad while i rolled by at 45 mph (in a 40.. no one tickets for 5 miles over the limit around here )

suffice to say he saw I wasn't drunk and let me go.. another night on the same road, i was going 50 in a 40 around midnight, and a cop pulled me over.

Well the bastard didn't have his headlights on while he was sitting at the side of the road, and I called him on entrapment and said he couldn't give me a ticket. and the SOB just put his ticket pad away, said have a good night, and walked back to his car. bastard smalltown cops...

I always found it entertaining how much the people in california hate their cops.. we even made it against the law for cops to use their radar on freeways, so the only way they can ticket you is to pull up directly behind you and match speeds with you, then they can pull you over. I'm always amazed that anyone can get pulled over on the freeways around here, since all you have to do is glace in the mirror now and then and see if a cop is sneaking up behind you, and if he is just change lanes and slow down heh.

my most amazing cop story though happened on the way back home from a girl's house around 3 in the morning... I was SO tired that i just couldn't keep my eyes open... so what was my brilliant solution?? I squinted as hard as I could to keep them from closing, and punched it up to around 107 mph so that the imminent danger would keep me awake.

well, I get off at my exit, and notice to my dismay that a cop is on my tail, and immediately turns on his lights. He walks over to my window shining a flash light in my eyes asking me if I know how fast I was going.. i tell him 80 , which he of course laughs off, makes me get out of the car and is shining this light right in my eye which kind of tipped me off, so I told him I wasn't on anything and asked if he would like to search my car (by the way, when I got out of my car i was shocked to see there were THREE cop cars parked behind mine... I must have been so tired that I zoomed by all three of em without even noticing)... he says sure so I reach into my pocket to grab my car keys for him and he pulls a GUN ON ME (only time in my life that ever happened...) that was some scary ****, he just told me to stay back and i was like hey sure buddy go for it...

anyway, after a couple of minutes he comes out and says well, since you let me search your car, I'm going to let you off.. I couldn't believe it =)

I'm just glad I never wrecked myself back when I was driving so crazy...