One can start out the journey into tensors with vector spaces. Vector spaces have the abstract property that they can be multiplied by scalars, and added together. They're typically represented as little arrows in lower dimensional spaces. However, it's tough to visualize little arrows in spaces over three dimensions. For special relativity, we'll need spaces of 4 dimensions, 3 for space and 1 for time.
Next up are dual vector spaces. Dual vector spaces are maps from a vector space to a scalar. The salient properties of dual vector space are that they have same number of dimensions as the original vector space, they are not the same as the original vector space, and the double dual (the dual of the dual) vector space is the same as the original vector space. One might think of vectors as being column vectors in matrix notation, and dual vectors as being row vectors, though the matrix notation doesn't upgrade gracefully into tensor notation.
Hopefully this is all just review. With vectors and their duals defined, a valence m,n tensor is a linear map from m vectors and n dual vectors to a scalar. I won't guarantee that I got the order of m and n correct (assuming that it's standardized across all texts, it may not be).
The metric tensor and it's inverse are important tensors, which can be used to turning a (1,0) tensor into a (0,1) tensor, or vica-versa.
Because of this ease of conversion, it's often useful to look at the sum m+n of tensor, it's total rank, as tensors of the same rank can be mapped between different valences via the metric tensor and it's inverse. Thus, a rank 2 tensor could have a valence of (0,2), (1,1), or (2,0), and appropriate use of the metric tensor and it's inverse can convert between the different valences for the same rank tensor.
The stress energy tensor can be regarded in several different, equivalent, ways. One way that gives a lot of insight into the functionality of the stress energy tensor is to consider it as a rank 2 tensor which is a linear map from an infinitesimal 3-volume element to the energy and momentum that infinitesimal volume element contains. But one needs to discuss how 3-volume elements are represented for this idea to be made useful. This usually requires a rather large detour early in the learning process.
Important precursors to the rank 2 stress energy tensor are the rank 1 tensors of special relativity called 4-vetors. 4-velocities and 4-momentum vectors are particularly useful, with honorable mention going to the number-flux 4-vector, and the volume 1-form (which is the dual of a 4-vector, rather than a 4-vector).