The question being responded to (in posts 5-8) starts "if I have understood [the cited thread] correctly..."
The short answer, therefore, seems to be "no, you have not understood the thread."
... for whatever reason.
The question of why relativistic mass is seldom used these days keeps coming up, and there are well establish answers for students.
i.e. Baez:
Relativity FAQ http://math.ucr.edu/home/baez/physics/Relativity/SR/mass.html
`The question to ask is not whether relativistic mass is fashionable or not, or who likes the idea and who doesn't; rather, as in any area of physics notation and language, we should always ask "Is it
useful?". '
... usefulness depends on the context.
In discussions is it important not to mix the contexts.
The topic is "why it is not used" rather than "why
should it be/not be used". (I suspect the latter tends to philosophy anyway.)
i.e. why do I default to downplaying relativistic mass to students? (short answer: because "geometry" - and this seems to be common, and comes from having to teach physics at a wide range of levels.)
Specifically: bottom of post #3 is asking about the consistency of the argument found in the cited link.
In a nutshell: Is it inconsistent to reject a velocity dependent mass when we accept a velocity dependent length and time?
Generally educators have been concerned that relativistic mass is inconsistent enough with the geometric formulation of general relativity that it becomes a problem for GR students and others attempting to understand statements from GR. i.e. see: Oas G. (2008)
On the abuse of relativistic mass [pdf]
Abstract:
The concept of velocity dependent mass, relativistic mass, is examined and is found to be inconsistent with the geometrical formulation of special relativity. This is not a novel result; however, many continue to use this concept and some have even attempted to establish it as the basis for special relativity. It is argued that the oft-held view that formulations of relativity with and without relativistic mass are equivalent is incorrect. Left as a heuristic device a preliminary study of first time learners suggest that misconceptions can develop when the concept is introduced without basis. In order to gauge the extent and nature of the use of relativistic mass a survey of the literature on relativity has been undertaken. The varied and at times self-contradicting use of this concept points to the lack of clear consensus on the formulation of relativity. As geometry lies at the heart of all modern representations of relativity, it is urged, once again, that the use of the concept at all levels be abandoned.[/size]
... there are counter arguments of course and Baez (above) recounts a number of them.