ibkev said:
Has the size/geometry of the cube objectively changed in a way you could measure with say a laser
It depends.
If you let the cube be in free fall, and the cube is small enough that tidal gravity is negligible over its size, then no.
If the cube's center of mass is in free fall, but tidal gravity is large enough over its size to produce measurable stresses in the cube, then its size/geometry might change, depending on its tensile strength vs. the size of the stresses.
If the cube is accelerated, i.e., it is sitting at rest on the surface of the planet, not in free fall, then in general its geometry will change; but the change will be different from the tidal gravity case above, because it is due to the cube's proper acceleration, i.e., to the weight of the cube's upper parts pressing down on its lower parts.
ibkev said:
does the change in the cube's geometry match the curvature of the spacetime?
Not really. The way you measure the geometry of spacetime is by measuring tidal gravity; but the changes in the cube's geometry are, at best, only indirectly related to tidal gravity (in the second case above), and possibly not related to it at all (in the third case above).
ibkev said:
Does the ruler still measure the cube as 1m for all sides because both the cube and the ruler are warped by the curved space?
This depends on what you make the ruler out of. The ruler is a physical object just like the cube, so it can be distorted just like the cube is, based on the factors above. But there are ways to get around that. For example, to measure the size of a cube that is accelerated, have the ruler in free fall, and take the length measurement when the ruler is momentarily at rest relative to the cube. Or, you can use lasers, as you said.
One thing to note, though, is that in general, different methods of measuring lengths, even if all precautions are taken, will not necessarily give the same results in a curved spacetime, or even in flat spacetime if the measurements are being made on accelerated objects. So the spatial "size" of an object is not quite an invariant property of the object the way our intuitions say it ought to be.