Hi Tready2, welcome to PF. Yes, let's not anthropomorphize our particles (they don't like it

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Systems tend to fall into the lowest energy state because any energy emitted quickly dissipates as thermal energy and is lost. In a similar way, it's totally unremarkable for a ball to fall off a table and for the resulting sound, vibrations, and frictional heat to dissipate, but it would be incredibly unlikely for random noise and heat to accumulate to make the same ball leap up to the table again.
This general principle is what the Second Law of Thermodynamics is all about: there's a tendency for a system to relax into the lowest possible energy configuration, and this tendency increases with system size.
Does this answer your question?