I'll go ahead and give a brief response on the white dwarf/neutron star question anyway.

The short answer is, yes, if objects are found above the currently accepted limit then the limit needs to be re-assessed because at least one of its assumptions must be violated. But in the case of the Chandrasekhar limit for white dwarfs and the corresponding Tolman-Oppenheimer-Volkoff limit for neutron stars, there are two obvious assumptions that are idealizations and might need adjustment: perfect spherical symmetry (i.e., exactly zero rotation) and the equation of state (the relationship between density and pressure). A third factor might also be involved, magnetic fields, which were not included in the standard calculations of the limits. For white dwarfs, the equation of state is not really open to question, but the other factors could be different and could affect the limit; for neutron stars, all of the factors, including the equation of state, could be different (we don't have a good understanding of the equation of state of strongly interacting matter at neutron star densities and above). These issues are understood by astronomers and continue to be researched.