Thesis Writing: Is Crying Typical for Advisors?

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The discussion centers around the intense emotional experiences of graduate students, particularly regarding their relationships with academic advisors. Participants express a mix of humor and frustration about the pressures of graduate school, with some suggesting that advisors may expect students to struggle and even cry as part of the learning process. Quotes from advisors like "No pain no gain" and "This is not thesis quality" highlight the high expectations placed on students. While some argue that a strict advisor can foster growth by setting clear goals, others caution that intentionally trying to make students cry is unprofessional. The conversation reflects the challenges of balancing personal ideas and goals with the rigorous demands of academic research, emphasizing the emotional toll that can accompany the pursuit of a thesis.
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Is it typical for advisors to want to see their students cry?
 
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:frown:
 
So the rumors I heard in the first week of my grad school are true!
 
It's in your head. Supervisors are walking angels...*




* To be continued.
 
lisab said:
:frown:

":smile:" would have been more appropriate, :-p
 
Gad said:
It's in your head. Supervisors are walking angels...*




* To be continued.

Lucifer was a walking angel (I hear he lost his wings).
 
My professors would say:

"Its part of the program."

"No pain no gain."

"Builds character."

"Tears wash the face and cleans out your pores."

"Sobbing opens up the airways."
 
My advisor would say:

"This is not thesis quality"

"It's ok, you have weekends and evenings, too"

"Anybody can list procedures and facts"

and then once I spend countless all-nighters on revisions:

"Perfect! Did you do the other things we discussed?"

:cry:
 
well... you're almost out... since its your thesis. think of it that way, and it doesn't seem so bad!
 
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Yeah, it's not a big deal; just enough to justify whining.
 
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Pythagorean said:
Yeah, it's not a big deal; just enough to justify whining.

yeah, its the new grad students that need to whine. first other classes, then jackson, then some other classes, then research, then the thesis... damn makes me want to just go to sleep already.
 
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Pythagorean said:
Is it typical for advisors to want to see their students cry?

Of course. Advisers gain their tremendous powers from the tears of students.
 
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Much better to have a strict thesis advisor with high expectations and well thought out goals than one who doesn't set any specific goals for you, expecting you to basically guide yourself with guesses down the road..

The example quotes you listed would only make a sensitive baby cry. However, any advisor trying to make you cry on purpose is unprofessional and a sick person.
 
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DragonPetter said:
Much better to have a strict thesis advisor with high expectations and well thought out goals than one who doesn't set any specific goals for you, expecting you to basically guide yourself with guesses down the road..

Really? What happens when you need to come up with your own ideas or set your own goals?
 
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matt.o said:
Really? What happens when you need to come up with your own ideas or set your own goals?

That's when you become the adviser.
 
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I actually do come up with (many of) my own ideas and set my own goals... and watch many of them get crushed/demolished/obliterated/maimed/annihilated/destroyed/etc. Of course, my adviser brings a lot of intellectual merit (not so much goal setting, leaves most of that to me) but she likes me to nurture, care for, and grow my own little flowers of delicate and expendable hypotheses so that she can crush/demolish/obliterate/maim/etc. them.

(I'm terribly over-dramatizing this)
 
  • #17
That's science for you!
 

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