Chris S said:
The theory regarding two persons experiencing different amounts of time dilation due to the two persons being influenced by different amounts of gravity states that while one person stays on Earth under its gravity and another person travels through space under less influence of gravity (less time dilation), the space traveler will be older when the persons meet, and both people will have experienced the same, typical rate of time passing; however, how can they both perceive themselves experiencing the same, typical rate of time passing (aging at the same rate) but be different ages when they meet?
First off: It isn't a difference in gravity that would result in the difference in age upon reuniting. It is a difference in gravitational
potential. While the first involves how much gravity each person would feel at his location, the second involves how much energy would be needed to move one person form his location to the other. Thus if you imagine a gravity field that does not weaken with altitude and put two clocks at two different heights in it, the upper clock will run faster than the lower clock.
Secondly when we say that each person experiences the same rate of time, that just means that neither person could tell that there was anything "amiss" with the way time flowed for him. His clock, biological processes, etc all will appear to be normal. However, if he were to compare his clock to the other person's clock, he would note a difference. The higher person would note the other person's clock was ticking slower than his own and that he was aging at a slower rate, etc. While the lower person would note that the higher person's clock was ticking faster and that the other person was aging faster.
After some interval, if we bring the two people back together, they will both agree that one of them aged more since they were separated. Though they may argue as to the reason. The lower person will claim it is because the higher person's time ran fast, while the higher person will say it is because the lower person's time ran slow. There is no one absolutely correct answer to this.
This disagreement of how the end results came about becomes even more apparent when dealing with the situation where one person flies off at a high speed, stops, turns around and comes back. Upon meeting up again they will both agree the the person who left and returned will have aged less.
However, according to the stay at home person, this will be because the traveler aged slower than he did during the two legs of the trip, while the traveler will say that it was the homebody that aged more slowly during the legs of the trip, but aged very rapidly when the traveler was making his turnaround at the far end of his trip.
Again, both versions the sequence of events are equally valid, and neither can lay claim to be the
right answer.
This manner of treating time takes some getting used to. We tend to think of time as being a much more universal standard, and accepting that it is more in the line of being a "in the eyes of the beholder" thing can be hard to swallow.