What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

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The discussion centers around the qualities that 'nerdy' boys find attractive in girls, with participants sharing their experiences and preferences. Many express that intelligence, a sense of humor, and kindness are key traits they admire. There's a consensus that nerdy guys often appreciate directness and are more likely to respond positively when approached by girls. Some participants mention that physical appearance becomes less important compared to personality traits as intelligence increases. A recurring theme is the desire for mutual interests, with some emphasizing the importance of ambition and open-mindedness. The conversation also touches on the challenges nerdy boys face in dating due to shyness and social skills, with advice suggesting that girls should show interest and engage in conversations about shared interests. Overall, the thread highlights a blend of humor and earnestness in exploring what nerdy boys seek in potential partners.
  • #601
I'm going to be honest. The first thing I look for is beauty. The last thing I probably look for is intelligence. And a million other things in between. What does intelligence even mean in the practical sense? On a day to day level? I once dated a med student. Thinking about her at this very moment stirs up a lot of feelings. What are some of the things I remember most about her? Her intoxicating scent, the nape of her neck, certain jokes that no body else got but me and her, that sly all-knowing smirk of hers, our love for pretentious foreign movies, the ways our eyes would lock, the stupid and silly things we did together, a flood of memories that makes my heart race and... ultimately break ): .I can't say that her intelligence is what I cherished most.
 
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  • #602
What arouses my interest in general, not requisites of course:

  • personality-wise: intelligent, really passionate about something, honest (no talking smack around a person's back), not cynical
  • physical: freckles, not too big (length-wise), blonde, a beautiful smile, boobies
 
  • #603
What's always interesting about these threads is that all people assume that what people say in these threads is actually true, especially what they themselves say. We should all know by now that people may say they seek X in a partner, in reality they don't. People say they like 'nice people', but they always get jerks in the end and only realize this after the relationship.

As far as most people go, I guess it goes more like this: 'I like him because he tells me what I want to hear.' or 'I love her because she's the only girl who's ever shown any interest in me even though I would consider her unremarkable if more girls did so.' or 'I met this guy when I was having the best day of my life and I subconsciously connect him to that feeling and translate that into love.', the Homo sapiens sapiens, he is the master of deluding himself with all sorts of things to cover up the less-than flattening reality.

But sure, I'll join you people, what I think I like most importantly is people that aren't out to control how others live their lives, and with that I mean I mean 'moral decadence'-type crusades. I also like it if people are honest with themselves and aren't too scared to admit that they have no reason for certain opinions and don't try to find one. If some one says 'I don't have a rational argument, the only reason I believe this is because I was raised to believe it, just like you.' I'm practically in love already. I also like it of people are good listeners and have a talent to observation.

And of course, this is what I say and think, and mostly it's hardly true.
 
  • #604
mr. vodka said:
What arouses my interest in general, not requisites of course:

  • personality-wise: intelligent, really passionate about something, honest (no talking smack around a person's back), not cynical
  • physical: freckles, not too big (length-wise), blonde, a beautiful smile, boobies


For me height would be a good thing, seeing as I'm 6'3". As for boobies...I think you'd be hard pressed to find someone who didn't take that into consideration as a physical characteristic.
 
  • #605
Lancelot59 said:
For me height would be a good thing, seeing as I'm 6'3". As for boobies...I think you'd be hard pressed to find someone who didn't take that into consideration as a physical characteristic.

Lol, but I don't just mean the presence, but also the state they're in, ya'know.

As for length, I'm not small, I'm 6', but I just seem to have a thing for smaller girls -- not midgets though.

Damn I feel like I'm saying awkward things :P
 
  • #606
ZQrn said:
What's always interesting about these threads is that all people assume that what people say in these threads is actually true, especially what they themselves say. We should all know by now that people may say they seek X in a partner, in reality they don't. People say they like 'nice people', but they always get jerks in the end and only realize this after the relationship.
People have a tendency to 'settle' for less than their ideal either knowing that they are unlikely to find their ideal or just too lonely to care at the moment. It doe snot necessarily mean that they are not actually attracted to the type of person they say they are. I think that there are also many people who say that they are attracted to certain characteristics because they feel they are supposed to say that they are. For instance how many people are likely to post in this thread saying that they would like a submissive partner who will do as they are expected? Despite there being a rather large percentage of the population that prefer this sort of partner most people will not admit it and some may not even admit it to themselves (as you note).

Lancelot59 said:
For me height would be a good thing, seeing as I'm 6'3". As for boobies...I think you'd be hard pressed to find someone who didn't take that into consideration as a physical characteristic.
Well if you are looking for a female I would imagine that 'boobies' would be on the checklist considering that females tend to have them.

mr. vodka said:
Lol, but I don't just mean the presence, but also the state they're in, ya'know.

As for length, I'm not small, I'm 6', but I just seem to have a thing for smaller girls -- not midgets though.

Damn I feel like I'm saying awkward things :P
I like short women too. And freckles. Throw in some glasses and red hair and I go weak in the knees.
 
  • #607
TheStatutoryApe said:
I like short women too. And freckles. Throw in some glasses and red hair and I go weak in the knees.
ask and ye shall receive...
You might want to sit down...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/windybug/3361234519/
:biggrin:
 
  • #608
TheStatutoryApe said:
I like short women too. And freckles. Throw in some glasses and red hair and I go weak in the knees.

I will remember this the next time I need a favor from you.
 
  • #609
DaveC426913 said:
ask and ye shall receive...
You might want to sit down...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/windybug/3361234519/
:biggrin:
She is pretty cute. I once picked up a girl at a bar with four (yes four) bright coppery braided pigtails, freckles, glasses, and a demeanor that reminded me very much of http://partyalaska.com/Rental_Costumes/LADIES/mary_katherine_gallagher.jpg... lust at first sight I tell you.

Char. Limit said:
I will remember this the next time I need a favor from you.
Would you like a first born child?
 
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  • #610
TheStatutoryApe said:
She is pretty cute.

Meh ... 4.5 out of 10 maybe.
 
  • #611
TheStatutoryApe said:
Would you like a first born child?

Depends. Can't stand children at 0-4 years old. Quite annoying, to be honest.

But I'd much rather have money.
 
  • #612
DanP said:
Meh ... 4.5 out of 10 maybe.

That is what I'd call a two-bagger. I need to wear a bag over my head just in case one over her head tears.
 
  • #613
cronxeh said:
That is what I'd call a two-bagger. I need to wear a bag over my head just in case one over her head tears.

Quoted for truth.
 
  • #614
...last time I ever post a pic of my sister on PF...
 
  • #615
hahahaha
 
  • #616
DaveC426913 said:
...last time I ever post a pic of my sister on PF...

No offense intended, I apologize if I hurt your feelings. I had no idea she is you little sis, if she really is :P
 
  • #617
DanP said:
No offense intended, I apologize if I hurt your feelings. I had no idea she is you little sis, if she really is :P
:biggrin:
 
  • #618
DanP said:
No offense intended, I apologize if I hurt your feelings. I had no idea she is you little sis, if she really is :P

A little too much Chlorine in that gene pool
 
  • #619
"Here's another self portrait. I'm an only child, so I find ways to amuse myself."
 
  • #620
Mandark said:
"Here's another self portrait. I'm an only child, so I find ways to amuse myself."

She has a brother that posts her picture on the internet for people to make fun of. Wouldn't you deny his existence?
 
  • #621
I'd be happy to meet a girl that would be satisfied by the simple things in life: a warm summer night, a bottle of wine, a telescope, and some good tunes.
 
  • #622
BobG said:
I'd be happy to meet a girl that would be satisfied by the simple things in life: a warm summer night, a bottle of wine, a telescope, and some good tunes.

So... no sex?
 
  • #623
Office_Shredder said:
So... no sex?

Sex is just a meaningless physical sensation...
 
  • #624
Char. Limit said:
Sex is just a meaningless physical sensation...

and love is just a meaningless emotion.
 
  • #625
AUK 1138 said:
and love is just a meaningless emotion.

Touché! :smile:
 
  • #626
It is not meaningless. In the grand scheme of your existence it is the only meaning. To be alive is to be able to feel physical contact and love. Without that you have a defective brain and should not be able to propagate
 
  • #627
AUK 1138 said:
and love is just a meaningless emotion.
Love is nature's way of tricking us into reproducing.
 
  • #628
cronxeh said:
It is not meaningless. In the grand scheme of your existence it is the only meaning. To be alive is to be able to feel physical contact and love. Without that you have a defective brain and should not be able to propagate

Who is this addressed to specifically? Char or Auk? I believe that Auk was actually being sarcastic.
 
  • #629
Evo said:
I always had to ask the nerdy guys out myself. I would just go up to them and ask "where are you taking me Friday night?" It always worked. You will find that nerdy guys will answer a direct question.

radou said:
If this ever happens to me with a girl, I think I'll mary her. 3 X Horray for a women's initiative! :smile:


Amen! :biggrin:

Char. Limit said:
Sex is just a meaningless physical sensation...

That is nearest and dearest to most peoples hearts thereby giving it meaning :approve:
 
  • #630
cronxeh said:
It is not meaningless. In the grand scheme of your existence it is the only meaning. To be alive is to be able to feel physical contact and love. Without that you have a defective brain and should not be able to propagate

Propagate? Like a wave?
 

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