What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

[CleffedUp]

I always had to ask the nerdy guys out myself. I would just go up to them and ask "where are you taking me Friday night?" It always worked. You will find that nerdy guys will answer a direct question.

Herein lies the answer. Nerds are people too, with varied tastes, but the common denominator is the ability to be so fiercely absorbed in something else as to completely overlook the subtle nuances of human interaction. Don't wink, don't flirt, don't plan to be in the right place at the right time; if these are noticed at all, they're easily explainable by other phenomena. Get to the point.

What's great about Evo's particular phrasing is that it's not an indirect request that can be explained away (e.g. "I want to see this movie, but don't have anyone to go with." "What about your roommate?"), and it's not a direct request that can be thoughtlessly mishandled (e.g. "Wanna go out some time?" "You talking to me? You mean, like, on a date?"). Instead, it's a direct request that requires parsing. Received spontaneously, it's curious and engaging, requiring thought power, which will most assuredly lead him to the exact desired interpretation.

It's perfect.

 

[DanP]

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[DaveC426913]

Nothing It's more fascinating than a man who draws his own self-portrait after a discussion in which he never was attacked in any way whatsoever by anyone. No one considered you naive. Not until now.

Dan, Clustro's ad hominem diatribe as already been deleted as inappropriate. Let's let this die rather than dragging out the bickering. It would be a shame if a thread of 34 pages and counting got locked.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

An argument is simply a particular term for statements. It's a common terminology.

If you like, it can be restated as 'attack the statements not the stater'.

While I think that he overreacted I can see where a person could take it personally when someone "attacks" the particular characteristics they find pleasing in a mate.

 

[Char. Limit]

1*10^5 views, here we come, right?

SPEAKING of characteristics people find pleasing in a mate...

How high do you all rate looks, personality, intelligence, and emotional stability?

Put the four in order, if you would.

 

[DanP]

Dan, Clustro's ad hominem diatribe as already been deleted as inappropriate. Let's let this die rather than dragging out the bickering. It would be a shame if a thread of 34 pages and counting got locked.

I, agree, it's a nice thread. I deleted the inappropriate content.

 

[DanP]

1*10^5 views, here we come, right?

SPEAKING of characteristics people find pleasing in a mate...

How high do you all rate looks, personality, intelligence, and emotional stability?

Put the four in order, if you would.

Emotional stability is pretty much contained in personality. It is basically neuroticism in the "five factor model" of personality.

 

[Lancelot59]

While I think that he overreacted I can see where a person could take it personally when someone "attacks" the particular characteristics they find pleasing in a mate.

I agree, it's essentially just saying "your values are stupid".

 

[Kajahtava]

1*10^5 views, here we come, right?

SPEAKING of characteristics people find pleasing in a mate...

How high do you all rate looks, personality, intelligence, and emotional stability?

Put the four in order, if you would.

Personality > looks > intelligence > emotional stability.

In fact, I think emotional instability is cute, I like people that get angry a lot and are cute when they are angry. Also, intelligence is just extremely vague, I value open-mindedness over intelligence. Or rather, I value the property of people that they don't start defending aggressively dogmata they only have because they were simply raised to believe them and realize that moral is relative.

Also, I like a bit of self-reflexion and awareness of the world around them, I like it when people realize they make a self fulfilling prophecy, I like it when people realize that if their friends gossip about another friend, surely they must gossip about them too if they aren't there?

Also, subtlety.

 

[MotoH]

When she kills you in your sleep for not taking the dishes out of the dishwasher, you will wish you put emotional stability at the top of the list.

 

[DaveC426913]

When she kills you in your sleep for not taking the dishes out of the dishwasher, you will wish you put emotional stability at the top of the list.

It's funny and it's true.

I had a crazy once. I only thank my lucky stars that, when she succumbed to her rage, it was her own head over which she smashed a clay flowerpot, and not mine...

 

[Kajahtava]

When she kills you in your sleep for not taking the dishes out of the dishwasher, you will wish you put emotional stability at the top of the list.

I sleep with my eyes open. I could recommend it to anyone, the quaestion's not if you're too paranoid, rather if you aren't paranoid enough.

Also, when she kills you at all you put personality on top, and when you die because of her incompetence to realize the hazards of electricity you put intelligence on top, your point being?

 

[Dembadon]

When she kills you in your sleep for not taking the dishes out of the dishwasher, you will wish you put emotional stability at the top of the list.

If you keep making me laugh out loud, I shall be forced to vote for you in PF's Best Humor Award for 2010. Consider yourself warned.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

It's funny and it's true.

I had a crazy once. I only thank my lucky stars that, when she succumbed to her rage, it was her own head over which she smashed a clay flowerpot, and not mine...

I've yet to get to know a woman and find that she isn't at least a little bit crazy. If it's not an overwhelming and completely irrational fear of something then they must be a habitual liar, banging their head on a wall after sex , wishing that they could be a vampire, pretending to have multiple personality disorder, or who knows what.

 

[Kajahtava]

Aggression is a different thing than emotional instability though.

I like people to be not that praedictable, if people are it becomes boring. Ironically, I'm probably the single most praedictable person on the planet, I basically have next to no different moods, I still listen to every music I ever listened to, never acquired or lost a taste, at every different moment I like the same things, reply the same thing to the same quaestion, I'm like a functional programming language. And I find these kind of people extremely boring, I like surprises.

 

[Proton Soup]

i seem to be attracted to crazy, and it tends not to work out well in the end, as it becomes contagious. I've got to seriously consider choosing the bottom two points on the relationship triangle.

 

[Lancelot59]

i seem to be attracted to crazy, and it tends not to work out well in the end, as it becomes contagious. I've got to seriously consider choosing the bottom two points on the relationship triangle.

That's a flaw of mine as well. Knowing where it stems from makes it just that little bit more annoying.

 

[DaveC426913]

i seem to be attracted to crazy, and it tends not to work out well in the end, as it becomes contagious. I've got to seriously consider choosing the bottom two points on the relationship triangle.

Uh, we're not talkin' "zany" dancing barefoot in the fountain crazy. We're talkin' prescription antidepressant 4AM sojourns in 2 feet of snow through suburbs chasing a hysterical person who's in nothing but pyjamas the night before your big exam crazy.

 

[GeorginaS]

Uh, we're not talkin' "zany" dancing barefoot in the fountain crazy. We're talkin' prescription antidepressant 4AM sojourns in 2 feet of snow through suburbs chasing a hysterical person who's in nothing but pyjamas the night before your big exam crazy.

Whoa. That sounds like the voice of experience talking.

Although this really makes me want to tell the story about a guy I was dating when I was 18. I was living on my own by then. He was more than a little nuts. There was the time he stranded me in Fitzroy Provincial Park in the middle of the night and I had to walk to the ranger station so I could call my sister to come and get me. We were supposed to be camping, I went for a walk, came back to the campsite, and the tent, supplies, car, everything was gone. He decided that he'd "lost" me, and packed up and drove back to the city. I wasn't gone that long. The park rangers laughed at me. My sister yelled at me all the way back to the city when she came and picked me up.

Then there was the time that I was at a friend's place in the far, far east end, out in suburbia (I lived in Ottawa then) after his sister and I had signed said fellow to the local psychiatric hospital earlier that afternoon. He signed himself out that evening, made his way to my sister's place, and sat on the grass on my sister's front lawn, howling my name to the moon. My sister, genius that she was, phoned me and told me that I'd better come to her place (I didn't have a car and she lived on the Quebec side of Ottawa) and get him off of her lawn. I told her to phone the police.

But, so yeah. Attracting crazy. Jeez I can tell stories. If nothing else, guys, don't worry, it's not just you. There seems to be an over abundance of flipped out males on the planet too.

 

[DanP]

But, so yeah. Attracting crazy. Jeez I can tell stories. If nothing else, guys, don't worry, it's not just you. There seems to be an over abundance of flipped out males on the planet too.

I'm your hell, I'm your dream, I'm nothing in between
You know you wouldn't want it any other way

 

[cristo]

I'm your hell, I'm your dream, I'm nothing in between
You know you wouldn't want it any other way

You didn't just quote Alanis Morissette did you?

 

[DanP]

you hate her ?

 

[cristo]

you hate her ?

You could say that. I mean, come on, she wrote a song about a word she didn't even know the definition of!

 

[DanP]

You could say that. I mean, come on, she wrote a song about a word she didn't even know the definition of!

Hahaha !

 

[whybother]

You didn't just quote Alanis Morissette did you?

I'm pretty sure that's a Meredith Brook quote anyway

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

You didn't just quote Alanis Morissette did you?

I was going to say it was Meredith Brooks but when I checked to make sure I had the name right it turns out Morissette did a cover of it. Odd.

 

[cristo]

I'm pretty sure that's a Meredith Brook quote anyway

Oh yeah, you're right. Well, they're pretty much the same person anyway...

 

[DaveC426913]

You could say that. I mean, come on, she wrote a song about a word she didn't even know the definition of!

And then she wrote another song about how successful that one was!

'cuz I've got one hand in your pocket
And the other one is writin' out a deposit slip...

 

[Proton Soup]

Uh, we're not talkin' "zany" dancing barefoot in the fountain crazy. We're talkin' prescription antidepressant 4AM sojourns in 2 feet of snow through suburbs chasing a hysterical person who's in nothing but pyjamas the night before your big exam crazy.

so far, I've done "needs to be on anti-anxiety meds and we can't even stop in the middle of the day to get a bite to eat in New Orleans 15 years before Katrina" crazy, and "childhood sexual abuse leads to multiple personalities that come out at weird times, couldn't stay in college and married the first guy that would get me away from my parents" crazy. i feel like I've got a decent grasp of the subject.

 

[Kajahtava]

You have done nothing, when a girl you love suddenly terminates contact with you for two weeks because she thinks you're a spy from her father who then calls you again crying afterwards, then you know you've hit on the pot of gold of paranoid insanity.

But cute, yeah, it's cute.