@Passionflower
Ok, i think i got the root of our problem and the solution.
Let's start with your original statement:
"I think in relativity time is the length of a path between two events in four dimensions."
-First, i will modify your statement to: "Time is a path between two events in four dimensions."
-I remove the word relativity because i am not sure in which relativity you are referring to; the general or special. Also, specifying special relativity will make one of the four dimensions to time which in our case we don't want to.
-It is not length because they are two different things. For example, length would be like: it took five minutes for me to write my essay. While for time i would be saying, according to Easter Time clock, i finished my essay at 10:42AM.
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-This will require us to look at dimension not as the scientific meaning of dimension but the mathematical one. When i say this, i mean anything CAN be a dimension.
-Saying that, we will look at event as a dimension. For example, e1 (event1), e2 (event2) and so on.
-So, according to the modified statement we are looking at time as t(e, x, y, z) where e=event, x=spacial-dimension1, y=spacial-dimension1, z=spacial-dimension3.
-In other words, time is a function of event, and 3 spatial dimensions. And length of the path of 2 points of time would be how much time lapsed between two events.
-This support the filmstrip idea where each event would be each snapshot on the film, and the difference in length between two film strips is the total time it took for those two events to happen.
Now, the next problem is when i said that time is one of the four dimensions.
-In the case of viewing time as part of the dimension, i would actually be defining event as a function of time and the 3 spatial dimensions or e(t, x, y, z).
-So, if we see time as a function of event, we would intuitively make event as a dimension.
-And if we make time as a dimension, we intuitively create an event function instead.
-Next, is what is the length of the path between two events? It is NOT the total amount of time between two events. I was wrong. Yes, sorry and i apologize. I don't know what it means unless we give a meaningful value to each point of event.