Why Do Girls Like Bad Boys?

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It is a game. What you need to realize is that you always win regardless if you get the girl or not. You didn't get her? oh great now you are free to get to the other one. You got her? great now to the next step.

Frankly, meeting girls and dating them should be almost like breathing to you. Take it for granted (not the women, but the activity).
 
if one figures that meeting girls is an important thing in one's life.
 

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I was attracted to Tsu because she was a very bad girl! Nyuck nyuck nyuck. Actually, she was pretty crazy, but not "bad".

She was attracted to me because I wore shorts at work and she liked my legs.
 
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Another point. Generally in life, we get satisfaction from things that we find challenging. That is to say, in most fields, such as math, business, or physical fitness, we set goals that are difficult to reach, and get satisfaction from reaching them.
I think some of this is the same phenomenon, although it is not a correct application of the people, since people aren't challenges that can be conquered (although unfortunately, many people believe so.) I think the male equivalent is the "player" who seeks to bed as many women as possible.
 
people who view "getting someone" as the challenge, are still immature.

the real challenge is making things work.
 

Lichdar

The key is really just confidence.

Unconsciously or otherwise, I tend to respect my male friends who lean toward the arrogance skill if they also have some aptitude to back it up with. I think its not about lawlessness as much as ingratiation - a man who looks like he wants to ingratiate or seek the approval of everyone around him comes off as weak. It might be a sign of the society I came from, but I always remember this said by several girls as I grew up and I think it is very true:

"A man can have any fault except weakness."

Weakness or being perceived as weak is essentially the death touch; and this refers a great deal to emotional strength as well. It is, however, also individual what each person perceives as strength, but I do think there are certain basic instincts as well.
 
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I understand why women like tall, muscular, wealthy men, but why do (most) women like bad boys? Countless times we hear women saying they know a certain type of man is bad for them but they keep falling for them, why is this? "Nice guys finish last" is a cliche because it's largely true.
There was a study, which I cannot find, which showed that women will date the bad boy then marry the quiet, nice nerd, but then still go out and have an affair with some tall muscular man.

I'm not feeling sorry for myself because I'm not a bad boy, btw, I'm ok with who I am.
First, from what I've seen, the average woman, first and foremost, is drawn to certain personality traits: a sense of humor, charisma, confidence, extroversion, etc. I knew someone on the football team in high school who was over 6' and mesomorphic, who was very introverted, and he never dated anyone. Conversely, I've seen plenty of examples of men who are under 6' and/or non-mesomorphic who have these personality traits who do well with women.

Now, what profession comes to mind when you combine a sense of humor, charisma, confidence, extroversion? For me, it's politician. Lots of politicians are assholes. A lot of people with those personality traits are assholes, because of the arrogance that they develop from the popularity that those personality traits give them.

To answer your question, the "bad boy" persona is merely a common by-product of the personality traits (personality traits, as outlined above, being what the average woman cares about most) that the average woman looks for.
 
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normal guys are boring. bad boys are exciting.
 

SamirS

To answer your question, the "bad boy" persona is merely a common by-product of the personality traits (personality traits, as outlined above, being what the average woman cares about most) that the average woman looks for.
Very well said.

Also, a "bad boy", or a typicall "I like him"-jerk has another quality. Typical "nice" guys are, in my opinion, very dishonest. I'll try to explain it through Hollywood.

You know all the movies where the not-so-attractive boy (or sometimes girl) comes to a new school (or similar) and instantly falls in love with the best looking girl (or sometimes boy) of the school, and he loves her somehow "more honestly" than the jerks she's dating, and how the movie spectators all feel for the poor guy and hope he gets the girl?

Well, I find it arrogant and very dishonest that he expects her to love him back under the premise that he is somewhat less interested in her the same way the jerks are (namely, sexually), when he proved that premise wrong simply by means of falling in love with the most beautiful girl. He is dishonest to her (and most likely to himself, too) and tries to rationalize the actual reason for his love into something higher.

Well, translated to the real life, most jerks/bad boys of the type girls like are usually much more honest about their reasons. The nice "best friend"-guy (see the xkcd comic) shares the basic intentions for the girl, but he disguises it with understanding and support.

Pretty much all males who are trying to get into a relationship with women try to do it the way they feel is the one with the most probable success (the easiest perceived way correlates with your inherent character traits). If you are nice but also honest, fine. But almost all guys I know who are the typical "best friend"-type are not nice and understanding in the same way to other people, so I suspect this niceness to be a strategy.


*Generally assuming the (non-abusive) jerk from the quote
 

Lichdar

Also note: people who specialize in ruthlessly manipulating human emotions tend to be better at doing exactly what they've practiced at. Its nothing more than the principle of being good at what you practice at.
 

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