jVincent said:
There is a lot of talk in this thread about the nature of your question and whether you should be asking it at all, I think this is unnecessary noise in the discussion.
Agreed! I couldn't believe the stubbornness with which people refused to even consider the question just because it had the word "why" in it. No one even mentioned QED until the second page of posts, shouldn't that have been the very first reply? Obviously no one is expecting a grand-unified-tied-up-in-a-neat-little-package-with-a-nice-looking-bow description of attractive and repulsive forces. But is it really so bad to want something more satisfying than "because that's the way it is", or "its defined that way".
So I send out my respects to Karmic for standing his ground on this! So what if any real discussion on a topic like this will be nothing but conjecture? It never hurts to have a brain storm! After all, before any theory comes into being someone has to first make a guess at a better explanation, only then can you start to see if it holds water.
In my opinion, Faradave gave the best summary of the state of this topic today, hands down. He was a breath of fresh air that made me grin from ear to ear.
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I wish I had something to add myself, but I don't have much. Although I do remember a few years back when I was in high school. This exact question suddenly started driving me nuts for a few months. At the time I had never heard of Quantum Electrodynamics and I don't think I was even aware of the basics of QM.
One day I decided, "I have to resolve this! I need some paradigm to imagine just to appease my curiosity!". At this point I was no longer concerned so much about being right as I was about just thinking of some way to picture it, just some allegory that made a shred of sense in my own mind.
What I came up with was a lot like the space-time warping some people here have talked about in the context of string theory. At the time the only thing I knew beyond Newtonian mechanics was a qualitative understanding of general relativity. So I just decided to think of the same thing as a mass distorting space-time except that there were two entities which would distort it in "opposite directions".
I thought of it kind of like one distorts the fabric inwards and the other distorts it outwards. To simplify the picture in my head I thought of it like single waves. One was a single crest and the other was a single trough. The crests were space-time ballooning out, the troughs were ballooning in (if that makes sense). If a crest meets a trough then they cancel out and the amount of "fabric" between them decreases, or they attract. If two of the same meet then they amplify each other and the separation grows, or a repulsion.
These days when I imagine that is isn't as satisfying as it was years ago. There are problems like the issue of two crests superimposing. This may separate the entities but it would do so by some specific amount (the sum of their distortions), which would imply that the force would suddenly stop when they were that far apart unless another like charge entered the system. Also, if it is actually space-time that they are distorting then wouldn't any other object, charged or not, be effected and hence appear to to experience the "force" as well?
So clearly it had lots of problems, but that's how ideas in physics work. Wonder, imagine a model, calculate its implications, compare those with reality, repeat.
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These days, while I have not yet formally studied QED I can somewhat use it to create a little "artists rendition" of the EM interactions in my minds eye which keeps me happy enough for now.
All in all I think you should never tell someone there is no answer. You can't be sure of that anymore than they can be sure that there is an answer, and in the end trying to think of a better explanation will always have a slight chance to actually get you somewhere. If you don't try than you are guaranteed to never make progress.