Why does my social life suck so much?

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The discussion revolves around the challenges of building a social life after transferring to a new school, particularly for a student focused on academics in math and physics. The individual expresses feelings of loneliness and insecurity, struggling to turn acquaintances into friends due to differing schedules and a lack of shared interests. Suggestions include joining clubs related to personal interests, engaging in social activities, and utilizing academic strengths to connect with peers. The importance of balancing social interactions with academic commitments is emphasized, along with the idea that confidence can be developed over time. Ultimately, fostering social connections is deemed essential for a fulfilling college experience.
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Poop loops, find something better to do with your time than trying to annoy me.
 
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  • #152
Math Is Hard said:
So we all agree that giant bow ties are NOT a good look.

I don't know? This guy pulls it off pretty well.

http://cache.viewimages.com/xc/3020314.jpg?v=1&c=ViewImages&k=2&d=17A4AD9FDB9CF193B3EA2C03450C94868D5FF7793A4D80585A5397277B4DC33E

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http://www.optimuscrime.com/images/farnsworth.jpg

http://graphics.jsonline.com/graphics/owlive/img/aug04/dapper_082004_bigb.jpg

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  • #153
Cyrus said:
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http://www.josephsofportland.com/shop/images/canali_2.jpg

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Only reason #1 looks good is because he's wearing something over the striped shirt.

And a business suit? Please.

Poop loops, find something better to do with your time than trying to annoy me.

I'm sorry to burst your ego bubble, but I couldn't care less about you. I just wanted to comment on striped shirts.
 
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  • #154
Im glad were acting like adults here.
 
  • #155
Cyrus said:
Im glad were acting like adults here.

I don't know man. Those outfits are lame.

Number 1 problem is no accessories.

If you want to find good pictures and good styles, search for european styles. North Americans are dull as ****.
 
  • #156
Cyrus said:
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http://www.josephsofportland.com/shop/images/canali_2.jpg

http://www.bestwell.com.cn/images/S4M5324_mn.jpg

http://sc7img.dillards.com/is/image/DillardsZoom/myl063_zi?$product$

Poop loops, find something better to do with your time than trying to annoy me.

Now THOSE are styles I can sink my teeth into...mmm. Poop-loops, what do you have against stripes?! That's a problem too many guys have, they are afraid to add patterns to their wardrobe, and everything they own is plain, boring, solid colors.

Horizontal stripes can be dangerous if you don't have the right body type (if you're very thin, they can help you look like you have broader shoulders though). Vertical stripes are almost always good looking (with the exception Cyrus pointed out already, that if you're tall and skinny, avoid vertical stripes that will make you look more like a bean pole...subtle stripes are okay, but nothing bold if you're tall).

I think the top look would be especially good on a small Asian guy who has a problem with looking too young for his age, because the jacket will make you look bigger in the upper body, which translates to an appearance of looking older too. Just be careful that the jacket you choose is the right length for your height...you wouldn't want it too long to make your legs look super-short by having a jacket that's overly long (and a tall guy wouldn't want too short of a jacket making him look like he's standing on stilts). You could also pull off that look with a denim jacket rather than a sport coat for an even more casual look.

The style on the bottom probably wouldn't look that good on a shorter guy, but if you're an average height guy, it's a nice casual look that's comfortable without looking sloppy. That's also a great example of a properly fitting shirt. Look where the shoulder seams are on his shoulders, and how the side seams of the shirt come in close, following the contour of his body without being overly tight.
 
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  • #157
JasonRox said:
Number 1 problem is no accessories.

Accessories? Those are for women, not men!
 
  • #158
Accessories are what finish an outfit. For example, a nice watch, a hat, sun glasses, a leather wrist band, a ring.
 
  • #159
I wonder what happened to proton?

hopefully he's not out there buying ALL the clothes presented

(maybe he's socializing)
 
  • #160
Cyrus said:
Accessories are what finish an outfit. For example, a nice watch, a hat, sun glasses, a leather wrist band, a ring.

Hats and sunglasses are for when you're outdoors. Leather wrist band? Not even sure what that's about, and don't think I want to ask. The only rings I want to see on a guy is a wedding ring (well, I don't really want to see that either, but if they're married and want to wear the thing, it's okay...I'm used to being around men who don't even wear wedding rings because they're a safety hazard). Any other rings start making him look like a pimp. Though, a nice pair of cufflinks when dressed up is acceptable accessories. I don't like jewelry on guys. Heck, I don't like too much jewelry on women either. If I see guys wearing too much jewelry, I end up thinking they're too "soft" and don't do enough real work with their hands that they can wear jewelry.

I keep seeing people suggesting to dress like Europeans. Why? We're not in Europe. Can't they have their own styles that we don't have to copy? If you're trying to appeal to American women (or Asian women) and not European women, go with styles that are appealing where you are. Of course, if you're trying to attract European women, go for the European styles.
 
  • #161
rewebster said:
I wonder what happened to proton?

hopefully he's not out there buying ALL the clothes presented
:smile: Yeah, I think we've gotten way off topic here. Oh well, that's the fate of threads in GD.

(maybe he's socializing)

Hopefully!
 
  • #162
i was doing some socializing, but mainly studying for midterms

anyways, why do you guys keep suggesting suits as outfits for me? i can only use outfits that make me look less awkward and more normal. I've barely seen any college students wear suits
 
  • #163
proton said:
i was doing some socializing, but mainly studying for midterms

anyways, why do you guys keep suggesting suits as outfits for me? i can only use outfits that make me look less awkward and more normal. I've barely seen any college students wear suits
I think the thread has turned into a bit of a fashion walk-off. I don't think it has much bearing on your situation and is mostly a debate on fashion. Don't read too much into it. The general idea is that the way you dress might be a good way to make a good first impression to others. It's something to think about, but you'll have to decide what is right for yourself.
 
  • #164
just wear SOME clothes when you go out
 
  • #165
rewebster said:
just wear SOME clothes when you go out
Yes, definitely wear some clothes. You wouldn't want your quarks showing!
 
  • #166
Huckleberry said:
Yes, definitely wear some clothes. You wouldn't want your quarks showing!

yeah--or your gluons
 
  • #167
proton said:
i was doing some socializing, but mainly studying for midterms

anyways, why do you guys keep suggesting suits as outfits for me? i can only use outfits that make me look less awkward and more normal. I've barely seen any college students wear suits

Have you gotten anything out of all of our babbling (suggestions) yet?
 
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  • #168
Moonbear said:
Now THOSE are styles I can sink my teeth into...mmm. Poop-loops, what do you have against stripes?! That's a problem too many guys have, they are afraid to add patterns to their wardrobe, and everything they own is plain, boring, solid colors.

It's really just a straight line, but you're putting it there to make your clothes more interesting? That doesn't make sense.
 
  • #169
rewebster said:
Have you gotten anything out of all of our babbling (suggestions) yet?


My answer: duzzent look like it. Maybe there is a relationship between the problem he seems to have and what we see here...hmm :smile:
 
  • #170
Here is a great example of a khaki suit and stripe shirt, and sunglasses.

http://img2.timeinc.net/ew/img/review/011214/oceans_l.jpg


As for the wristband moonbear, think 80s rocker.
 
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  • #171
Cyrus said:
Here are more places you can look proton

http://men.style.com/slideshows/mens/standalone/details/fashion/0607/denim/00004f.jpg

I'm not too sure about this outfit. For me, there's too many clashing themes going on. I'd either ditch the shirt and wear a plain one or switch to a plain tie and matching pocket handkerchief. I don't like patterned shirts with plain collars either, but I know that's just me! This is, however, a good example of how a belt really adds to an outfit.
 
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  • #172
Cyrus said:
Here is a great example of a khaki suit and stripe shirt, and sunglasses.
Yes, I like the khaki suit and stripe shirt there. But then, that's a guy who could wear anything and still look HOT! :!)

As for the wristband moonbear, think 80s rocker.
I left the 80s back in high school, and don't really need to return to them. :wink: Next you'll be recommending fluorescent sweatshirts with the neck ripped out. :-p

cristo said:
I don't like patterned shirts with plain collars either, but I know that's just me!

I don't care for those either, but I thought I was the only one...so many people do seem to like them.
 
  • #173
cristo said:
I'm not too sure about this outfit. For me, there's too many clashing themes going on. I'd either ditch the shirt and wear a plain one or switch to a plain tie and matching pocket handkerchief. I don't like patterned shirts with plain collars either, but I know that's just me! This is, however, a good example of how a belt really adds to an outfit.


Yeah, its not perfect. But its leaps and bounds better than a hoddie, but still casual with the jeans.
 
  • #174
jim mcnamara said:
My answer: duzzent look like it. Maybe there is a relationship between the problem he seems to have and what we see here...hmm :smile:

I think photon says he's busy with his work------

proton said:
i was doing some socializing, but mainly studying for midterms

anyways, why do you guys keep suggesting suits as outfits for me? i can only use outfits that make me look less awkward and more normal. i've barely seen any college students wear suits

and from the first few posts, its more a few to socialize with---if he dressed up in a suit for those functions, I think they may get the wrong impression about him.:rolleyes:
 
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  • #175
My only comment about fashion is that's just as possible to look overdressed as it is to look underdressed. Sometimes, honestly, jeans and a hoodie is the most appropriate look you can have. You'd look a little weird if you drag-ass into your 8 am calculus class wearing a crisply starched dress shirt and Princeton-style sport coat with a little matching handkerchief in the pocket. :smile:

I'm often just as impressed by the variety in someone's wardrobe, but I'm the sort of guy who thinks it's perfectly normal to scuba dive and snow ski in the same weekend.

- Warren
 
  • #176
Moonbear said:
If you're trying to appeal to American women (or Asian women) and not European women, go with styles that are appealing where you are.

All women love it. American, Canadian, European, whatever.

I have accessories, like watches, bracelets, necklaces, rings and things like that. I have several of them so I can wear accessories that match the outfit or "vibe" I want to set.

One of the things I do a lot though, as silly as it sounds, is wear a hockey hat. I'm dressed all preppy with a hockey hat basically. It's against all fashion rules, but it's my style. It makes me stand out. People notice me a lot more. They love the hockey hair, so no complaints there. I am looking for a nice hairstyle though. That's not easy.
 
  • #177
Poop-Loops said:
And a business suit? Please.

What, you've never seen a striped suit?
 
  • #178
JasonRox said:
One of the things I do a lot though, as silly as it sounds, is wear a hockey hat.

Um, wouldn't that be...a helmet? Well yeah, that does sound silly. But I'm neither hockey-nor-fashion savvy. Who am I to say...?
 
  • #179
lisab said:
Um, wouldn't that be...a helmet? Well yeah, that does sound silly. But I'm neither hockey-nor-fashion savvy. Who am I to say...?

I guess as long as its not a hockey mask:

http://www.columbiacostumes.com/Thumbnails/Thumbnail%20Masks/hockey_mask_tn.gif
 
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  • #180
JasonRox said:
All women love it. American, Canadian, European, whatever.
Not all. I sure don't.

One of the things I do a lot though, as silly as it sounds, is wear a hockey hat. I'm dressed all preppy with a hockey hat basically. It's against all fashion rules, but it's my style. It makes me stand out. People notice me a lot more. They love the hockey hair, so no complaints there. I am looking for a nice hairstyle though. That's not easy.
The thing about finding your own style is that once you understand the rules, you are free to break them. I think it gets back at the confidence part. If you're just schlepping around wearing anything because you couldn't bother to care, people can tell. But, if you're proudly showing off your own odd style, then it's saying something about who you are and you exude confidence, which is the most attractive part of it.
 

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