Why does my social life suck so much?

[moe darklight]

This guy here, second from the right, is absolutely laughable dorky.

hey! that's exactly how I dress!

there's nothing wrong with dressing dorky. you see kids like my friends who think they're all cool with their dying fetus or black sabbath or rancid shirts or whatever, but let me ask you: when you walk into a bar full of punks and metal fans dressed in chains and all that crap, and you see one guy with a jew-fro wearing a bright green flannel shirt and tight jeans... who would you say has the biggest cojones out of that bunch

 

[lah214]

ok, first, life really isn't THAT serious. You have one shot to live it, and nobody ever gets out alive anyway, so you mine as well have fun in the process. Talk to people! Why do you care if they don't like you? (Which, unless you are mean, cocky, or insulting, most people will like you at least a little bit.) Put yourself out there, and try to have fun; what's the worst that could happen? Even if someone makes fun of you, just get over it, try not to care, and HAVE FUN!
I mean, I'm not saying to completely ditch the studying. You should definitely keep your grades up, life just shouldn't be ALL about school and work. And don't think that girls don't like you. I'm a girl, I'm on the swim team and the tennis team at school, I have a lot of friends, and I'm pretty outgoing. But I also LOVE physics, plan on majoring in it, and I just learned how to solve the rubik's cube! I LOVE talking to the "geeky" guys in my school, and I'm friends with a lot of them. The two things that I find most attractive is intelligence and humor. The guy has to have a brain, that's the first thing. The second thing, is that I have to know that I can have fun with you. So go play a sport! Go skydiving! When you're 87 and looking back, you're not going to remember that test you should've studied harder for, you're going to remember the amazing times you've had, and that one crazy night that you let go and had fun!

SO GO HAVE FUN! Don't bother to think about what other people think of you. If you're having fun, people will want to have fun with you.

 

[Moonbear]

You should get some, MB! You'd look adorable in them.

My summer intern tried telling me this too. Then again, I suppose scrubs are a whole lot like pajamas in terms of comfort...though not nearly as cute looking. When I teach the gross lab, I wear scrubs and a lab coat with my "Mad Scientist's Union" patch on it (med students are geeky too and find it as funny as I do...I cut it off of a too-large black labcoat that zenmaster got for me when we were still dating and sewed it onto a proper white labcoat...it seems very appropriate for gross anatomy). Lately, I have been spending most of my day in scrubs...one set for the gross lab, which really do get gross, and one set for the farm, which get dirty but not as gross. It's nice to get to put on real clothes after wearing scrubs all day...even nicer to get a hot shower when I know what I smell like even if nobody else would recognize the odd perfume-y smell as embalming fluid.

 

[Cyrus]

Hmm.. lots of crazy ideas about fashion here.

1) The pictures Cyrus posted are of guys who absolutely do look like dorks. Sorry, it's true. The truth is that people on TV or on movie screens can get away with looks that, for some reason, command respect in that context. If they wore those same costumes down to the grocery store, they'd just get laughed at. This guy here, second from the right, is absolutely laughable dorky.

2) Banana Republic is the domain of blue striped button down shirts and orange sweaters. I used to shop there quite a bit, but I'm full up on blue striped button downs. I have a couple of nice sweaters from BR that I wear frequently during winter, though, so I can vouch for their quality.

3) A lot of adult women are actually pretty turned off by the whole metrosexual, near-queer kind of fashion that a lot of college kids seem to get into.

- Warren

Yes, ill give you that. Those guys are a bit dorkish. (I Just did a quick google search of fashion to post some pics up quickly). However, the point was to show a variety of style, and how that dorky look can work on some people and not others. Thats why I pointed out that he should find a style that fits his body.

As for the whole metrosexual thing, no way. Alot of the adult women I talk to like it (25+).

 

[Cyrus]

They look worse than dorky. The one Chroot pointed out definitely looks dorky. C'mon, untucked plaid shirt buttoned up to the top button, unkempt hair and what sort of glasses are those?

Nope. His hair is styled like that on purpose. Thats his look.

And the one on the far left looks like he just leapt out of the '60s or '70s.

Its a retro style.

Despite what you say, they are in theme with their 'look'. I didnt say you had to like their look. I didnt say I like their look. I am just pointing out its one type of style. Even though you two don't seem to get that.

I would post pictures of styles I like but the websites are all flash and I can't link them.

 

[Moonbear]

Nope. His hair is styled like that on purpose. Thats his look.

Fine, but it's a dorky look. If proton wants a less than dorky look, that's not the way to go.

 

[Cyrus]

Here are more places you can look proton

http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/category.jsp?itemCount=8&pushId=&id=M_APP_OUTERWEAR&startValue=9&selectedProductColor=&navCount=3&prevVisit=true&navAction=poppush&sortby=&popId=

http://men.style.com/details/fashion/slideshow/v/05152007JEANS

http://men.style.com/slideshows/mens/standalone/details/fashion/0607/denim/00004f.jpg

http://men.style.com/slideshows/mens/standalone/details/fashion/0607/denim/00006f.jpg

 

[Beeza]

Do you really think it matters how you dress for class? I mean I'm a TA and still wear hoodies. I don't think the whole professionalism thing really matters. I would prefer a teacher that dresses comfortable instead of in a suit every day.

 

[Cyrus]

I don't dress for class. I dress nice all the time, becuase you never know when you might meet someone new and make a good impression. Theres no reason not to dress nice, apart from being lazy.

 

[Beeza]

I don't dress nice because I just plain don't care. Anyone that would write me off based on how I dress can kiss my butt anyway :)

 

[Moonbear]

Here are more places you can look proton

Those are better (though, for the last one, tuck the shirt tails in!...I think it looks so stupid to have all those nice clothes and layers and have the shirt tails untucked).

Do you really think it matters how you dress for class? I mean I'm a TA and still wear hoodies. I don't think the whole professionalism thing really matters. I would prefer a teacher that dresses comfortable instead of in a suit every day.

Yes, it does matter. And, you should dress more professionally as a TA too...you'll get more respect from your students if you look like you care rather than showing up looking like you just rolled out of bed like they did. There's also a misconception that you can't be comfortable and dress nicely at the same time. Comfortable can be achieved with properly fitting nice clothes too. I've actually realized that jeans are really UNcomfortable after dressing professionally all week long.

 

[Cyrus]

I don't dress nice because I just plain don't care. Anyone that would write me off based on how I dress can kiss my butt anyway :)

Dont worry. I am too scared you'd pound my head in if I said anything to you!

Those are better (though, for the last one, tuck the shirt tails in!...I think it looks so stupid to have all those nice clothes and layers and have the shirt tails untucked).

Again, that's the style of his look.

 

[Beeza]

Those are better (though, for the last one, tuck the shirt tails in!...I think it looks so stupid to have all those nice clothes and layers and have the shirt tails untucked).



Yes, it does matter. And, you should dress more professionally as a TA too...you'll get more respect from your students if you look like you care rather than showing up looking like you just rolled out of bed like they did. There's also a misconception that you can't be comfortable and dress nicely at the same time. Comfortable can be achieved with properly fitting nice clothes too. I've actually realized that jeans are really UNcomfortable after dressing professionally all week long.

You really think so? This is interesting to hear from your point of view (as a professor). I found the students really liked me, and I got excellent reviews last semester. I thought dressing "like" them would make them more comfortable asking questions etc. Maybe I will have to switch things up this semester and see how it affects the class. Academia has been a difficult adjustment for me--especially controlling the language that comes out of my mouth.

 

[Astronuc]

Here are more places you can look proton

http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/category.jsp?itemCount=8&pushId=&id=M_APP_OUTERWEAR&startValue=9&selectedProductColor=&navCount=3&prevVisit=true&navAction=poppush&sortby=&popId=

http://men.style.com/details/fashion/slideshow/v/05152007JEANS

http://men.style.com/slideshows/mens/standalone/details/fashion/0607/denim/00004f.jpg

http://men.style.com/slideshows/mens/standalone/details/fashion/0607/denim/00006f.jpg

[PLAIN]http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2007/04/19/Suit1_narrowweb__300x457,0.jpg[/QUOTE][/URL] No thanks.

I dress business casual these days - slacks or jeans and long or short sleeved business type shirt. I rarely wear a vest or coat, and I avoid suits as much as possible.

In college, I generally wore jeans and T-shirts, and I had a set of dashikis, which I often wore in class or during the evening. I never had any difficulty meeting people. I had many friends, male and female. I dated several women, but I kept those relationships cordial and platonic. There was one serious relationship before I met the woman I married.

 

[Moonbear]

Again, that's the style of his look.

And again, it doesn't mean it's a good look. There are a lot of "trends" that just plain look stupid, there always have been and always will be.

You really think so? This is interesting to hear from your point of view (as a professor). I found the students really liked me, and I got excellent reviews last semester. I thought dressing "like" them would make them more comfortable asking questions etc. Maybe I will have to switch things up this semester and see how it affects the class. Academia has been a difficult adjustment for me--especially controlling the language that comes out of my mouth.

They'll also like you just because you know your stuff, it's that they'll respect you more if you look the part. I'm not saying show up to class in some stodgy old 3-piece suit and bow tie (that would just have them laughing), but khakis and a nice shirt will go a long way toward looking like you're the one in charge of the classroom. Them being open to asking questions has more to do with your personality than looking like you're one of them. The students ask me plenty of questions, even when I'm the professor who knows the least about the subject (the one who knows the most is VERY long-winded...friendly enough and really wants them to learn, but the students don't have time for his long answers to every question, so I'm learning to listen to his answers and then give the other groups the "condensed" version).

 

[scorpa]

. I'm not saying show up to class in some stodgy old 3-piece suit and bow tie (that would just have them laughing)

I had a neuropathologist show up to my class the other day to lecture us...wearing an orange checkered suit that looked like it was from the 70's, a BOWTIE and a combover...thus earning him the nickname of Dr.Bowtie. He even had those large round glasses that people wore many many years ago. I was shaking I was trying so hard not laugh, I'm sure my face was beet red to. It was a long two days trying to get through that class without laughing hysterically.

 

[Cyrus]

http://www.gogomag.com/talkingheads/caps/tvh/images/msnbcmen/p01.jpg

 

[scorpa]

Ha this guys bowtie was about 3x the size of the one is cyrus' picture. I swear he stole it from a clown.

 

[Moonbear]

Ha this guys bowtie was about 3x the size of the one is cyrus' picture. I swear he stole it from a clown.

https://mywebspace.wisc.edu/qleonard/web/MUSIC/AITDJB/AITDJB%202005/AITDJB%202005%20Eric%20bowtie%20072805.jpg

It's a style too.

 

[Cyrus]

Thats an insult to style.

 

[Math Is Hard]

So we all agree that giant bow ties are NOT a good look.

 

[Cyrus]

Also, if you are tall and thin, you should avoid wearing vertical stripes. If your short and fat, avoid horziontal stripes. Wearing vertical stripes if your short makes you appear taller and vice versa.

 

[Poop-Loops]

I was under the impression that wearing stripes makes you look like a dumbass.

 

[Cyrus]

I was under the impression that wearing stripes makes you look like a dumbass.

How old are you, 12?

 

[Poop-Loops]

Why? Are you trying to appeal to 12-year-olds?

http://blogs.iht.com/tribtalk/travel/globespotters/images/uploads/waxmuseum.jpg

Do these guys think they are going to go faster because they have stripes? Or what?

 

[binzing]

The guy on the right looks like a dumbass cause of his weird little smirk, not the stripes.

 

[Cyrus]

Why? Are you trying to appeal to 12-year-olds?

http://blogs.iht.com/tribtalk/travel/globespotters/images/uploads/waxmuseum.jpg

Do these guys think they are going to go faster because they have stripes? Or what?

Grow up buddy. Whats with the attitude?

 

[binzing]

In the second pic, are those mannequins? (sp?)

 

[Poop-Loops]

The progression went like this:

1. You talking about stripes on shirts.
2. Me saying stripes look ridiculous.
3. You calling me young apparently.
4. Me giving examples.
5. You calling me young again. (again, wtf?)

Stripes just look stupid, like a bow-tie.

 

[Poop-Loops]

In the second pic, are those mannequins? (sp?)

Taken from the wax museum, apparently.