a function s is "little oh" if the limit of |s(x)|/|x| is zero as x-->0. then the derivative at a of a function f is a linear function L such that (f(a+x) -f(a) - L(x)) is little oh as a function of x. so just prove that the only little oh and linear function is zero. that does it by subtraction.
oh yes, and it is possible the reason you are confused is that you are reading the worst book in the world for understanding. For this particular topic I suggest you try (pages 138 and 142 of) Loomis and Sternberg: Advanced Calculus, (free on Sternberg's website).
Or Spivak, Calculus on manifolds, page 16, or Dieudonne': Foundations of modern analysis page 143, or Lang, Analysis I, pages 302-303. or Fleming: Functions of several variables (corollary of) Prop. 12, page 156.
Best to do the proof yourself as suggested above.