dpa said:
My silly question is why do we expect QM to follow relativity? I don't know, but is it solely because we are chasing a fantasy where all forces unite and unification of QM and GR is the only way that is apparent to us?
QM is not as incompatible with SR as you might think. Kaiser writes [1], p. 706,
"For had we begun with Newtonian spacetime, we would have the Galilean group instead of the [restricted Poincaré group]. Since Galilean boosts commute with spatial translations (time being absolute), the brackets between the corresponding generators vanish, hence no canonical commutation relations (CCR)! In the [c→∞ limit of the Poincaré algebra],
the CCR are a remnant of relativistic invariance where, due to the nonabsolute nature of simultaneity, spatial translations do not commute with pure Lorentz transformations." (Italics in original).
Bohr and Ulfbeck also realized that the “Galilean transformation in the weakly relativistic regime” ([2], Sect. D of part N, p. 28) is needed to construct a position operator for QM, and this transformation “includes the departure from simultaneity, which is part of relativistic invariance.” Specifically, they note that the commutator between a “weakly relativistic” boost and a spatial translation results in “a time displacement,” which is crucial to the relativity of simultaneity. Thus they write [2], p. 24,
“For ourselves, an important point that had for long been an obstacle, was the realization that the position of a particle, which is a basic element of nonrelativistic quantum mechanics, requires the link between space and time of relativistic invariance.”
So, the essence of non-relativistic quantum mechanics—its canonical commutation relations—is entailed by the relativity of simultaneity. Harvey Brown called this "the footprint of relativity" (private conversation). The corresponding transformations leaving the Schrodinger dynamics invariant are not Lorentz, but they do contain relativity of simultaneity, so they're not Galilean either [3].
1. Kaiser, G.: J. Math. Phys. 22, 705–714 (1981)
2. Bohr, A., Ulfbeck, O.: Rev. Mod. Phys. 67, 1–35 (1995)
3. Stuckey, W.M., et al: Found. Phys. 38, No. 4, 348 – 383 (2008), see section 2. quant-ph/0510090.