You seem to understand simultaneity issues perfectly well but I get the impression you don't like them and so you feel compelled to invent a new concept called "corresponding coexisting states". Let me see if I can adequately discuss it.
Let's consider that at both ends of the rod there are clocks synchronized as you have stated and explosive devices that upon detonating, send a signal to the other one at the speed of light to detonate it also. And let's say the one on the red end detonates at its time of 3 nsecs. From then on the blue and red devices no longer coexist according to your concept (I think that's what you mean).
However, after the 3 nsec time on the blue device, it has no awareness of the fact that it no longer coexists with the red device even though in their mutual rest frame that is true. Instead, the blue device has to wait until its time of 8 nsecs to be able to see and become aware of the non-existence of the red device. But, of course, this causes the non-existence of the blue device and so from then on there are "corresponding non-existing states", correct?
Here is a spacetime diagram to show what I have just described:
Now the question is, what does this look like when we transform to another frame? First, as we did previously in this thread, we go to a frame moving at 0.6c relative to the rest frame of the rod:
Even though in this frame, the non-existence of the red device is simultaneous with the clock on the blue device reading 0, the blue device still has no awareness of this until its time of 8 nsec, just like in the rest frame. So the only legitimate thing you can say about the timing of "corresponding coexisting states" is that from the time of 3 nsecs on the red clock until the time of 8 nsecs on the blue clock, there are "unbalanced existing states" between the two devices.
What about other frames? Let's try 0.6c in the other direction:
Here we see that when the blue clock reads 3 nsecs, instead of the red device exploding, its time is 0 nsecs. The explosion doesn't occur until 6 nsecs on the blue clock and 2 nsecs later, it becomes aware of the explosion.
Let's try one more, a frame moving at -0.9 with respect to the original rest frame:
Now we see that the red device explodes just a half nanosecond before the blue device explodes according to the blue clock. In fact, we can narrow this margin as much as we want by increasing the speed. We can get to the point where they both explode at almost the same time according to the blue clock.
But still, in any frame we want to transform to, it can be said that from the time of 3 nsecs on the red clock until the time of 8 nsecs on the blue clock, there are "unbalanced existing states" between the two devices. After 8 nsecs on the blue clock, there are "corresponding non-existing states" and before 3 nsecs on the red clock there are "corresponding coexisting states".
Have I adequately summarized your concept and shown the ramifications of it? I think you should be aware that it has nothing to do with simultaneity and is nothing more than just another example of how different frames have no bearing on what any observer can see or measure. That is, in fact, the main point of transforming to different frames, they all contain exactly the same information. That is why none of them is preferred. They are all equally valid. That is also why simultaneity cannot be a real physical issue. It's just an arbitrary coordinate effect.