PeterDonis said:
Now I'm the one who is confused. Please give the mathematical expression for "proper acceleration as if the whole mass of the rod was concentrated in that point".
Take a pen and make fixed marks on the rod, the marks are ##n=1,2,...,100##. The mark ##n=1## denotes the front end, while ##n=100## denotes the back end. Now apply the force on the front end of the rode. The whole rod will move and any part of the rod with mark ##n## will have some trajectory ##x_n(t)##, where ##x## and ##t## are position and time in the inertial laboratory frame.
Now take another, more compact body, shaped like a small ball, rather than a rod. Let this ball have the same mass as the rod, and apply the same force on it. It will have some trajectory ##x_{\rm ball}(t)##.
Now, since the force is applied to the front end of the rod, in the approximation of Born rigidity I claim that
$$x_1(t)=x_{\rm ball}(t)$$
For any trajectory ##x(t)## I'm sure you know how to calculate the proper acceleration ##a(t)##, so the equality above implies
$$a_1(t)=a_{\rm ball}(t)$$
In fact, if the force is constant, the proper accelerations ##a_n(t)## and ##a_{\rm ball}(t)## do not depend on ##t##. But ##a_n## depends on ##n##, that's what I mean by the statement that different parts of the rod have different proper accelerations.
Is it clear now?